'We Help And Support Each Other': This Social Networking Site Helps Thousands To Break Out Of Isolation And Depression

Depression Sufferers Open Up About The Social Networking Site Made Specifically For Them
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When depression takes hold, those caught in its grips can feel increasingly isolated.

The mental health condition is not uncommon - in fact, roughly 8-12% of the population will experience depression in any given year - so it's safe to say that it was only a matter of time before somebody took the initiative to set up a social media site connecting sufferers.

Taking what could be considered a negative and making something incredibly positive from it, Friends In Need (FIN) was born.

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The idea behind FIN is that people with depression can join the online community and use their experiences of mental health to help one another through difficult times - often by reducing their feelings of isolation.

Carol, 54, joined the network after becoming increasingly lonely. Speaking to HuffPost UK Lifestyle, she reveals that joining the community has been something of a journey for her.

When she joined FIN, Carol says that she was "relieved to find others who had experienced, and were experiencing, a lot of the things I had myself".

FIN prides itself on being a "supportive community for anyone affected by depression". People can sign-up for free and connect with others online based on their shared interests (kind of like online dating, but building supportive friendships instead).

To make it a less isolated experience - because, let's face it, being sat behind your computer screen all day isn't the greatest way to curb loneliness - users can then attend or set up their own local meetings.

Before joining FIN, Carol would spend her weekends sleeping in, sitting around the house, doing chores or briefly catching up with friends. Her dwindling social life made her unhappy and she began to compare herself to others, which made things ten times worse: "I was constantly hearing about other people's holidays, what they'd done to their houses, how well their kids were doing.

"I felt I was failing on quite a number of levels."

To combat her loneliness, Carol set up the ‘Liverpool Libs’ group in the hope that she would meet like-minded people who she could talk to about her experiences. People who could relate.

The Liverpool Libs now meet once a week - usually on Saturdays between 11am and 4pm. Typically, the group will catch up over coffee, go to the theatre, visit a restaurant or even attend mindfulness classes.

"We don't need to impress each other, we try to be non-judgmental of ourselves and others," says Carol. "We talk about depression and anxiety 'issues' but also have a laugh and a joke."

The FIN network, which was launched by mental health charity Depression Alliance, has over 12,000 members and, so far, appears to be having a positive impact.

Caroline, who is another member of the Liverpool Libs, says that the relationships she's built through FIN have been invaluable to her: "The meet-ups have been very important for me. I’ve had problems with anxiety, particularly social anxiety since adolescence.

"Although I’ve had great opportunities in life, social anxiety has held me back, I’ve always struggled to trust people and develop and maintain friendships and relationships in general which has had a knock-on effect on both my personal and working life."

She adds that socialising in groups was also something she'd come to avoid "like the plague", especially as she aged. Despite trying to meet new people through different social groups - she tried walking groups and evening classes - her shyness always seemed to get in the way.

"With Libs it’s so refreshing for me to finally feel part of a group where I feel included and valued and I can just be myself - moods included," Caroline adds.

"We help and support each other, which gives us a firm base of support to take with us into our daily lives."

