11/03/2015 06:48 GMT | Updated 10/05/2015 06:59 BST

Weight Loss: The Single Most Important Thing I Do With My Clients - Part II

Basic Idea

The clearer your goal, the more motivated you'll be and the more action you'll take. This makes losing weight easier.

Your goal probably isn't clear enough. Let's make it clearer.

You need to know: Why is weight loss worth the effort?

And not kind of know. Not have some idea. Not 'it would be nice'.

You need to really know. Powerfully, vividly, clearly.

Why do you need to know this? Because the better your answer to this question the easier your weight loss will become. The more likely you'll be to succeed.

Getting clear on this question is one of the first things I do with my clients. I do this because it makes a real difference.

I want them to have such a desirable goal they are compelled to achieve it. It's this kind of motivation that creates action. It's this kind of motivation that causes my clients to do the simple things necessary to achieve their weight loss goals.

In the first part of this post I explained more about why this works. If you haven't read it then do so Here.

In today's article I'm going to take you through the process I use with my clients. If your goals include weight loss then I believe you'd benefit from doing it too.


This is a series of questions that take about 10 minutes to complete.

The more detailed your answers the better this works and the easier your subsequent weight loss becomes.

Answer these questions:

At your ideal weight-

Will you feel different, more confident, more outgoing?

Will people treat you differently?

How will your life change?

What will you look like?

What will you be able to do?

What will people see when they meet you for the first time?

What will you see when you look at yourself?

What will you feel when you look at yourself?

Now tie in as many concrete aspects from your life as possible.

  • If you have clothes that no longer fit, what will it feel like to wear those again?
  • If you have a target clothes size, what will it will feel like to buy something in that size for the first time?
  • If you have kids, what is the positive message you'll be showing them?
  • What will it feel like to go on holiday, stand on the beach and be completely comfortable in your body?

On the surface this task looks easy ...but sometimes it's not.

It can be difficult to truly engage with weight loss. In thinking about how amazing success will be you also have to think about how painful it would be to fail.

It might be uncomfortable to do this. You might resist it and put it off. You might create reasons why you don't need to do it or just do it really quickly and badly.

My clients procrastinate on this one more than almost anything else I ask them to do.

This is my warning: When your mind is giving you reasons why you don't need to do this ask if those are really true. Can you really not spare 10 minutes? Are you really so sure this won't work you can't even try and see?

The thing that makes this difficult is the very thing that makes it valuable and important. When your goal hides at the back of your mind it cannot motivate you.

Let's bring it out so it can actually help you get what you want.


You can find out more about Nathan from his website: Personal Trainer Fulham