Inheriting grandchildren is a bit like inheriting a throne. You don’t do anything per se to earn the title or the role – it’s
Sonja Lewis is the author of two novels, The Barrenness and The Blindsided Prophet and a collection of short stories, The Seasons. First published in 2011, The Barrenness was incredibly well received, appearing in The Voice and WM Magazine in the UK, and in US national media including CNN, Black Enterprise and The Tom Joyner Morning Show along with a host of regional media in the US and Canada. The founder and producer of UIO: You Inside Out, the podcast for teenage girls, Sonja is a former newspaper journalist for The Albany Herald, Georgia USA, and has also contributed to The Guardian. After relocating to London, she set up and managed a successful communications consultancy. Clients included The World Association of Girl Guides and Girl Scouts, and The Royal National Institute for the Blind. Sonja received her MA in international journalism from the University of Westminster.
Some relationships weather the changes and others don't, even when there is good intention. As I grasped my new reality, I couldn't help wondering why these close encounters had fizzled out. Try as I might to keep the fire stoked, albeit from a distance, I had failed dismally.
25/10/2017 11:03 BST
After nineteen years of living in London, I have no problem expounding on the advantages and disadvantages of being an expat, or pointing out what I like and dislike. Admittedly, life here is second nature to me nowadays, maybe even first.
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I thought I had kicked the habit of worrying, or at least reined it in. But with all that is going on in the world, I am not so sure anymore. If I am not thinking incessantly about terrorism, war and tragic fires, I focus on loss that hits closer to home.
04/07/2017 12:56 BST
In one holiday, I became responsible beyond home, trustworthy, and gained a lot of credibility with Mama and ultimately my parents, too. This new status would serve me well later when I wanted to go out on dates, away for college, even move to New York.
08/06/2017 13:26 BST
The sooner I learn that space is as much about the mental as it is physical, the better off I will be. These are words that I mumbled recently upon learning that not only would my man-flu-stricken husband be working from home, where my office resides, but also that our builders would be invading my space to investigate a long-standing problem.
04/05/2017 14:40 BST
It is still a great country, as a close friend reminded me recently. I can vouch for that. But here's the thing: greatness comes with an admission of mistakes, a campaign to make reparation and the willingness to remember, if only for the purpose of avoiding previous mistakes. Moving forward, politics has to be about <em>keeping</em> America great. That's the spirit!
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As much as I have flown over the years, especially lately, I will never get used to turbulence. Sometimes pilots can do something about it, finding some smooth air; and other times, it is well beyond their control ... there is nothing but rough air to fly through. Nothing.
19/01/2016 16:09 GMT
Peace - a top theme during the festive season - is often thought of as the cure-all for problems on different scales, whether global, local or familiar. Understandably so, because when we achieve peace, we thrive as nations, communities, families, and individuals.
22/12/2015 16:03 GMT
Relationships break down for many reasons, whether as a result of distrust, betrayal, ineffective communication or other issues. And not just romantic relationships: family relationships, friendships, business relations, and so on, can all be subject to a fallout for one reason or another.
19/11/2015 11:16 GMT
Practising tough love is ... well, tough, particularly when in difficult circumstances; at least, it is for many people in parts of my world. In other parts, exercising tough love comes a bit more easily. Some folk are more practical than others. Their mantra: if a lesson isn't taught, it can't be learned.
22/09/2015 10:44 BST
There is no point in waiting until the pressure has lessened to take a deep breath. To take care in the midst of anxiety often means letting go of stress. Easier said than done, isn't it? And more so for some of us than others.
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Unless you have somehow managed to survive underneath a stone, in a vacuum or staked out on a remote island, surely you've heard some version of the inspirational quote: 'Live for today, because yesterday is gone and tomorrow may never come'.
22/06/2015 17:41 BST
Still, cutting one's hair is a big deal in a woman's world. A few years ago, a distant friend of mine nearly had a breakdown when her daughter cut her extraordinary long hair. And come to think of it, when a friend with the most wonderful lengthy locks got her first hair cut back in college, everyone gasped.
20/05/2015 17:22 BST
There is almost always a story to be told, whether it is a private heart-to-heart with a good friend or a public release on Facebook or the like. Make no mistake about it: the latter is not my cup of tea, or coffee for that matter, but I'm probably in the minority nowadays.
24/03/2015 15:32 GMT
Dramatic behaviour, as well as the day-to-day stresses of life, has an impact on our emotional and mental health. Recently, so wound-up after dealing with an intense personal matter, I had to detox my mind, removing myself from the Internet and the drama for at least twenty-four hours.
10/02/2015 11:42 GMT
My husband hasn't a clue of what his earliest memory might be, and my godson, now nineteen, doesn't remember a thing about his first road trip with Auntie Sonja when he was a toddler, or even staying with us in London, without his parents, when he was about five.
22/01/2015 09:32 GMT