Of course, eventually I would succeed, and far from the life downgrade I feared, the opposite happened. My success wasn't a fluke, it didn't happen overnight, it wasn't a result of willpower nor did I live in a hut in the woods for two years. In fact, there were three deliberate stages to it and I've shared them below.
I personally interact with hundreds of women on a regular basis who have lived, and are living, through the shattering discovery that their partners and husbands have a secret sexual life. I am committed to giving them a voice so I asked them what they would tell you if they had the chance. Below is a summary of the major points they wanted you to know.
Watching my Snapchat feed, the green monster inside me began to make an appearance as I saw, what seemed like, EVERYONE at a much coveted event. I tapped through short clips of customised cupcakes, gorgeous selfies and perfect poses. Damn it, why wasn't I invited? Everyone looks like they are having SO much fun. All those smiles prove it right?
Isolation can be a cause of addiction. It's also a common symptom. It might be a chicken or the egg argument, but addicted individuals tend to isolate themselves in order to hide their addiction. On the other hand, isolation can also be the trigger that leads people down the road of substance abuse.
Drug addiction hurts me because it's so utterly heartbreaking to see someone destroy themselves. It's that simple. Or no, actually, it's not that simple. Drug addiction hurts me because it's so utterly heartbreaking to see someone with a disease so misunderstood destroy themselves. There's a big difference.
Hadia Tajik, the Vice President of the largest political party in Norway, was challenged on national radio by Health Minister Bent Høie; would she still punish drug users? Her reaction; being evasive, making a point of being against legalization and saying young people using illegal drugs at a party to 'act cool' should expect to be met with punitive sanctions.
Well, Mr Høie, today is the day I on behalf of over 10.000 of my fellow addicts in Norway finally can and will identify you as a minister of health, also for us, not only working to benefit the health of people with cancer, diabetes and heart diseases. Today we can take in over us the fact that you, as the most powerful health politician, finally, as I did with you in New York, sees us, both as human beings with resources that society can benefit from.