31/10/2013 08:58 GMT | Updated 23/01/2014 18:58 GMT

Life Has Lessons for Us Every Day

I have learned a tremendous amount since training to be a coach and being a coach. I have learned a lot about me in the process. I learned so much about myself that I didn't know, or if I did know I was not aware of it. A lot had been stuffed down inside somewhere, and I have managed to excavate and find it.

I learn every time I coach someone, as the process works both ways. My coachee learns more about themselves and I learn more about me too. And when I am being coached I learn more about me, and likewise my coach learns more about themselves too. I used to think that because I was a coach I didn't need coaching. How wrong was I? I need coaching as much as everyone else.

From what I have learned about myself, I am now able to live my life as ME, not as the person my parents, ex husband, employers etc., wanted me to be. I am now living my life in my way and looking after ME. The ME that I have discovered is still me, I haven't developed horns or a magic wand. I have discovered the inner me, the me that has been struggling to get out all these years. I am not a different person. I am a better person.

In the past I would allow other people to dictate how I lived my life, who I could be friends with, who I could associate with, where I should work and many other things. Now it is different. I know who my friends are and who I want to be my friends, and who I don't want to be my friends. I know what work I want to do and that is to help other people to find themselves and their confidence in themselves, to find out who they really are. And I am superb at it. I have a depth of knowledge and experience on this particular subject and am more than willing to share it with people who are in the same boat as me, even if they aren't aware of it yet.

And I am still learning. Life has lessons for us, and I learn each day in the things that I see and do, in the people that I meet or chat to on the phone or online and with my fellow coaches. I am never alone, I can access the wisdom of others daily either by instant messaging or by phone. And they can access me in the same ways. We are all there for each other, and it really does work. We all benefit from learning from each other and teaching each other.

Yes life has lessons for me, and I am loving every minute of the learning and the teaching.