Most Common Last Words From People Dying Are About Love And Family, Survey Finds

The Most Common Things People Say Before They Die
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From Sir Winston Churchill's “I’m bored with it all" to Margaret Sanger's "let's have a party", history books are full of reported famous last words from prominent figures.

But among us regular folk, the words we choose to say before we die are a little more sentimental.

According to a survey of 2,198 adults who have lost a loved one in the past year, the most common deathbed conversations involve the imparting of relationship and career advice.

The survey, carried out by Perfect Choice Funerals, found that 83% of people had been given parting words of wisdom by loved ones before they died.

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A total of 62% of those surveyed said that conversations included relationship advice. Over half (56%) said they had discussed their career while 43% were given guidance on family life.

Education and finances were also popular choices of topic, experienced by 32% and 39% respectively.

When respondents were asked why they thought loved ones had imparted advice, the most popular answer, chosen by 29% of respondents, was that they thought the friend or family member had wanted them to be happy.

But not everyone looked back at deathbed conversations with such warm memories.

An unlucky 6% of respondents said they believed they had been given advice by a dying relative as a way of "teaching them a lesson".

Ouch.

Grandparents' Best Marriage Advice
1. Keep up the PDA (01 of15)
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"I've never seen a photo of my grandparents where they weren't embracing -- whether it was when they were dating, had five kids under age 8, or just before my grandfather died of cancer. I couldn't wait to grow up and have what they had with someone. They were a real life fairy tale." - Cari Watts-Savage (credit:Courtesy of Cari Watts-Savage )
2. You don't have to agree on everything(02 of15)
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"My grandparents were married for 65 years until my grandma passed away last summer. Opposite religions, opposite politics and they still made it work. I have a lot to live up to!" - Clare Dych (credit:Courtesy of Clare Dych)
3. Age ain't nothin' but a number (03 of15)
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"I asked my grandma why she married my grandpa who she only dated for one year when she was 18 and he was 31. She answered me, 'Why not? He was hot back then!' My grandparents weren't the lovey-dovey type and actually distant, I think, due to the 13-year age gap. But they didn't bail, they're faithful, they kept each other for better or worse, in sickness and health, through thick and thin." - Tze Tonn Ng (credit:Courtesy of Tze Tonn Ng)
4. You can do anything if you do it together(04 of15)
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"After 40 years of smoking five packs of cigarettes a day together, they decided to quit with no outside help. And they did. Together." - Michelle Brown (credit:Michelle Brown)
5. Marriage is not something to be taken lightly (05 of15)
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"When I got married, my grandmother and grandfather had been married some 68 years. My grandmother gave me her blessings and told me that if I got married, I had to stay married and it was a lifetime commitment." - Leslie Johnson (credit:Terry & Leslie Johnson)
6. Be with someone who makes you laugh(06 of15)
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"My grandparents were always teasing each other. We all got such a kick out of it growing up, hanging out in their kitchen and listening to them when we were over there for dinner. But it also showed us how important it is to be with someone that you'll have fun with, no matter what life may throw at you." - Kristen Girone (credit:Courtesy of Kristen Girone)
7. Never stop flirting with each other(07 of15)
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"Pinch butts." - Sarah Hosseini (credit:Courtesy of Sarah Hosseini)
8. Your roles may shift in ways you never imagined (08 of15)
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"My grandparents very much conformed to regular gender roles my entire childhood, but when my grandmom got sick, it was amazing to see my granddad taking care of her and cooking and cleaning. They really proved to me that true love lasts a lifetime and that marriage can last 'until death do you part.'" - Carrie Burke (credit:Courtesy of Carrie Burke)
9. Always kiss hello and goodbye(09 of15)
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"My maternal grandparents always kiss and say 'I love you' before they leave and it's the first thing they do when they come together again -- whether it's a run to the grocery store or a full day's work." - J. Williams (credit:Courtesy of J. Williams )
10. You never know who you'll fall in love with (10 of15)
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"I learned that love is unexpected, and anyone can fall in love, even if the relationship is shunned by society. Their love was somewhat reminiscent of Romeo and Juliet in the sense that they were both on different sides of society, but fell in love and had to keep their relationship secret at first." - Carter Garcia-Kimura (credit:Courtesy of Carter Garcia-Kimura )
11. Find joy in the little things (11 of15)
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"They found joy in sharing the details of daily living. Always smiling, even when doing the weekly budget or grandma peeling a banana for grandpa because she knew he didn't like the feel of it." - Kristen Van Orden (credit:Courtesy of Kristen Van Orden)
12. Not every day is going to be a picnic and that's OK(12 of15)
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"You don't have to like each other every day." - Nicole Snyder (credit:Courtesy of Nicole Snyder)
13. It takes two people to make a marriage work(13 of15)
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"They divorced after three kids and nearly 40 years of marriage, but my grandmother has always told me: A relationship will never work unless [both people] want it to." - Mina Barnett (credit:Mina Barnett)
14. Sometimes your first love isn't your forever love(14 of15)
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"You might not get things right the first time, but you can't give up because it could be the second time that you find true happiness. My grandparents have been together for 25 years and although my grandpa is not my biological one, he is the best thing to happen to our family and I could not love him more." - Natasha Baker-Streit (credit:Gabriel Harber Photography)
15. Never stop doing the things you love together (15 of15)
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"They share a sense of humor and make it a priority to do things they enjoy together, even though that has become harder for them with age." - Theresa Kelliher (credit:Courtesy of Theresa Kelliher)