Domestic Abuse

His Changing Behaviour

Rachel Lamb | Posted 21.10.2016 | UK Lifestyle
Rachel Lamb

I spent half of the night messaging him and talking to him on the phone. The end result was me going home early. In my mind this was a triumph for me, I'd managed to go out. However for him, it was also a triumph, a much bigger, much more overpowering triumph. Mine dwarfed in comparison. He knew he'd won.

Victim Blaming Must Stop

Ant Meads | Posted 05.10.2016 | UK Lifestyle
Ant Meads

Firstly let me say, I have been the victim in an abusive relationship. The way masculinity is framed within society makes it incredibly difficult to 'come out' as it were and talk about this. The discussion around this story and the amount of victim blaming that has gone on is abhorrent.

We've Got To Start Joining The Dots Between Poverty And Abuse

Katharine Sacks Jones | Posted 03.10.2016 | UK
Katharine Sacks Jones

If we want to ensure that women's life chances aren't narrowed by gender, that girls born today won't face the limitations and closing off of opportunities caused by the combination of poverty and abuse, we've got to start joining these dots.

From The Archers To X Factor, Mental Health Support Is Key For Domestic Abuse Survivors

Heidi Riedel | Posted 22.09.2016 | UK
Heidi Riedel

Over the years many British soaps have tackled the issue of domestic violence but I don't think any have generated as much interest- and as many headlines- as The Archers has of late.

Helen Is Set To Face Rob In Family Courts - Here's How We're Campaigning For Real Helens With Child First

Polly Neate | Posted 14.09.2016 | UK
Polly Neate

Life imitates art again. As Helen faces Rob in the family courts in The Archers, our Child First campaign, which is calling for radical change to the family court system in order to protect survivors of domestic abuse and their children, is going to Parliament.

As Helen's Trial Begins, Refuges for Real-Life Helens Are In Crisis Again

Polly Neate | Posted 04.09.2016 | UK Entertainment
Polly Neate

As the trial of Helen Titchener begins, if her plight makes you afraid for real-life survivors of domestic abuse - so it should. And if it makes you think and hope that those real-life women have a way to escape, then you should be even more afraid. I'm here to tell you that their escape route is in danger of being shut down. As actors Louiza Patikas (Helen) and Timothy Watson (Rob) have portrayed so compellingly in The Archers, the level of control a domestic abuse perpetrator can exert over his victim, over time, is total. Yet, it is also often invisible to those around her, even those who care most - or even to herself.

'The Archers' Fans Show ‘Solidari-Tea’ With Real-Life Survivors Of Domestic Abuse

The Huffington Post | Rachel Moss | Posted 31.08.2016 | UK Lifestyle

Across the country people have been sharing photos of themselves holding a cup of tea in order to show “solidari-tea” to survivors of domestic abu...

Let's Walk4 A World Without Domestic Violence

Sandra Horley CBE | Posted 26.08.2016 | UK Lifestyle
Sandra Horley CBE

To the outside world, because they do not immediately dash for the door, women trapped by their abusive partners may seem submissive. In fact, they are resisting - they adopt survival techniques and actively find ways of coping. An abused woman fights, relentlessly, to keep herself and her children safe.

Violence Victim Wins £75k After Police Use Private Details In Exercise

The Huffington Post | Steven Hopkins | Posted 11.08.2016 | UK

A domestic abuse victim has been awarded a £75,000 payout from police after her personal details and a recording of a 999 call were used in a trainin...

What Secret Do You Need to Know for Giving a Voice to Vulnerable Animals and Vulnerable People?

Brian Berry | Posted 01.08.2016 | UK
Brian Berry

By creating an animal abuse register it can be the firewall that stops someone from abusing and potentially help them to change their course in life. If the register can change one person's life for the better or protect one-person form abuse the all of the work will be worth it.

AIBU: How the Internet Slang of Self-Doubt Might Obscure Opportunities for Women to Seek Support for Domestic Abuse

Laura Dix | Posted 25.07.2016 | UK
Laura Dix

AIBU is a phrase that we all need to become more aware of. If something makes you feel bad, uncomfortable, afraid, you don't need anyone else's validation that it isn't right. Supporting survivors of abuse, as a friend or as a professional, is about helping the woman trust herself again and encouraging her that she is the expert in her own life. If it doesn't feel right to her, that means it isn't, no matter what anyone else says.

Who Run the World? Girls!

Dr Diahanne Rhiney | Posted 18.07.2016 | UK Politics
Dr Diahanne Rhiney

I believe that as women we should give Theresa May an opportunity to prove she is what this country needs. Still, a second female Prime Minister should excite us. We may not be exactly where we want to be but we're on our way there. Surely each small step we take towards progress is a step worth celebrating.

