Kimberley Walsh And Other Celebrities Reveal Heartache Over Their Struggle To Breastfeed

Struggling To Breastfeed? You're Not Alone
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Kimberley Walsh has opened up about how she struggled to breastfeed her son Bobby.

The 33-year-old singer said before she gave birth she assumed breastfeeding would be easy and something that happened naturally.

"It was so hard. It became stressful because I really wanted to try and breastfeed him, me and Justin were up every hour of the night," she admitted to Tess Daley during an exclusive interview as part of the AOL Original series, Being Mum.

"We would squeeze out the tiniest little bit of colostrum, syringing it into his mouth, just to try and give him what he needs.

"I think there is so much pressure on women, breastfeed, breastfeed, breastfeed. I just didn't want to feel like I’d given up."

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Walsh said the moment Bobby, now 11 months, first latched on, she burst into tears.

She said: "I cried for about an hour, it was just emotional, like my whole family were crying with me, it was like why can't you just do it... and I just thought, this boy is going to be hard work, he’s a tricky customer."

Walsh's story isn't unusual, many mothers find it hard to breastfeed their babies.

Geraldine Miskin, certified breastfeeding specialist at The Baby Show and founder of Breastfeeding Experience has spoken to lots of women who struggle.

She told HuffPost UK Parents: "Having worked with thousands of mums who contact me to help resolve their breastfeeding problems, I can assure everyone that breastfeeding may come naturally for some, but not for all.

"Most mums and babies learn on the job and as it is the baby who has to latch and suckle, you need to remember that breastfeeding is team work and together you’ll get it right.

"Your labour and birth, baby’s position in the womb, your anatomy and baby’s mouth and oral cavity all influence breastfeeding outcomes."

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Miskin shared some of the tips she gives to women who are struggling to breastfeed.

1. Remember any new skill takes a little time and practise to master. When learning to breastfeed, you have two novices each learning a new skill at the same time, so be patient for the both of you.

2. Getting breastfeeding right doesn’t have a expiry date and there are many routes to successful breastfeeding. If you and your baby take the scenic route via top ups and nipple shields, don’t fret about about it. A little detour from 'au natural' or top up in the beginning is better than no breastfeeding in the end.

3. Only work with one person and follow their advice so that you don’t get conflicting and confusing information when you are feeling tired and vulnerable.

4. When positioning and latching your baby onto your breast, take your unique anatomy into consideration. Your breast size determines how high or low baby needs to be and whether or not you need a breastfeeding cushion or similar support. Your ‘angle of dangle’ determines whether your baby will come directly onto the breast or whether your baby needs to come underneath a little, so that both cheeks touch the breast throughout the feed.

5. Aim for an off-centre latch with baby’s lower lip away from the nipple base and baby’s top lip right next to the nipple. If it hurts, it’s not right! If it feels good, it is.

6. The shape of your nipple at the end of the feed tells you where your baby’s lower lip was when he or she latched. If your nipple tip is pinched, baby’s lower lip was too close when latching. If your nipple tip is round, baby’s lower lip was away from the base of the nipple where it should be.

Here are some other celebrities who have spoken out about their own breastfeeding journeys.

Nicole Trunfio

The 29-year-old supermodel gave birth to her first child Zion Rain in January 2015 and was famously captured breastfeeding on the front cover of Elle magazine.

Trunfio opened up about struggling to breastfeed in the interview.

She told ELLE Australia: "'I know breastfeeding can be challenging, especially in the beginning.

"I almost stopped because it was so painful, but I am so glad I pushed through. There is nothing better than the bond my child and I share during these moments. And knowing I can provide for him, makes me a happy mother."

Kym Marsh

The actress admitted in an interview with OK! Magazine she had to stop breastfeeding her daughter, Polly, now four, earlier than she would have chosen to.

She said: "I did breastfeed for as long as I could, but I wasn’t making enough milk for her.

"I was advised by Polly's consultant to give formula milk."

The actress felt she had to explain herself on Twitter after people hit back and branded her "lazy" for not continuing to breastfeed, according to Digital Spy.

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Una Healey

Una Healey has two children - Aoife, three, and Tadhg, five months, with husband Ben Foden.

The Saturdays singer told Hello! Magazine: "The day my milk came in I couldn’t get Tadhg to latch on.

"I had a bit of a meltdown, sobbing, ‘It’s only been three days, I feel like such a failure.’ But I got a breast pump and expressed three ounces. The relief was incredible."

