Having A Baby
Mums, dads and parenting experts offer advice on sex after pregnancy.
For baby number two, everyone is too busy with their own kids to tell you what it's like. I'd tell my mates that it's really, really tough, only I've got to put a wash on and go to the supermarket. When we catch up, we are beyond talking about pooey nappies and sleepless nights, and instead debate Love Island and where does the best holiday babysitting service.
When I discovered that I was pregnant, I was completely over the moon - mainly because I had suffered an eating disorder for many years and although I never spoke about it with anyone, I always had a lingering fear that perhaps the damage I had done to my body internally would be irreversible. But thankfully I was able to fall pregnant naturally.
When you have a baby your whole life changes, it's overwhelming and exhausting and amazing all at once. Some people want to retreat and process that privately but a lot of people want to know that they aren't on their own, that their friends and wider family still care for them and are there for them to celebrate and support them. Mamas want to feel loved, and to feel that their baby is loved.
Imagine if everything in pregnancy was written in a way whereby you could equate all your baby's milestones as a massive, stonking, you're the bomb, preggo high five to yourself and your amazing body that has worked silently and unquestionably 24/7!
According to Forbes magazine it's costing the average millennial couple $245,340 (£173,084) per child from newborn to 18. Phew! That is a lot, right? The total includes housing food, clothing, education, extracurricular and many other costs you might associate with being a parent.
Babies and I have never really hit it off. But while I have never been that person who will coo on cue at the babies of strangers, I have a new-found appreciation of babies via my niece Leela who is just about The Best Thing Ever. When I visited my sister in the hospitable three weeks ago, I burst into tears at the sight of this tiny little person who hadn't even existed a year ago.
To say that breastmilk is more nutritionally and immunologically comprehensive than infant formula milk isn't being rude, or trying to make anyone feel bad, or just being mean. It's true.
It's the New Year and many of us are thinking of resolutions. However, many are also in the unfortunate position of trying to have a baby, and experiencing difficulties. It's a hard time for those in that situation, and I fully understand the emotions that go with it, having been through this myself...
Childcare is more likely to be divided more equitably between parents too. Many of our mums commented that their partners are more involved than their dads were when they were growing up - and others noted that the shift towards greater sharing of the baby care workload is inevitable, given that most mums (as dads) are juggling parenthood with a career.