Deeds Not Words on Domestic Violence Please, Prime Minister

Jess Phillips | Posted 18.07.2016 | UK Politics
Jess Phillips

When Karen Bradley was elevated to Cabinet a space was left for a new Minister for Preventing Abuse, Exploitation and Crime. This job matters to me. This job is the one place where violence against women and girls, modern slavery, and sexual exploitation sits in Government. This is the job I want when I play fantasy reshuffle.

Chilling Film Reminds Us That Older Women Are Affected By Domestic Abuse, Too

The Huffington Post | Brogan Driscoll | Posted 07.06.2016 | UK Lifestyle

Warning: some readers may find the below video and images distressing A powerful film is sending a chilling reminder that domestic abuse can ...

Marriage: The Rings or the Love?

Jennifer Gilmour | Posted 06.06.2016 | UK Lifestyle
Jennifer Gilmour

I don't remember the actual moment when we made the decision to marry but it was because of what we learnt from the loss of two such important people from our lives that we suddenly felt that it was important to us and important that we didn't waste time waiting.

Amber Heard And Johnny Depp: How the Media Have Got This So, So Wrong

Rachel McGrath | Posted 03.06.2016 | UK Entertainment
Rachel McGrath

As an entertainment journalist, I should not feel lucky to work somewhere that hasn't fuelled speculation over whether Amber is telling truth, or given a platform to Johnny's pals who, of course, find the idea that he could physically harm a woman ridiculous. But that's the position I've found myself in.

Domestic Abuse Services Should Not Be Celebrating Getting Funding

Emily Abbott | Posted 02.06.2016 | UK
Emily Abbott

There was a picture in my local paper this week of four jubilant women from North Devon Against Domestic Abuse celebrating a funding bid win.   To th...

Mental Health Support Must Be Part of the Response to Domestic Abuse

Diana Barran | Posted 18.05.2016 | UK
Diana Barran

Charities, campaigners and a small but growing number of MPs have done a brilliant job over the last fifteen years in raising awareness of mental health: tackling the myths, encouraging people to talk, and reducing the stigma. We know now that anyone can experience mental health problems, or have a friend or family who is struggling. That one in four stat has stuck...

#MaybeHeDoesntHitYou Reminds Us That Domestic Abuse Is Not Just Physical Violence

The Huffington Post | Brogan Driscoll | Posted 10.05.2016 | UK Lifestyle

When people think of an abusive relationship, they often visualise cuts and bruises. But domestic abuse is not just physical, it can include verbal, s...

Stalking: Murder in Slow Motion

Laura Richards | Posted 21.04.2016 | UK
Laura Richards

It is the 'drip drip drip' of direct and indirect stalking behaviours over time that makes it so insidious and damaging - psychologically and physically. Many victims say stalking is like mental rape. I call it murder in slow motion. It's a war of attrition yet many fail to see or understand it. Victims pay with their lives.

Violent Parents - Calling for the End to Child Contact at Any Cost

Jess Phillips | Posted 20.04.2016 | UK Politics
Jess Phillips

Imagine you are five years old. Through the crack in your bedroom door you watch your mother begging your dad to stop while he kicks her again. You rush back to your bed and wait for it to stop. Eventually the house is quiet until tomorrow. This is the reality for too many children in the UK.

So Many Abused Women and Children Are Being Failed By the Family Courts

Anonymous Survivor | Posted 26.04.2016 | UK
Anonymous Survivor

That first day in the family courts was one of the worst of my life. I was standing in the courtroom, a stern-looking district judge on high. And the man who'd repeatedly raped me, assaulted me, threatened my life and our children's lives, standing just a few feet away. No protection measures in place - nothing.

In Family Courts, It Is Still Absolutely Routine for Domestic Abuse Survivors to Be Cross-Examined By Their Abusers

Polly Neate | Posted 20.04.2016 | UK
Polly Neate

A Women's Aid survey of survivors of domestic abuse with experience of the family courts found that a quarter had faced direct questions from their abuser. This is happening day in and day out. Justice is not being served. Children are not being protected. With your support, aligned with that of our parliamentary champions, we can change it.

If I May Say So...

Jennifer Evans | Posted 19.04.2016 | UK Lifestyle
Jennifer Evans

As a lesbian living in today's society freedom of speech is a tool I hold dear to my heart. In the UK the LGBTQ community, by law, has the luxury of freedom of speech; some of us are able to embrace it and use it for all its worth. Some of us are not so able to.

Women's Aid and 'The Archers': The Drama of Domestic Abuse

Polly Neate | Posted 06.04.2016 | UK Entertainment
Polly Neate

When Women's Aid began working with The Archers on the depiction of coercive control - the gradual erosion of Helen's freedom, self-esteem and relationships by her controlling, abusive husband Rob - we hoped it would help increase public understanding of this sinister crime that is at the heart of domestic abuse. It has certainly done so.