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Katie Piper

TV presenter and former model, Katie Piper, gave birth to her first child Belle in March 2014.

"I was really determined to breastfeed for as long as I could," Piper told OK! magazine.

"Belle struggled to put weight on initially because I couldn’t produce enough milk.

"I was pumping, expressing, eating nutritious food, letting her suckle all day but in the end I was putting so much pressure on myself I had even less milk as a result!"

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Elisa Donovan

The American actress, 44, most recognised from her role in the film Clueless, opened up about how she struggled to feed daughter Scarlett Bigelow.

She wrote on her blog on PEOPLE: "It went without saying that I would breastfeed my kid.

"I was utterly and completely unprepared for the reality that I couldn’t do it. Not only was it not working, and excruciatingly painful for me beyond anything imaginable (yes, even beyond the pain of labour), I also realised that (wait for it, this is gonna be a doozy) … I HATED IT.

"Everyone is well aware of the benefits of breastfeeding, and there is a plethora of information out there in support of it. Yet there is zero info on what to do if you are one of those women who can’t — or who chooses not to."

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Ricki Lake

The 46-year-old TV host said in an exclusive interview with The Stir: "For me, I had to have a a breast reduction in my early 20s and at that time I couldn't even fathom having children.

"I was able to breastfeed but not solely, I had to supplement. I had to have a lactation specialist come to my home and help me. I could afford one, but it was not easy for me.

"I remember feeling disappointed, like my body failed me in some way. It was hard for me. With my second son in 2001, I had donated breast milk from people sent to me in weekly jars."

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Courtney Cox

Known for her role in Friends, actress Courteney Cox chatted with the Daily Record about feeding Coco, now 11, her daughter with David Arquette.

She said: "Breastfeeding is undoubtedly the best thing you can do for your baby.

"It took a lot of persevering through the weeks because my daughter didn’t latch on properly and it really hurt, but I’m happy I stayed with it because not only do I have a special bond with my child, but it’s easy now and is also extremely healthy."

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Molly Sims

American actress Molly Sims told Baby Centre: "When Brooks was born, my milk never came in, and I tried to breastfeed for three months.

"I felt awful and ashamed. I wanted to breastfeed because it’s so good for the baby, so I worked with a lactation specialist. After three months, she said, ‘You’re done. You don’t have any milk.’ I’ll try breastfeeding again, but if it doesn’t work, I won’t push it."

