Ruby Rose And Miley Cyrus Identify As Gender Fluid, But What Exactly Does Gender Fluidity Mean?
This Is What It Means To Identify As 'Gender Fluid'
Rachel Moss— The Huffington Post UK
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After years of being stuck in a male/female binary, ideas and understanding around gender identity and traditional gender roles are finally starting to change.
First, Caitlyn Jenner opened up discussion about gender with her honest interviews on transgender issues. Now, celebrities are speaking out in order to raise awareness about another gender identity: Gender fluidity.
"Gender fluidity is not really feeling like you're at one end of the spectrum or the other. For the most part, I definitely don't identify as any gender," she said.
"I'm not a guy; I don't really feel like a woman, but obviously I was born one. So, I'm somewhere in the middle, which - in my perfect imagination - is like having the best of both sexes.
"I have a lot of characteristics that would normally be present in a guy and then less that would be present in a woman. But then sometimes I'll put on a skirt - like today."
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Rose isn't the first famous face to speak out about gender fluidity.
Actress Susan Sarandon has said she is excited for society to get rid of boxes such as "man" and "woman" so that we can "get down to the nitty-gritty of, really, what a person is". And last month, Miley Cyrus told Paper magazine that both her sexuality and gender identity are multi-faceted.
"I am literally open to every single thing that is consenting and doesn't involve an animal and everyone is of age. Everything that's legal, I'm down with," she said.
"Yo, I'm down with any adult - anyone over the age of 18 who is down to love me. I don't relate to being boy or girl, and I don't have to have my partner relate to boy or girl."
Speaking to HuffPost UK Lifestyle, a spokesperson from Stonewall explained why there may be a rise in people identifying as gender fluid.
“People come in all different shapes and sizes, with different beliefs, backgrounds, experiences, sexualities, gender identities and gender expressions," they said.
"Gender fluidity is something that a lot of people will be able to associate with and it’s great to see celebrities speaking out about their lived experiences."
The Stonewall spokesperson went on to say that the recent surge in celebrities talking about gender fluidity will help to improve public awareness about gender issues which will ultimately "enable more people to feel free to be themselves".
"We’d love to see more people – celebrities and others – come forward to share their experiences to help ensure that everyone, everywhere is accepted for who they are," they added.
One person who knows just how much celebrity discussion on gender can have a positive impact is mum and HuffPost blogger Melissa McLaren.
As the parent of a transgender 9-year-old girl, McLaren says Cyrus' recent discussions on gender fluidity have been beneficial to her daughter.
"My daughter didn't know who Hannah Montana was (we missed that by a few years) but she was very aware of who Miley Cyrus was. I wish I could have captured the grin that spread across her face when I shared the news with her.
"Though my daughter identifies strongly as a female, I have a heart for gender-fluid individuals and feel that they are desperately underrepresented and face even more barriers. I'm so happy that Miley has been open and rather candid about her wish not to be put into a binary box."
If you're still confused by gender fluidity, we'll leave you with these words from Ruby Rose: "The takeaway is that only you know who you were born to be. And you need to be free to be that person."
