UK Death

We've Got The Five Stages Of Grief Wrong

Jessica Hanson | Posted 22.06.2017 | UK Lifestyle
Jessica Hanson

I am not a bereavement counsellor, but I do spend the vast majority of my waking hours reading, writing and thinking about grief. If Sarah and I were any less close as friends, I probably wouldn't venture to comment on her way of grieving.

Thanking And Promising My Dad

Adele Armstrong | Posted 18.06.2017 | UK Lifestyle
Adele Armstrong

First thing Dad, more people have turned up to your funeral than my wedding so you did well there! Rest assured that I'll make sure that in future people will always say 1,000 people came to Marcus' funeral and Robbie Williams sang 'Angels'. You know what I mean dad.

A Letter To My Father, With Love, On Father's Day

Fariha Khan | Posted 15.06.2017 | UK Lifestyle
Fariha Khan

This is perhaps the only Father's Day I have ever marked as we never celebrated Father's or Mother's Day in our house. Every day was Father's Day and every day was Mother's Day. The reason why I am marking it today is because you are no longer with us.

The Greatest Support You Can Offer Someone Who Has Suffered A Stillbirth

The Huffington Post | Tamsin Kelly | Posted 13.06.2017 | UK Parents

Ten babies are stillborn in the UK every day. A stillbirth is one of the most devastating experience for parents. But what makes this experience even ...

Why Trips To The Cemetery Aren't Just For 'Big Fat Goths'

Jessica Hanson | Posted 11.06.2017 | UK Lifestyle
Jessica Hanson

I'm talking about tomb tourism. Many fellow taphophiles (that's a lover of gravestones and cemeteries) and I regularly take time out of our weekends to wander among the dearly departed, taking in the sights and sounds of the graveyard.

Dying Is A Lot 'Happier' Than People Realise, Says Scientists

The Huffington Post | Sophie Gallagher | Posted 08.06.2017 | UK Tech

As a society we don’t largely imagine that the end of our life is something to look forward to, or that death will be enjoyable. In fact a recent Y...

Love Is The Only Option For Me

Beverley Ward | Posted 06.06.2017 | UK Lifestyle
Beverley Ward

So, I met someone. It seems almost too perfect for words. I grieved fully and completely for a year, then on the 13th March, three days after the anniversary of Paul's death, I re-wrote my grief narrative to include the possibility of loving someone new and, just a month later, someone appeared.

Acting After Illness #9 Opportunity

David King | Posted 26.05.2017 | UK Entertainment
David King

Through your own thinking you can close the doors on opportunity and opportunities to make your life better and the lives of others too.

In The Company Of Death: Coming To Terms With Grief And Loss

Dr Laura-Jane Smith | Posted 26.05.2017 | UK Lifestyle
Dr Laura-Jane Smith

This is something no-one wants to hear, but it is true for you as much as it is for the critically ill patients I treat each day in hospital. Many of them are much closer to the end than you are, however, life is unpredictable, chaotic and sometimes cruel. Few of us will die at the time of our choosing.

To Those Of You Who've Lost All Hope

Naomi Barrow | Posted 24.05.2017 | UK Universities & Education
Naomi Barrow

Eventually, in time, we will find glimmers of hope again. We will find cracks of light. We will begin find things to believe in, and our little pile of good things will grow. We might find them in the most unexpected of places - a podcast that speaks to us, the ability to read a page of text, or the joy of being able to taste a cup of tea again. It might take weeks, it might take months, it might even take years, but it will happen.

To Achieve Radical Change End-Of-Life Providers Need To Address Some Home Truths

Lloyd Riley | Posted 24.05.2017 | UK
Lloyd Riley

When doctors argue against assisted dying they are ignoring evidence that shows that greater patient choice is key to improving end-of-life care. Dyin...

People With Dementia Are Still People - We Must Remember That

David Baddiel | Posted 19.05.2017 | UK Entertainment
David Baddiel

My father has always been a sweary, impatient, irritated, lazy bloke. His loss of memory hasn't in fact lost who he is, like dementia can sometimes do. It's the opposite: it's turned the volume up on who he is - when the disease first took hold of him, he became like a Spitting Image puppet of himself.

Dementia Deaths 'Set To Almost Quadruple By 2040'

Press Association | Natasha Hinde | Posted 18.05.2017 | UK Lifestyle

The number of people who die from dementia is set to rocket over the coming years, a new study has found. By 2040, it is estimated that 219,409 people...