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Breastfeeding Moments In Hollywood
Jessica Alba(01 of36)
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In a July 2015 interview with Yahoo Parenting, the actress explained that the feeding line at her company Honest Co. supports both breastfeeding and formula feeding parents. “The overall community online was either one or the other. And a lot of my friends did both," Alba said. "So I wanted to develop a real dialogue, and create a line that’s for everyone. So whether you want to breastfeed, or whether you want to supplement feed, we’re going to give you the best in both areas.”In her book, The Honest Life, she shared her personal breastfeeding journey, writing, “I breastfed as long as I could, but not as long as I wanted. I had to get back to work, and I wasn’t able to keep it going.” (credit:Getty)
Blake Lively(02 of36)
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Lively posted an Instagram photo of herself nursing her daughter James, along with the caption: “The PERKS of breastfeeding. #YesThatsRiceInMyHair #BlondevsBronde #BrondeJamesBronde.” (credit:Blake Lively/Instagram)
Nicole Trunfio(03 of36)
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After model Nicole Trunfio brought her newborn baby son to for her Elle Australia photo shoot, a picture of her breastfeeding him landed on the cover. She later posted a candid nursing photo on Instagram. (credit:Elle)
Doutzen Kroes(04 of36)
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Dutch model Doutzen Kroes appeared on the March 2015 cover of Vogue Netherlands with her kids, who also appeared in a photo shoot for the magazine. Posing in a bed with her husband DJ Sunnery James and 4-year-old son Phyllon, Kroes breastfed her 5-month-old daughter Myllena in a one shot. (credit:Vogue Netherlands)
Mila Kunis(05 of36)
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"Breastfeeding is like working out," Kunis said during an appearance on "Jimmy Kimmel Live."Speaking with E! Online, she talked about how motherhood and breastfeeding has changed her body. "Let me tell you, having a baby and breastfeeding -- nothing fits in these dresses anymore," she said, cupping her breasts. (credit:Getty)
Molly Sims(06 of36)
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Supermodel Molly Sims opened up about her struggles with breastfeeding her first child in an interview with Fit Pregnancy for her February/March cover issue. “When Brooks was born, my milk never came in, and I tried to breastfeed for three months,” she said. “I felt awful and ashamed." "I wanted to breastfeed because it’s so good for the baby, so I worked with a lactation specialist," Sims continued. "After three months, she said, ‘You’re done. You don’t have any milk.’ I’ll try breastfeeding again, but if it doesn’t work, I won’t push it.” (credit:Fit Pregnancy)
Alyssa Milano(07 of36)
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Milano made headlines in fall 2014 when she posted two different photos of herself breastfeeding her daughter Elizabella. This past April, she tweeted about an incident at a London airport when she was not permitted to bring her pumped breast milk through security. (credit:Alyssa Milano/Facebook)
Olivia Wilde(08 of36)
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In the September 2014 issue of Glamour, Olivia Wilde talked about her experience breastfeeding her 4-month-old son Otis. Accompanying the interview was a stunning image of her nursing him. (credit:Glamour)
Gwen Stefani(09 of36)
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Stefani was still breastfeeding son, Kingston, when she went on tour in 2007. She told The Guardian, "I don't know when I'm going to stop breastfeeding... I'll just keep going while I can -- like, he's getting his teeth so it is a little bit scary. He's bitten me a few times!"In 2014, she posted a beautiful Instagram photo of herself feeding her son Apollo in Switzerland. (credit:Gwen Stefani/Instagram)
Natalia Vodianova(10 of36)
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Natalia Vodianova, a Russian model notable for her work with Calvin Klein, debuted her son Maxim to the world with a stunning breastfeeding photo. (credit:Natalia Vodianova/Instagram)
Jaime King(11 of36)
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Jaime King posted a photo of herself nursing her son James on Instagram, along with this caption: "#JamesKnight is now 8 months old! These are the moments a mother lives for. Breastfeeding should not be taboo- and bottle feeding should not be judged- it's ALL fun for the whole family:)"When her second son was born in July, she shared another sweet breastfeeding photo on Instagram. (credit:Jaime King/Instagram)
Kristen Bell(12 of36)
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When Kristen Bell hosted the 2014 CMT Awards, she gave her Twitter followers a glimpse into her "new backstage beauty routine" -- a breast pump. (credit:Kristen Bell/Twitter)
Penelope Cruz(13 of36)
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In an interview with Allure, Penelope Cruz spoke openly about nursing her children. "I was breast-feeding my son 13 months, and I plan to do the same with my daughter. [Nursing] is addictive. It's hard when the day comes when you have to stop."She also pointed out one of the perks of breastfeeding. "I'm supposed to get extra calories because breastfeeding you burn, like, an extra 500 a day." (credit:Getty)
Gisele Bundchen(14 of36)
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In 2010, Bundchen declared there should be a "worldwide law" requiring new mothers to breastfeed for six months after they give birth. Many critics were unhappy with her statement, and she eventually clarified by writing on her blog: "My intention in making a comment about the importance of breastfeeding has nothing to do with the law. It comes from my passion and beliefs about children."In 2013, the model Instagrammed a "multitasking" photo of herself breastfeeding her daughter while having her hair, makeup, and nails done. (credit:Gisele Bundchen/Instagram)
Pink(15 of36)
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During an album photo shoot in 2012, Pink shared a photo of herself nursing baby Willow Sage on Instagram and Twitter. The next year, her husband Carey Hart posted an Instagram photo of his wife breastfeeding their daughter at a restaurant in Paris.And according to Baby Center, in a tweet about the famous TIME article on attachment parenting, the singer wrote, “It’s time we support what’s healthy (breastfeeding) instead of judge it.” (credit:Pink/Twitter)