9 Ways Parents Can Combat Gender Stereotypes
Take Gender Out Of Your Language(01 of09)
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Try to focus less on gender differences in general, Brown said. One way is to remove gendered speech from your language as much as you can. Constantly referring to people by their sex or gender labels it to children as something that matters very much, she said, and therefore tells them that it's an important part of who they are -- perhaps more important than factors like their personality or strengths. “I try to just make it not something that really comes up much,” she advised. (credit:thebang via Getty Images)
Focus On Your Individual Child(02 of09)
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“There's a lot of individual differences among children that don't follow gender lines,” Brown said. It's far more productive to focus on the things about our children that have nothing to do with sex or gender: their likes and dislikes, strengths and weaknesses, and personality traits.“The reality is that gender is pretty irrelevant for predicting what kids are like,” she said. Moving away from a focus on what boys are like and what girls are like allows us to instead discover what is actually unique about our child. (credit:Paul Bradbury via Getty Images)
Know The Research(03 of09)
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“It's important to know the facts,” Brown said. “[Parents] should know that there's no differences whether they have boys or girls in terms of academic differences, personality, etc.” In fact, when studying infants and young children, the research shows very few inherent differences based on sex, she said. Boys tend to have a bit less inhibitory control at birth and girls tend to talk earlier, though this does even out as male and female children age.In general, Brown said, research tends to match what we know about development in general -- as in, differences that show up between boys and girls as they get older are related to how we treat male and female children differently, not due to any inherent differences between the sexes. (credit:Chris Ryan via Getty Images)
Learn About The Harms For Girls(04 of09)
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While studies show only slight differences based on sex, they do illustrate that a strong focus on gender norms can be harmful, Brown said. For girls, the negative effects can include poor body image due to the universal value placed on appearance, specifically, a very narrow definition of acceptable appearance for females.For example, Brown said, “By the time they're 12 years old more than 70 percent of girls aren't happy with how they look.” In addition, we've seen that girls stay away from careers in science and math (STEM careers) because they perceive themselves as weaker in those subjects, even when research shows that their actual abilities are the same as for boys. (credit:AE Pictures Inc. via Getty Images)
And The Harms For Boys(05 of09)
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But gender stereotypes can hurt boys too. “One of the most disturbing outcomes of stereotypes for boys is that we really tell boys that you shouldn't cry, and parents worry if they're son is very sensitive,” Brown said. Parents can focus too much on trying to avoid introversion and push assertiveness on boys who just don't fit that personality type. But studies don't show any differences between boys and girls tending towards being natural introverts, she said.At the same time as we could be preventing boys from expressing their feelings, we give them aggressive outlets like violent toys. “We shouldn't be surprised that boys grow up and don't know how to handle sadness and feelings well and show a lot more aggression,” she said. (credit:Blend Images -- KidStock via Getty Images)
Start Paying Attention Young(06 of09)
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Many new parents are surprised by how quickly the focus on gender begins. For example, have you ever tried to find a shirt with a cat on it for a boy? Somewhere along the line it was decided that pink is for girls and blue is for boys, and cats are for girls and dogs are for boys, and clothing and toys for even the youngest children often falls strictly on these arbitrary divisions. This can extend to our behaviour towards boy and girl children as well. Brown mentioned research that shows that people tend to read and speak more to female babies, using more complicated vocabulary, and other studies show that the number and quality of words young children hear can affect their educational success later. (credit:Image taken by Mayte Torres via Getty Images)
Think Traits, Not Sex(07 of09)
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Toys are not just fun for kids; they're also a learning tool. When selecting playthings for your child, break away from thinking in terms of gender or a particular section of the toy store. Instead, choose toys that foster traits you want to encourage in your children, or help them learn particular skills you value.Do you want your child to be nurturing and empathetic? Then provide baby dolls, for boys and girls. Lego and blocks help all children develop spatial skills, and ball play improves hand-eye coordination whether your child is male or female. “We want to make sure we teach the traits that are important,” Brown said, “not the toys that fit ‘their’ half of the toy store.” (credit:Jade and Bertrand Maitre via Getty Images)
Get Family On Board(08 of09)
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Are you working on busting gender stereotypes in your own home only to feel undermined when grandma or grandpa says that dolls are only for little girls, or that all boys like to play rough? It can be tricky to get family members on board, but it's worth trying. This will ensure your children are hearing messages that matter to you and to make your family values clear.Brown said that a discussion can often avoid problems. Even if your parents or in-laws don't agree with your decision to keep your children from playing with guns or fashion dolls, they may still respect it. Barring that, she suggested, there's always the donation bin at your local thrift store. “I think it's alright to say ‘These are my kids, and I can decide what they have and how they dress,’” she said. (credit:Sam Edwards via Getty Images)
Correct The Stereotypes(09 of09)
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“Kids about three years old start to believe gender stereotypes,” Brown said. That's why it's important to consistently correct stereotypes about gender and sex when your child hears them or uses them, even if they seem harmless or silly.But it doesn't need to be a lecture or something that requires a deep discussion each time. For example, you can say things like, “Boys and girls both like to play with trucks. Your friend Jenny likes trucks a lot, doesn't she?” The key factor is making those corrections every time you hear a stereotype, Brown said, providing your children with the language they need to do it on their own when they're older and coming across stereotypes in the media or outside their homes. (credit:images by Tang Ming Tung via Getty Images)