Domestic Abuse

Shaking The Shackles Of Abuse

Anneli Roberts | Posted 13.10.2017 | UK
Anneli Roberts

Being in an abusive relationship is like being outside and alone in a hurricane. The insults, criticism and threats weather you over time. Your worst fears and memories used against you, leaving you feeling raw and exposed. You're exhausted from all the fighting and chaos, but you just have to keep dodging obstacles.

Adoptive Families In Crisis: A Letter From Me To You

Helen Redfern | Posted 27.09.2017 | UK Parents
Helen Redfern

However, don't read this letter expecting strategies and answers and solutions. I'm so sorry. I don't have any. There is no quick fix. If there were, we would all be doing it right now, wouldn't we? However hard it was, we would do whatever it took, because what we want most of all is for our child to stop hurting, for our child to be whole, for our child to allow us to love him and care for him and bring him safely to adulthood.

Apple’s iOS 11 Emergency Services Update A ‘Step Forward’ For Women, But Charities Warn Of Potential Dangers

The Huffington Post | Rachel Moss | Posted 21.09.2017 | UK Lifestyle

Women’s charities have praised the new iPhone update as a “positive step forward” in ending violence against women, but warned that if used in c...

An Incredibly Tiny Percentage Of Stalking Incidents End In Prosecution, Charity Says

The Huffington Post | Kate Forrester | Posted 08.09.2017 | UK Politics

A shockingly tiny percentage of stalking incidents end in the prosecution of the perpetrator, according to a charity. The Suzy Lamplugh Trust estimate...

7 Ways You Might Be Abusing Your Partner, Without Even Realising It

The Huffington Post | Sophie Gallagher | Posted 08.09.2017 | UK Lifestyle

Domestic abuse affects approximately 2 million victims in the UK every single year - equivalent to 7.7% of the female and 4.4% of the male population....

Join Refuge On 9 September To Walk4 A World Without Domestic Violence

Sandra Horley CBE | Posted 01.09.2017 | UK
Sandra Horley CBE

One of the most common myths I have to address time and again about domestic violence is the idea that it is rare. Even though social attitudes have ...

Tories Stall On Manifesto Pledge To Help Victims Of Domestic Violence

The Huffington Post | Kate Forrester | Posted 09.08.2017 | UK Politics

Victims of domestic violence could face a longer wait for the housing help they were promised by the government. The Tories set out a new, more robus...

Sexism Drives Us To Tears - Now We're Going To Laugh In Its Face

Ava Vidal | Posted 01.08.2017 | UK
Ava Vidal

I have never been one to shy away from talking about personal experiences in my live shows, I am now encouraging other women to do the same. I have experienced sexism that is not just every day, but institutional and cultural at every level. Rather than be defeated by this, I am embarking on a project that will empower women facing the same to talk about their experience, and hopefully be part of making a change.

Six Women Who've Had Affairs Reveal What It's Really Like To Be The 'Other Woman'

The Huffington Post | Rachel Moss | Posted 14.07.2017 | UK Lifestyle

The ‘other woman’ is a loaded phrase we often use to describe women who are involved in affairs, but have you ever stopped to wonder why there isn...

Love Island's Jonny's Controlling Behaviour Towards Tyla Is Dangerous, Not Romantic

Polly Neate | Posted 11.07.2017 | UK Entertainment
Polly Neate

New arrival Theo had been trying to get the attention of Tyla, currently 'coupled up' with Jonny, and Jonny wasn't happy. But when Jonny said that Theo would have to prise Tyla from "his cold, dead hands", it was not romantic. It did not demonstrate just how much he liked her and it certainly wasn't funny. It was possessive and controlling. For a survivor of domestic abuse watching, it would have been a chilling moment.

The Domestic Abuse Survivor - Because Of You

Emma Chaplin | Posted 10.07.2017 | UK Lifestyle
Emma Chaplin

But as a woman grown. As a survivor of your torment and abuse, I see how much I terrified you. A woman nearly 10 years your junior pushing for a social agenda that saw equality among the sexes, that threatened your dominance, your very place in this world. How very dare I.

We Need To Talk About Johnny Depp

Selene Nelson | Posted 05.07.2017 | UK Entertainment
Selene Nelson

We didn't want to talk about how a beloved public figure might be capable of abuse. But this is a conversation we need to have. Because while public opinion of this case might change, the memory of the mistrust, of the victim blaming, and the vilification of Amber Heard will remain.

'You're Very Quiet'

Rachel Lamb | Posted 04.07.2017 | UK Lifestyle
Rachel Lamb

All my life I've been hearing those three words, or words to that effect. From nursery, to university, right through to my working life, I've been labelled as 'the quiet one'.

