Gay Voices

Planning a Lesbian Wedding: Why I'm Extremely Grateful of Being Able to Get Married

Sarah-Elizabeth Daly | Posted 18.12.2014 | UK Lifestyle
Sarah-Elizabeth Daly

This week gay marriage laws have come into effect around Scotland, allowing same-sex couples across the nation to be able to get married. No, not a civil partnership, a full on, completely equal, legal marriage, and I couldn't be more grateful.

How Not to Approach Gay Advocacy

George P. Simmonds | Posted 16.12.2014 | UK Universities & Education
George P. Simmonds

We've got to understand what the goal of gay advocacy really is. When I was growing up I didn't want to be like everyone else... Gay people aren't criminals asking to be loved in spite of their crimes. They're not addicts wanting to be understood beyond their addiction. And they're certainly not sinners wishing to be spared of evil.

The Great Commitment Conundrum of 2014!

Ryan Houston | Posted 01.12.2014 | UK Lifestyle
Ryan Houston

I recently began thinking about something terrifying, the one thing that can make you begin to sweat with nerves at just the thought, some of us anyway; commitment. To some of us, it comes naturally, to others, trying to get a little bit of it is a true nightmare.

World AIDS Day: Cut Gay Blood Ban to Three Months

Peter G Tatchell | Posted 01.12.2014 | UK
Peter G Tatchell

The current ban on gay and bisexual men donating blood within 12 months of them last having sex is medically unjustified discrimination based on sexual orientation. It is premised on a generalisation about men who have sex with men.The government should cut the basic exclusion period to three months, dependent on the risk factors associated with each individual donor. These risk factors include not only HIV but also other sexually-transmitted infections (STIs). Protecting the blood supply is the number one priority but ensuring blood safety does not require a rule that no gay or bisexual man can donate blood for a year since his last same-sex experience.

Why the Gym Is the Worst Place to Meet Your Next Lover

The Guyliner | Posted 24.11.2014 | UK Lifestyle
The Guyliner

It seems no part of the gym is off limits when it comes to being chatted up or flirted with or, in the most extreme of cases and depending on your proximity to Vauxhall, a spot of shagging. The sunbed room at my gym - 12 tubes, an Ikea chair and a bin filled with discarded wet wipes - is almost always occupied and I have never seen any ultra violet light beaming from under that door.

Lucy Sherriff

'Being Gay Really Is An Unnecessary Taboo'

HuffingtonPost.com | Lucy Sherriff | Posted 24.11.2014 | UK Universities & Education

Stripping naked and posing in front of a camera has almost become a rite of passage for any student belonging to a university sports team. But Nott...

LGBT Bullying: 'That's So Gay!'

Philip Christopher Baldwin | Posted 24.11.2014 | UK Lifestyle
Philip Christopher Baldwin

"Gay" was frequently used pejoratively as an insult, to describe anything unpleasant and phrases such as "that's so gay" were bandied about to describe anything perceived as negative, from a flamboyant shirt to the weather. As a teenager I was undermined and left with feelings of inadequacy. A

When Making It to 40 Is a Privilege

Adebisi Alimi | Posted 21.11.2014 | UK
Adebisi Alimi

We are kicking our kids out; we are turning our backs on them and rejecting the builders of the future mainly because we could not understand their sexual orientation or gender identity. Homelessness creates a state of vulnerability for these young people and makes them easy prey for malicious adults.

LGBT - Let God Be There

Jonny Freeman | Posted 20.11.2014 | UK Lifestyle
Jonny Freeman

As a church we can't teach how bad sin is, to love your neighbour as yourself, to live in Jesus' example; then attach 10 asterisks at the bottom of the page with our 'terms and conditions'. I'm sick of feeling part of a faith that, in part, will charitably give with one hand and damage with the other. Its literal hypocrisy, and its nothing like the religion that I believe in...

What To Do If You Find A Trans Person In The Bathroom

The Huffington Post UK | Lucy Sherriff | Posted 17.11.2014 | UK Universities & Education

The University of Bristol's LGBT+ Society has issued a series of steps for concerned members of the public who find themselves in the same public bath...

When Do You Know You Should Probably Most Definitely Break Up?

Effi Mai | Posted 14.11.2014 | UK Lifestyle
Effi Mai

Sometimes you're looking at your partner's face wondering what to do about the whole situation. But how do you know exactly when it should end?

D-day for the Pill for HIV

Gus Cairns | Posted 05.11.2014 | UK Lifestyle
Gus Cairns

So what just happened is that on 16 October the researchers behind the PROUD trial, in which 545 gay men in England were given daily pills of the anti-HIV medicine Truvada(R) either immediately or after a year's delay, announced that what had been intended as a mere pilot study had been so dramatically successful that they were offering all participants immediate PrEP...