Alanis Morissette (16 of36)
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The singer expressed her pro-attachement parenting beliefs in 2012 and said, "I breastfeed and I'll be breastfeeding until my son is finished and he weans," on "The Billy Bush Show." (credit:Getty)
Hilary Duff(17 of36)
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In 2012, Hilary Duff confirmed in an interview with Us Weekly that she chose to nurse her son Luca. "I'm breastfeeding now so that's a really wonderful experience -- challenging but wonderful," (credit:Getty)
Selma Blair(18 of36)
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In an interview with People Magazine, actress Selma Blair spoke openly about breastfeeding her son Arthur in public. "We all have nipples," she said. "I don’t care who I offend; my baby wants to eat. If I can’t get a cover over me quick enough, so be it." (credit:Getty)
Alicia Silverstone(19 of36)
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Alicia Silverstone -- whose pre-mastication video thrust her baby-feeding philosophy into the public spotlight -- was once photographed breastfeeding Bear Blu while walking. (credit:Getty)
Beyonce (20 of36)
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Beyonce was spotted breastfeeding Blue Ivy in New York City while dining out with husband, Jay-Z in 2012. (credit:Getty)
Tori Spelling(21 of36)
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In November 2011, Spelling's husband, Dean McDermott tweeted a photo of his son, Liam, who was 4 at the time, which showed Spelling's breasts in the background."I am a mom, I was nursing my baby... [Dean] was so devasted about it that I couldn't be mad. I mean it was genuinely an accident," Spelling told CNN about the incident. (credit:Tori Spelling/Twitter)
Mayim Bialik(22 of36)
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Actress Mayim Bialik blogged on kveller.com in September 2011 about starting to wean her 3-year-old son Fred. The post included a highly publicized photo of Bialik breastfeeding Fred on the New York City subway. In her book, "Beyond The Sling," she wrote that he still nursed about five times a day at that age, and later told CNN "it is still a tremendous source of discipline, and of bonding, that occurs between a mother and a child." (credit:kveller.com)
Kourtney Kardashian(23 of36)
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Kourtney K. quit breastfeeding son, Mason, when he was 14 months old. "I think I stopped early because my sisters were like 'OK, it's time, it's time,'" she said on the "Today" show. "I miss it, I loved it." (credit:Getty)
Kendra Wilkinson(24 of36)
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Wilkinson once told Baby Zone an outrageous story about the first party she went to after giving birth to baby Hank:"I went to Eve nightclub in Vegas and my boobs started leaking. I couldn't do anything so I breastfed myself [laughs]. And it tasted sweet, too!" (credit:Getty)
Miranda Kerr(25 of36)
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Shortly after giving birth to her son, Flynn, Kerr posted a photo on her blog that husband Orlando took of her nursing. A few months later, she shared a photo on Twitter of herself breastfeeding while on the job. (credit:Miranda Kerr/Twitter)
Julie Bowen(26 of36)
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Back in 2010, "Modern Family" star Julie Bowen showed "Lopez Tonight" viewers a photo of the way she nursed her twin boys -- breastfeeding both babies at the same time."It's like two little liposuction machines on you," she said. "They suck the fat out of you. They call it the 'double football hold.' You hold one here, and here [gesturing to her breasts], like two footballs ... They're doing God's work right there, helping me return to my birth weight." (credit:Supergoatsack/Twitter)
Rebecca Romijn(27 of36)
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In 2009, Romijn told Extra!, "Breastfeeding is the very best diet I've been on. It's amazing." (credit:Getty)
Naomi Watts(28 of36)
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Watts told PEOPLE magazine in 2009 that breastfeeding was how she lost weight. "He's sucking it all out of me, it seems," she said. (credit:Getty)
Salma Hayek(29 of36)
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Salma Hayek breastfed a newborn baby boy in Africa whose mother had no milk in 2009. Hayek was weaning her own daughter, Valentina, at the time, but still had milk to donate. (credit:YouTube)
Angelina Jolie(30 of36)
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The November 2008 cover of W magazinefeatured Jolie nursing.
Christina Aguilera(31 of36)
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Five weeks after giving birth to son, Max, Aguilera went on The Ellen Show wearing a low cut, revealing dress that prompted the talk show host to ask, "Are you nursing?" (credit:Getty)
Elisabeth Hasselbeck(32 of36)
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In 2008, Hasselback demonstrated how to use a breast pump on "The View" -- she was nursing her son, Taylor, at the time. (credit:Getty)
Maggie Gyllenhaal(33 of36)
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Gyllenhaal was photographed by the paparazzi in 2007 nursing her daughter, Ramona, during a walk by the Hudson River. (credit:Getty)
Jennifer Garner(34 of36)
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In the the April 2007 issue Garner told Allure Magazine: "All I ever heard was everyone bitch about [nursing] -- nobody ever said, 'You are not going to believe how emotional this is.' It's like, I'll say I'm going to stop, and then I'm in there, feeding her." (credit:Getty)
Kate Beckinsale(35 of36)
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Kate Beckinsale told Jay Leno in 2006 that she missed breastfeeding her daughter and that "she was very good at it." (credit:Getty)
Gwyneth Paltrow(36 of36)
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When Gwyneth Paltrow was nursing her second child in 2006, she told Harper's Bazaar, "I stay healthy by working out but not dieting, because I am a milk machine." (credit:Getty)