Fifty Shades Of Grey: Erotic Novel Sparks Increase In Extramarital Bondage
Bondage Is On The Up (But Only If You’re Having An Affair…)
Kyrsty Hazell— The Huffington Post UK
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Recent research has discovered a growing trend of Fifty Shades Of Grey fans who are turning to bondage to get their kicks – just like in the book.
The erotic novel everyone has been talking about (unless you’ve been living under a rock the last month) has smashed records and is now making its way into our bedrooms.
But although Fifty Shades Of Grey features monogamous (yet kinky) sex between two lovers, the emerging trend isn’t exactly the same.
This is because the thrill seekers getting busy with blindfolds, whips and handcuffs are married... to someone who isn’t acting out their ‘submissive’ fantasy.
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Bedroom bondage is on the up... but among those who are cheating
Extramarital affairs dating site, Ashley Madison.com (whose moto is: ‘Life is Short. Have an Affair’) has discovered a 50% boost in members confessing to indulging in bondage role play with their lovers (not husbands or wives) after reading the book.
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“With 82% of our members admitting to feeling more sexually adventurous as a result of reading the novel, it is no surprise that they are now emulating scenes that pulse through the book’s erotic pages.”
According to AshleyMadison.com, 62% of all new members interested in trying bondage, admitted to signing up because they fear that their spouse would be shocked if they suggested bondage.
Therefore, it is no surprise that the sudden popularity in sadomasochism is being played out behind discreet bedrooms doors, says founder Noel Biderman.
“Our members tend to be more adventurous with their affair partners – many have been suffering in a sexual rut with a long term spouse and the book has prompted them to discard their inhibitions. As such it is no wonder that bondage is taking off in a big way,” Biderman told HuffPost Lifestyle.
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We Predict A Sell-Out
Fifty Shades Of... Props(01 of06)
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Although sales of soft rope have reportedly shot up in the US, we've selected other household items that might sell-out, as couples spice up their love life - Fifty Shades style... (credit:Alamy)
Cable Ties(02 of06)
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Anastasia spends a lot of time 'tied up' in Christian. However, although 'Fifty Shades' mainly uses handcuffs and his grey tie to do the deed - could cable ties be the next bondage prop du jour?Which part of the book? "He takes out his silver-grey woven tie that leaves small impressions of its weave on my skin... I'm tied to my bed, and I'm so aroused." (credit:Alamy)
Wooden Dowel (03 of06)
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Christian tested Ana's 'hard limit' by spanking her with a flogger. However, they made up again and spanking was back on the menu - just on her terms... Perhaps a DIY wooden dowel would satisfy a bondage beginner's curiousity?Which part of the book? "He gently trails his palm across my behind again before continuing my spanking. I surrender myself to the rhythm of blows, absorbing each one, savoring each one..." (credit:Alamy)
Pegs (04 of06)
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During the trilogy, Ana experiments with nipple clamps. Would Fifty fans dare to try clothes pegs as a DIY alternative?Which part of the book? "These clamps are vicious.' He prods the nipple clamps. 'We'll use these ...They're adjustable." (credit:Alamy)
Ice Cream Scooper(05 of06)
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The couple's sadomasochistic antics weren't restricted to sex toys - they also experimented with food. Ice cream anyone?Which part of the book? "Christian trails a spoonful of ice cream down the center of my body, across my stomach, and into my navel..." (credit:Alamy)
Masking Tape(06 of06)
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The kinky couple regularly use blindfolds during their steamy sessions Will Fifty fans ramp it up and use masking tape to cover their lover's eyes?Which part of the book? "I Close My Eyes, Feeling the Build Up...Pushing Me Higher, Higher To The Castle In The Air" (credit:Alamy)
"Bondage covers a very wide spectrum of sex acts, and can mean something different to every person," adds Rochelle Peachey, couples counsellor, author and founder of transatlantic dating site I Love Your Accent.
"Bondage isn't all whips, dungeons and medieval torture."
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Bondage For Beginners
Bondage For Beginners (01 of06)
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"Bondage" covers a very wide spectrum of sex acts, and can mean something different to every person," says Rochelle Peachey, couples counsellor, author and founder of transatlantic dating site I Love Your Accent Is it being blindfolded and maybe tying your wrists with silk scarves or something way more elaborate? Or something you would like to add to your sex life or is this something you like to do all the time? Whatever it is, as long as you both agree on the boundaries, anything goes. Bondage isn't all whips, dungeons and medieval torture but make no mistake they do play a huge part for many." (credit:Alamy)
Make Your Own Rules(02 of06)
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"There are no rules to follow, you make the rues together," says Rochelle Peachey. "Create a special word in case it gets too much for you, something sexier than screaming "get off me". (credit:Alamy)
Be Sober(03 of06)
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"Although it's often more tempting to play sex games when you're feeling a bit tipsy, it's best not to try bondage when you're under the influence of drink or drugs, as you might misjudge how tightly to tie the knots or, as the restrained person, be unable to establish your comfort levels in an accurate way," says Emily Dubberley, author of The Field Guide to F*cking. (credit:Alamy)
Be Creative (04 of06)
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"Take a DIY approach to bondage if you're on a budget. Clingfilm can be used to wrap around your lover's wrists, and if you use a single layer, it's easy enough to snap. You can get kitsch and use liquorice bootlaces to bind your lover's wrists, go for a cheap option and use toilet paper," advises Emily Dubberley. (credit:Alamy)
Safety First(05 of06)
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"With bondage, there's a risk you can tie your partner too tightly and cause damage to their nerves. To avoid this, when someone is restrained by their wrists or ankles make sure that you check their extremities (hands and feet) regularly to ensure that they're not going cold (which is a sign that you've blocked their circulation). If the extremities do feel cold, untie your partner immediately and massage their hands or feet to help restore blood flow," explains Rochelle Peachey. (credit:Alamy)
Be Prepared(06 of06)
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"Make sure that you keep a pair of scissors to hand, so that you can release your partner quickly if the need arises. Similarly, if you're using handcuffs, keep two sets of handcuff keys near by (it's always best to have a spare just in case you lose the first set)," says Emily Dubberley. (credit:Alamy)