20/11/2013 09:32 GMT | Updated 25/01/2014 16:01 GMT

Co-Parenting and Divorce Recovery Radio Show: Abuse and Therapy

Episode 2 of the Alternative Divorce Radio Show

The interveiws with Psychotherapist Caron Barruw provide a real insight into the children's perspective on adversarial divorce, and also the wider effects on work life and the cost to employers.

Caron talks about the trauma of the divorce process itself, and what happens when children get caught up in that. She shares some heartrending stories about how children become embroiled in their parents ongoing anger, and reflects on how much an aggressive divorce also impacts upon work life and career, as well as the family as a whole.

The Relationship DJ Andrew answers the request: "I read that even Swans get divorced...." and his view is that blame and a sense of failure do nothing to help you move forwards from a situation that is so common. Even swans - which mate usually for life - do indeed sometimes 'breakup' and find other partners.

The most intense story we have in the podcast is that of Kathryn, who relates how she fell into a relationship far too soon after divorce, which became abusive, and how she escaped from that situation - and what she learned from it.

As you will hear from Kathryn in the radio show, domestic abuse is not always obvious to the person being abused - sounds crazy, I know, but in my role as the Alternative Divorce Guide I have come across this often. 

What I love about Kathryn's interview is her ability to see beyond being a victim.  The way she has moved forwards from her situation is truly inspiring.

Key Resources:

Are you experiencing domestic violence?

Do you know of someone who is experiencing abuse and may need help and support?

The Freephone 24 Hour National Domestic Violence Helpline, run in partnership between Women's Aid and Refuge, is a national service for women experiencing domestic violence, their family, friends, colleagues and others calling on their behalf.

The Helpline can give support, help and information over the telephone, wherever the caller might be in the country. The Helpline is staffed 24 hours a day by fully trained female helpline support workers and volunteers. All calls are completely confidential. Translation facilities for callers whose first language is not English, and a service for callers who are deaf or hard of hearing are available.

Refuge & Women's Aid:

Alternative Divorce Radio Show is a free resource to support you through divorce.