Domestic Abuse

Mental Health Support Must Be Part of the Response to Domestic Abuse

Diana Barran | Posted 18.05.2016 | UK
Diana Barran

Charities, campaigners and a small but growing number of MPs have done a brilliant job over the last fifteen years in raising awareness of mental health: tackling the myths, encouraging people to talk, and reducing the stigma. We know now that anyone can experience mental health problems, or have a friend or family who is struggling. That one in four stat has stuck...

#MaybeHeDoesntHitYou Reminds Us That Domestic Abuse Is Not Just Physical Violence

The Huffington Post | Brogan Driscoll | Posted 10.05.2016 | UK Lifestyle

When people think of an abusive relationship, they often visualise cuts and bruises. But domestic abuse is not just physical, it can include verbal, s...

Stalking: Murder in Slow Motion

Laura Richards | Posted 21.04.2016 | UK
Laura Richards

It is the 'drip drip drip' of direct and indirect stalking behaviours over time that makes it so insidious and damaging - psychologically and physically. Many victims say stalking is like mental rape. I call it murder in slow motion. It's a war of attrition yet many fail to see or understand it. Victims pay with their lives.

Violent Parents - Calling for the End to Child Contact at Any Cost

Jess Phillips | Posted 20.04.2016 | UK Politics
Jess Phillips

Imagine you are five years old. Through the crack in your bedroom door you watch your mother begging your dad to stop while he kicks her again. You rush back to your bed and wait for it to stop. Eventually the house is quiet until tomorrow. This is the reality for too many children in the UK.

So Many Abused Women and Children Are Being Failed By the Family Courts

Anonymous Survivor | Posted 26.04.2016 | UK
Anonymous Survivor

That first day in the family courts was one of the worst of my life. I was standing in the courtroom, a stern-looking district judge on high. And the man who'd repeatedly raped me, assaulted me, threatened my life and our children's lives, standing just a few feet away. No protection measures in place - nothing.

In Family Courts, It Is Still Absolutely Routine for Domestic Abuse Survivors to Be Cross-Examined By Their Abusers

Polly Neate | Posted 20.04.2016 | UK
Polly Neate

A Women's Aid survey of survivors of domestic abuse with experience of the family courts found that a quarter had faced direct questions from their abuser. This is happening day in and day out. Justice is not being served. Children are not being protected. With your support, aligned with that of our parliamentary champions, we can change it.

If I May Say So...

Jennifer Evans | Posted 19.04.2016 | UK Lifestyle
Jennifer Evans

As a lesbian living in today's society freedom of speech is a tool I hold dear to my heart. In the UK the LGBTQ community, by law, has the luxury of freedom of speech; some of us are able to embrace it and use it for all its worth. Some of us are not so able to.

Women's Aid and 'The Archers': The Drama of Domestic Abuse

Polly Neate | Posted 06.04.2016 | UK Entertainment
Polly Neate

When Women's Aid began working with The Archers on the depiction of coercive control - the gradual erosion of Helen's freedom, self-esteem and relationships by her controlling, abusive husband Rob - we hoped it would help increase public understanding of this sinister crime that is at the heart of domestic abuse. It has certainly done so.

The Unsung Heroes of Domestic Abuse

Polly Neate | Posted 30.03.2016 | UK
Polly Neate

I can guarantee that near you, often in a secret location and always with nowhere near enough funds, women have been working for decades to keep victims of domestic abuse safe. They offer somewhere to flee for safety, working with women and their children as they rebuild their shattered lives. This is the face of charity we never see...

I Wish I Knew...

Ashleigh Mitchell | Posted 25.03.2016 | UK Lifestyle
Ashleigh Mitchell

If someone had told me that I was in an abusive relationship, I wouldn't have believed them. It's only now that I am out of it that I can really see it for what it was. There were no beatings but that doesn't mean there was no abuse.

Life After Domestic Abuse

Jennifer Gilmour | Posted 22.03.2016 | UK
Jennifer Gilmour

I used to wonder if I would ever have a life. In fact I wondered this every day for the five long, lonely years that I lived in a domestic abusive relationship. In the end I didn't care because I was so numb, but here I am now and I want to share with you a snippet of my story.

Two Women Killed Every Week In The UK To Domestic Violence

Jessica Onah | Posted 21.03.2016 | UK
Jessica Onah

Exactly one week after you read this message two women in the UK will be murdered as a result of domestic violence. 42% of women murdered in the UK are as a result of domestic violence. 

