24/10/2013 06:28 BST | Updated 23/12/2013 05:12 GMT

The People We Meet

Are the people we meet there to teach us lessons? To reveal undiscovered or hidden layers of ourselves? Or are they there to break us in some way?

Elizabeth Gilbert in her memoir "Eat, Pray, Love" talks about soulmates.

I don't necessarily think that a soulmate needs to be one in the romantic sense. It can be in a best friend, in a sister, or even in some random person that the universe decides to send into your direction.

In her book, she has this to say about soulmates:

"People think a soul mate is your perfect fit, and that's what everyone wants. But a true soul mate is a mirror, the person who shows you everything that is holding you back, the person who brings you to your own attention so you can change your life.

A true soul mate is probably the most important person you'll ever meet, because they tear down your walls and smack you awake.

A soul mates purpose is to shake you up, tear apart your ego a little bit, show you your obstacles and addictions, break your heart open so new light can get in, make you so desperate and out of control that you have to transform your life..."

I absolutely love her thoughts on this.

My guru once told me that when the universe wants you to change something, what does it do? First it nudges you. Then pushes a little harder. Then an outright shove. Then a king-hit to the head, and if you still haven't managed to make a change, it will completely floor you.

At times this is what needs to happen.

But if the people we meet have this effect on us, are we in turn having a similar effect on them? The law of polarities would suggest that yes, this is indeed the case. So we, in turn are also smacking them awake.

So if a true soul mate is your mirror, does that mean they possess qualities in which you lack? Does this mean that once you have developed these traits yourself that the union is done?

I am the first to admit that I don't have any of the answers to these mysteries in life.

Perhaps it's easier for some to keep their blinkers on and keep their minds closed to the endless possibilities that abound.

And sometimes maybe we should remove those blinkers, pay attention to everything that the universe is sending us, good, bad, and indifferent, and know that everything does happen for a reason, and not remain ignorant or close-minded to what is.