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The Facts About Depression Symptoms
Negative Feelings (01 of15)
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Do you have persistent feelings of sadness or hopelessness that have lingered for at least two weeks and occur throughout the day, every day or nearly every day? Are these feelings interfering with school or work, or your relationships? This is a key symptom of clinical depression. We all have negative thoughts from time to time, and it’s natural to be sad when there is a serious event in our lives, like a death. The difference with clinical depression is that the feelings stick around and interfere with your ability to live your life day to day. (credit:Shuji Kobayashi via Getty Images)
Fatigue(02 of15)
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Many people with depression find it difficult to get out of bed — and we're not just talking about hitting the snooze button. For some, getting up seems nearly impossible. They may also find themselves spending unusual amounts of time in bed throughout the day, or having trouble with normal activities because of fatigue. (credit:digitalskillet via Getty Images)
Changes In Sleeping Patterns (03 of15)
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As tired as you may be, if you’re depressed you might also have trouble sleeping. Marked changes in sleeping patterns, like insomnia or increased time spent sleeping, is another symptom of clinical depression. (credit:Casarsa via Getty Images)
Changes In Appetite (04 of15)
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Some people either gain or lose weight when they have clinical depression because of their change in appetite. For some, this means an increase in appetite and possibly weight gain as a result. Others lose their appetite and struggle to eat much at all. In either case, a significant change is worth investigating. (credit:Sami Sarkis via Getty Images)
Loss Of Interest In Fun Activities (05 of15)
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We all have times when we feel a bit more introverted than usual, but when people have clinical depression, they can lose the sense of pleasure they used to get from their favourite activities or from engaging with others. This isolation can make it harder for friends and loved ones to see the other symptoms of depression a person may be exhibiting, which makes it more difficult to know when a person needs help. (credit:David Ryle via Getty Images)
Difficulty Concentrating (06 of15)
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It’s more often thought of as a symptom of ADHD, but an inability to concentrate or hold focus on one’s activities can be a sign of clinical depression. Of course, if someone with clinical depression is also having trouble sleeping, not eating well or has lost interest in regular activities, this symptom can be amplified. (credit:kieferpix via Getty Images)
Suicidal Thoughts (07 of15)
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This is the most serious symptom of depression, says Dr. Joe Taravella, a psychologist and the supervisor of Rusk’s Pediatric Psychology Service at NYU-Langone Medical Center in New York. “When you’re severely depressed, suicidal thoughts can become so prominent, you begin to make a plan for ending your life, as you feel there are no other options.” If you are experiencing suicidal thoughts, seek help or tell a trusted person in your life and ask for help — call your doctor, call 911, or go to an emergency room. And never assume that a person who talks about suicide won’t do it. If someone tells you they are feeling suicidal or discusses plans to end their life, always take it seriously and get help. (credit:AlexRaths via Getty Images)
Chronic Irritability (08 of15)
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“Many people don’t realize that low levels of chronic irritability and anger can mask an underlying depression,” Taravella says, “which can be undiagnosed and untreated for years.” A study released last year found that more than half of men and women who were experiencing a major depressive episode reported irritability as a symptom. Constant irritability is also a symptom of depression seen in teenagers and children, one that could be written off as normal growing pains or teenage behaviour. (credit:Thomas Barwick via Getty Images)
Physical Pain(09 of15)
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Yes, depression can literally hurt. There is increasing recognition of the physical symptoms of depression, which include headaches, stomach pain, and back pain. One study found half of patients with depression from around the world reported unexplained physical symptoms. But because these physical symptoms are often vague or have no logical explanation, they can be missed as as symptom of depression. (credit:JGI/Jamie Grill via Getty Images)
Lack Of Daily Hygiene (10 of15)
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For people with severe depression, basic tasks of self care can seem too overwhelming to undertake, Taravella says. As well, personal hygiene may seem unimportant if you are feeling hopeless or worthless. If someone in your life is showing a marked decrease in personal hygiene, don’t assume they are simply lazy. (credit:Canonzoom via Getty Images)
Memory Problems (11 of15)
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Going along with trouble with concentration, people with clinical depression often have memory issues that can add to their difficulties in maintaining day-to-day activities. “As a result of these symptoms, they are more likely to become inattentive to their environment and prone to falls and injuries,” he adds. A 2013 study found that this could be because clinical depression impairs the process of “pattern separation,” which is the ability to distinguish between things and experiences that are similar. (credit:Simon Winnall via Getty Images)
Harmful Activities (12 of15)
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Some people who show signs of depression engage in what Taravella refers to as “externalizing behaviours,” which include substance abuse and risk-taking activities. Men are more likely to do it, he says. These behaviours can be a sign of an underlying mental-health problem, particularly if they’re out of the ordinary for the individual. (credit:Daniel Grizelj via Getty Images)
If You Think You Have Symptoms Of Depression (13 of15)
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“If you recognize symptoms of depression, take action and immediately seek professional help,” Taravella advises. There are valuable resources out there, he says, including psychotherapy and antidepressants. Many people also find some relief with meditation and exercise, often in conjunction with other treatments. It can be difficult to navigate the process of finding the right help, especially if you are having trouble just getting out of bed. Try talking to a trusted friend or family member who can help you research options and even call a therapist for you. (credit:Paul Bradbury via Getty Images)
Once You Start Your Treatment(14 of15)
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It can take time for depression treatments to start making a difference, which is frustrating when you've taken the difficult step of admitting you need help. But while you work on medication and/or therapy, there are things you can do. Be as active as you can, Taravella says, and try to see friends. “Create small goals for yourself each week but don’t put a lot of pressure on yourself,” he suggests. While it can take time for depression symptoms to begin to lift, it may be worth seeking different treatment options if you are not seeing any improvement after two months. (credit:moodboard via Getty Images)
How To Help Someone With Depression (15 of15)
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“The best way to help someone who is depressed is to be a constant source of support for them,” Taravella says. This can sometimes be difficult, however, because people with depression tend to isolate themselves despite your efforts to stay in touch and/or get involved. You may also be able to help someone by making a doctor’s appointment for them. It’s a simple task to request an appointment, but for someone who is severely depressed it can seem incredibly daunting. (credit:PeopleImages.com via Getty Images)

There are, of course, limitations to the meet-ups as they can be difficult to organise - often due to lack of money or time constraints. But they've proven to be worth the fuss.

And for those who aren't heartened by the prospect of meeting up with strangers, the site itself has proven to be great for enabling people with depression to support one another through tough times.

"By staying with the site and taking time to connect with others, I have found a wealth of knowledge," says Carol. "Personally I don't like to talk to strangers on the end of a phone but the anonymity of FIN helps me cope.

"There are no magic answers for depression but the FIN Community can provide so much information on what has worked for and helped others.

"It can be hard-going sometimes as there are a lot of sad stories out there, as well as people who post who are near to the end of their tether, but in all honestly it is a relief to know there is somewhere I could go if things got too bad."