A Long Goodbye: When Dementia Takes Someone You Love

Jessica Hanson | Posted 14.05.2017 | UK Lifestyle
Jessica Hanson

Slowly, painfully slowly, the good days were fewer and fewer, and our visits mainly consisted of us trying to make conversation with someone who barely knew we were there. My grandma would dutifully feed him biscuits when we visited. A woman in the corner of the day room, with white hair that stood on end, screamed periodically like a crowing rooster. The nurses seemed kind.

The Death Taboo: What's Your Digital Legacy?

Tim Snaith | Posted 14.05.2017 | UK Tech
Tim Snaith

Naturally, some of this data is extremely personal or valuable to us (like photos, contacts, emails and documents). However, unlike the processes that come into effect for our physical assets when we die, the processes and laws surrounding electronic data are much less developed.

From Fox Hunting To Cancer: Conversations With My Three-Year-Old

Saira Aspinall | Posted 12.05.2017 | UK Parents
Saira Aspinall

"Bloody foxes", was the first expletive I ever heard my then two-year-old mutter. As a Londoner and a keen gardener, I can curse the scourge of urban foxes with the best of them. That doesn't mean I want their country cousins hounded - literally - and torn to shreds and it definitely doesn't mean I want my toddler to hear about it on the radio over her Wednesday morning Weetabix.

'One Last Goodbye': Elderly Woman's Dying Wish To Cuddle Her Cat In Hospital Is Granted

The Huffington Post | Natasha Hinde | Posted 10.05.2017 | UK Lifestyle

In her final hours, an elderly woman wanted to be comforted by her best friend. And who could deny her that? A photograph shared on Imgur shows the mo...

Don't Kid Yourself - You Should Be Planning Your Funeral

Jessica Hanson | Posted 09.05.2017 | UK Lifestyle
Jessica Hanson

So why do people make these offhand comments? I think it's a way of denying our mortality. As much as we intellectually know that one day we will die, a deep part of our psyche is fighting that fact. When we say, "It doesn't matter", partly it's because we don't want to admit that one day, inevitably, it definitely will matter.

Thanatophobia At 21: Learning To Live With Death

Tom Killeen | Posted 09.05.2017 | UK Universities & Education
Tom Killeen

They say the older we get, the less the "end" tends to scare us. Ultimately, we are born to die. If the alternative to living and eventually dying is not living at all, the decision to accept our circumstances and move forward, should be the easiest decision of all.

To The Mother-In-Law I Never Had

Beverley Ward | Posted 09.05.2017 | UK Lifestyle
Beverley Ward

You were by far the best mother-in-law I've ever had, even though your son wasn't there to see it. I want to thank you, Pat. I hope that you are with him now where both of us so longed to be. I hope you look down and see that, it is partly because of you that I can still smile and live on with your memories in my heart.

How Do You Explain Death To Little Children?

J.J. Barnes | Posted 05.05.2017 | UK Parents
J.J. Barnes

Life is terminal.  No matter what you do, no matter where you're from.  No matter if you're rich or poor, white or black, Buddhist or Muslim, man or woman, everyone dies.  It's one thing we all have in common.  And it's something my oldest little girl is slowly learning to understand.

This Simple Journal Lets You Leave A Lasting Legacy When You Die

The Huffington Post | Natasha Hinde | Posted 04.05.2017 | UK Lifestyle

When Verna Scott-Culkin’s father and mother-in-law passed away, her family was left with a huge void to fill. It was then that Verna, a swimming tea...

How To Talk About Death

Dr Peter Nightingale | Posted 03.05.2017 | UK
Dr Peter Nightingale

In the time leading up to the end of someone's life, the most important thing you can do is to offer to be there for the person. Be consistent in the time you make available to them and visit as often as you can. This familiarity will foster a comfortable relationship where you can both share your feelings, fears, wishes and hopes.

We Can't All Be Butterflies In Grief

Beverley Ward | Posted 25.04.2017 | UK Lifestyle
Beverley Ward

This time last year I was mostly amongst friends and holding it together pretty well in company until, one evening, one of the participants didn't come down for dinner and I found myself drowning in panic thinking that he might be dead. I stood up, excused myself and rushed sobbing to my room and didn't stop crying for hours.

I'm Older Than My Father

Sally Brown | Posted 25.04.2017 | UK Lifestyle
Sally Brown

My dad was a 40-a-day man - cigarettes not press-ups. He was one of the pre-war generation who started smoking as a teenager and, sadly, became addicted. My memories were of him lighting up a life-saving fag the minute he woke up in the morning - and that pretty much continued throughout the day.