Lost In The Fog Of Domestic Abuse: A Survivor's Experience

Leah Nasilia | Posted 30.06.2017 | UK
Leah Nasilia

It took 10 years of sporadic physical and emotional abuse and two years of counselling from a specialist domestic abuse worker before my fog cleared and I built the strength to leave. Walking away is the best thing I did, nevertheless, in my opinion, there is potential for the fog to return at times so we need to be proactive in preventing it and supporting women, like me, disperse it when it does.

Domestic Abuse: Learning To Love And Trust Again

Jennifer Gilmour | Posted 21.06.2017 | UK
Jennifer Gilmour

Moving forward is hard and sometimes the abuse will come back in dreams, flashbacks, conversations or in other ways. I find that sometimes it feels like I am in a mental fight not to assume my husband is similar to the person who abused me. Years on and the moments have become less and I am able to shake it off but this has taken patience and has at times been mentally quite tough.

The Domestic Violence And Abuse Bill Is A Once-In-A-Generation Opportunity

Polly Neate | Posted 21.06.2017 | UK Politics
Polly Neate

For too long women and children have been left facing a postcode lottery of services and a justice system that does not understand their experiences, keep them safe or deal with their abusers effectively. It is imperative that this country's response to domestic abuse does not simply stay focused on managing risk as it has done previously, but places the survivor at the centre; working with her needs and strengths to build long term safety and independence for her and her children.

We Need A New Approach To Stopping Elder Abuse

Eleri Butler | Posted 15.06.2017 | UK
Eleri Butler

It's time we invested in a new approach to supporting survivors of abuse in Wales, so that every point of interaction with survivors and perpetrators is an opportunity for getting help and support, which should not be missed. Our focus, at Welsh Women's Aid, is to transform community and public service responses whilst making sure specialist services collaborate to continue to provide the vital lifeline that survivors need.

The Tory Policy That Will Damage Britain's Domestic Abuse Victims

Dr Diahanne Rhiney | Posted 06.06.2017 | UK Politics
Dr Diahanne Rhiney

When you bear in mind that 75% of abused women who are murdered are killed after (or as they attempt to) they leave their partners, a victim looking for housing is at risk and needs the governments' help and support.

Stop The Silence Around Violence Against Women

Johanna Higgs | Posted 28.04.2017 | UK
Johanna Higgs

We need to do something about it and we need to do something about it today. In no single person's moral universe, whether guided by religion or any other cultural value, should the violation and degradation of another's physical body or integrity be allowed.

The Police And State Agencies Must Do More To Protect Victims Of Domestic Violence

Sandra Horley CBE | Posted 10.04.2017 | UK
Sandra Horley CBE

In my 38 years working on the front line against domestic violence I have seen time and again how the justice system can fail women and girls when the...

Unravelling My Thoughts

Rachel Lamb | Posted 05.04.2017 | UK Lifestyle
Rachel Lamb

Admitting that I needed help to organise that box of emotions I'd pushed to the back of my mind for so long was a huge milestone for me. Going from an abusive relationship, to escaping and feeling strong and empowered, to finally coming to terms with the fact that I can't deal with it on my own, is one hell of a realisation.

A Mum's Experience Of Abuse

Jennifer Gilmour | Posted 24.03.2017 | UK Parents
Jennifer Gilmour

Having children changes your life in so many ways, not least because you acquire a protective instinct that makes you want to protect them from harm or hurt. I remember feeling this protectiveness instantly when my first child was born.

I'm Proud Of This Government's Action On Domestic Abuse

Suella Fernandes | Posted 10.03.2017 | UK Politics
Suella Fernandes

Domestic violence destroys lives. We need to keep on empowering women to come forward, knowing they have the full backing of the justice system and they won't be failed. As a Conservative, and a women, I am enormously proud that this Government is working to protect the most vulnerable women.

It's Time To Be Bold: How We Can Use Technology In The Fight Against Domestic Abuse

Suzanne Jacob | Posted 08.03.2017 | UK Tech
Suzanne Jacob

all women everywhere We hear frequently that the internet is a scary place. Every week, we read stories of trolling, revenge porn, online bullying and harassment. This abuse is not new, perpetrators simply have more tools at their fingertips. But if they have new ways of inflicting fear, we must have new ways of overcoming it.

How You Can Help Grow Solidarity And Sisterhood For All Women Everywhere

Polly Neate | Posted 07.03.2017 | UK
Polly Neate

As the Chief Executive of Women's Aid, the national domestic abuse charity, I all too often see the worst experiences of women 2017. The fact is, that women are abused because they are women: because we as women are not equal. Abuse feeds off our inequality - and abuse feeds our inequality too.