There isn't a single hypnobirthing technique that isn't a skill for life. So I encourage you, pregnant or not, the next time you notice you're having the urge to change what is, wishing for the future or yearning for the past, bring your attention to accepting the moment for what it is. Breathe out resistance and notice how much easier things feel. It works.
All the horror stories about pain, long drawn-out births, complications and instruments that "do what?!!" (trust me - everyone will want to tell you what happened once to a friend of theirs) no wonder women aren't even allowed to entertain the idea that birth can in fact be amazing, empowering and redefining.
When I was pregnant with my second child, I thought about perfect and good. So this time around, I called three friends and made them promise: when my daughter was three months old, they were to call and ask me if she'd had any formula. I would not lie. If the answer was no, they had to come over and give it to her themselves.
"I want the world to feel us, to have compassion, to listen to these stories of our lives and our suffering. To know that no-one wants to leave their home. We were living a normal life - we had houses, jobs, shops, warehouses. Now we have lost everything, we have nothing. I just want the people outside to know that we were just like you."
It's not really surprising that so many women feel this way. The media portrayal of birth ranges from the rather ridiculous soap opera version - 'woman looking terrified and sweaty delivers baby in pub drama' - to programs like One Born Every Minute - 'woman looking terrified and sweaty begs for drugs in hospital drama'.
There has been a continued fall in the proportion of women giving birth at home, according to new data. In 2010 in England and Wales,...