Bisexual Bias - Some People Are Bi, Get Over It

E J Rosetta | Posted 04.11.2014 | UK Lifestyle
E J Rosetta

Bisexuality is valid. It's not what I'm calling myself as I'm transitioning, it's not what people are labelled while they're deciding. It's a whole other category! Entering the very community you've been dying to belong to and having them reject you is enough to send a person straight back into the closet!

Positive Damage: HIV and the City

Philip Christopher Baldwin | Posted 30.10.2014 | UK Lifestyle
Philip Christopher Baldwin

Overwhelmed by emotions, I hid in an adjacent office. I broke down, my sadness manifesting itself in floods of tears. I was frightened in case anyone walked in and found me crying, potentially resulting in the discovery of my illness. The next week, preceding my initial appointment at the HIV clinic, was one of fear and, to a limited degree, suspense...

How Being Gay Can HELP Your Career

E J Rosetta | Posted 27.10.2014 | UK Lifestyle
E J Rosetta

Take my last job for example. After just a year I found myself progressing, fast. Every promotion available and Boom... It was mine. Who gets first pick of holiday slots? Yours Truly. Do I fancy a week off for London Pride at short notice? Well you got it, lady, and have a luminous, fruity cocktail on us.

Ten Awkward Questions Straight People Ask Lesbians (And How to Inappropriately Answer Them)

E J Rosetta | Posted 27.10.2014 | UK Lifestyle
E J Rosetta

Coming Out is hard to do, and it's amazing how curious everyone suddenly becomes. But how to handle the questioning? Like a grown up, with dignity and respect? Or if you fancy having little fun with it, here's how...

#BrightonBootOut - Lesbian Couple Chucked Out of Brighton Superstore For Kissing

E J Rosetta | Posted 23.10.2014 | UK Lifestyle
E J Rosetta

This was NOT a homophobic act. This woman must have been a Brighton resident. She's probably used to seeing gay guys and gals mincing around the supermarket all day. Damn, she may well have a double use for that uniform herself, eh?

How to Handle Your Ex Moving on First

E J Rosetta | Posted 23.10.2014 | UK Lifestyle
E J Rosetta

The lesbian break up is an astounding affair. It can either result in our famous "lez be friends" scenario, or go through a hormone induced, highly dramatic block-a-thon and selection of storm-outs that would make a pantomime villain proud.

I'm Transgendered, It Works... I Can Still Work for You

Emma Flowers | Posted 21.10.2014 | UK Lifestyle
Emma Flowers

I do not want special treatment. I do not want campaigns or petitions; I want to provide for myself and try to leave a legacy for my children. Well reported cases would give the impression that society is dealing with its prejudices. Sadly, it would appear that I am prevented from doing so by prejudiced attitudes that still prevail - no matter how many high profile cases hit the media.

Ten Worst LGBT Insults at Work

Ian Johnson | Posted 20.12.2014 | UK
Ian Johnson

Work is something that is a fact of life for most of us. Just like being lesbian, gay, bisexual or transgender is too. But when those two intersect it is not always simple - nor easy...

Three Things Heterosexuals Don't Realise About Gay Relationships

George P. Simmonds | Posted 16.12.2014 | UK Lifestyle
George P. Simmonds

I'm not going to use this article as an opportunity to tell straight people they have no idea what it's like to be gay because to do so would be to abet gay culture's propensity to wear its orientation like an accessory so to keep heterosexuals at arm's length. Such hostilities support the turning of sexuality into an elitist enterprise.

Coming Out Isn't a One-off Event - You Do It Day After Day for Ever

The Guyliner | Posted 15.12.2014 | UK Lifestyle
The Guyliner

Think you have everybody covered? Relatives, friends, key people at work - check. However, you're not out of the woods yet. We live in a world where there may be equality in law, but socially, we've still a long way to go. Even a simple trip to the doctor, or a casual chat with a colleague, and having to say that dreariest, laborious word "partner", like you're in love with a law firm, is an act of coming out.

HIV Diagnoses Among Young Gay Men: We Need to Act

Simon Blake | Posted 14.12.2014 | UK Lifestyle
Simon Blake

I will keep saying it until I'm blue in the face: new HIV Infections have almost doubled amongst 15-24 year olds. I read my briefing over breakfast this morning and I cannot quite describe the feeling in my stomach. How can we, how can I allow this to happen, and how did these data slip out and go largely unreported this week?

The 25 Men You Should Really Never Date

The Guyliner | Posted 10.12.2014 | UK Lifestyle
The Guyliner

As ever, I only want to help, so if you want to separate the men from the boys and the woulds from the would-nots, here I have 25 more men you should, if at all possible, avoid when dating. Everything I do, I do it for you.

Assassins and Advocates

Ezra Tafari Rose | Posted 05.12.2014 | UK Lifestyle
Ezra Tafari Rose

I'm not innocent. I have been defensive. I have been guarded and on many occasions these things have manifested themselves with disastrous consequences but in spite of it all, I am still here.