The Government Strategy to End Violence Against Women and Girls Needs to Be More Than Words on a Page

Sarah Champion | Posted 11.03.2016 | UK Politics
Sarah Champion

Violence against women and girls is one of the most pressing issues of our day and these words are very welcome. However, as we have seen before, encouraging words are not always followed by appropriate action.

When We're Talking About Equality, We Mustn't Forget the Most Marginalised

Katharine Sacks Jones | Posted 08.03.2016 | UK
Katharine Sacks Jones

We've got to get better at reaching all of these women and girls. At recognising the ways in which gender, trauma, poverty, race, and other forms of inequality combine together to trap them. We need systems and services to recognise when women are experiencing these multiple forms of disadvantage, and to provide safe, effective, trauma and gender informed support.

International Women's Day: How Can We Create Gender Equality by 2030?

Shahida Rahman | Posted 08.03.2016 | UK
Shahida Rahman

Today we will celebrate International Women's Day. The theme this year sets us a challenge as well as a deadline. Planet 50-50 by 2030: Step It Up Fo...

Break The Silence...

Dr Siema Iqbal | Posted 08.03.2016 | UK
Dr Siema Iqbal

This week marks the celebration of International Women's Day on Tuesday 8th March yet less than 4 weeks ago I was stunned at figures being presented t...

This International Women's Day, Let's Celebrate The Incredible Courage Of Domestic Violence Survivors

Sandra Horley CBE | Posted 08.03.2016 | UK
Sandra Horley CBE

Their courage certainly gives me hope, and it should also give hope to those women who have experienced or are experiencing domestic abuse. This International Women's Day, please know that Refuge is here to help you, and that it is possible to live a life free from violence and fear.

An Open Letter to Iain Duncan Smith: Will Refuges Be Exempt From the Housing Benefit Cap?

Polly Neate | Posted 21.02.2016 | UK
Polly Neate

Frankly, I cannot believe you genuinely want to undo all the work we and the government have done together to try to put refuges on a more secure footing. I think the disastrous impact the housing benefit cap will have on refuges is unintentional. But, make no mistake, it is dangerous.

Love Don't Feel Bad - And Young People Need to Know It

Polly Neate | Posted 11.02.2016 | UK
Polly Neate

We must counteract the bewildering messages about sex and relationships and the objectification of women that our children are mercilessly bombarded with. The Government must take this on board, and Women's Aid will keep the pressure up on them to do so, alongside other organisations.

Murder Is Not a 'Domestic Incident'

Ending Victimisation and Blame | Posted 07.02.2016 | UK
Ending Victimisation and Blame

The murder of a Geraldine, Shannon and Shane are not 'domestic incidents'. Burning dinner is a 'domestic incident'. Making the choice to kill your ex-partner and children are criminal acts predicated on a patriarchal culture of male entitlement and male ownership of the bodies of women and children.

This Archers Plotline Inspired People To Give Thousands To Charity

The Huffington Post UK | Aubrey Allegretti | Posted 04.02.2016 | UK

A donations page setup on behalf of a fictional character from the world's longest-running radio soap opera has raised over £11,000 for a domestic vi...

How to Prosecute on the Ever-Changing Rulebook That Is Coercive Control

Kylie Barton | Posted 04.02.2016 | UK
Kylie Barton

It is just a shame that with this new law, the government did not provide new pots of funding to increase the knowledge base on the subject, and how to use the new powers.

There Is Life After Domestic Abuse - But Not Necessarily as You Know It

Anna J Lawrence | Posted 03.02.2016 | UK Lifestyle
Anna J Lawrence

Many women label themselves as 'damaged goods'. I prefer to think of us as 'different'. Like a valuable, china ornament that has been smashed on the floor and painstakingly put back together. There are scars that will never go, but there is still beauty.

Domestic Violence Survivor Sings Empowering Song From Hospital Bed

The Huffington Post UK | Rachel Moss | Posted 19.01.2016 | UK Lifestyle

A domestic violence survivor has urged other men and women "not to tolerate abuse" from partners by filming herself singing from her hospital bed. ...

If So Many Of Us Are Unhappy With The State Of Society, Why Do So Many Of Us Choose To Turn A Blind Eye?

Anna J Lawrence | Posted 18.01.2016 | UK
Anna J Lawrence

An interesting discussion kicked off in my parent's lounge today, over our Saturday morning coffee. "How is the book (Fools' Words) doing?" asked Pops...