I've always been slightly obsessed with the pursuit of happiness. Not the movie. The real thing. How do we attain happiness and how do we damn well keep it.
This is not to say that you should be skipping in the fields when sad or upsetting things happen. Acceptance is not about resignation, ignoring reality or doing nothing. It's about fully acknowledging what has happened, seeing it for what it is and then finding your way to let it go.
I stand here silently for about 5 minutes paying attention to the sensations of my breathing and heartbeat, as well as the sound of birdsong all around me. I find this silence and solitude deeply enjoyable, but this has not always been the case -- in fact, I used to hate it.
Recently I've had whole brain radiotherapy, which wasn't too bad and so far has really worked! Lots of the numb parts of my face have feeling again and the headaches have gone. So even though my fluffy hair has fallen out again I'm happy I had it. Now the boring 'sick person' bit is over with, I'll tell you all about my adventures!
What does it mean to be successful? A high-powered job? Bags of money? A fancy house and expensive sports car? Living up to the expectations others have for you? To me, success is far more personal than any of these things.
On bullies and birds It occurred to me as I watched the might magpie swat the tiny blue tit off the birdfeeder this morning that bullying can be a go...
It is useful to understand that human beings have two distinct systems in the brain that are in charge of choosing how time and energy are spent. One system - the habitual survival system - is only interested in getting you through the day...
Attention Wilderness-ers and would-be aerial artists - Gorilla Circus, the UK's only outdoor flying trapeze school (not an actual gorilla circus) is heading to Wilderness this year! We'll be branching out from our current site in Regent's Park.
Lapses in self-control are a great source of frustration for human beings. Habitual indulgence of impulses or avoidance of discomfort can keep us from acting on important goals and values. This gap between what we feel is important and how we spend our time and energy leads to dissatisfaction and unnecessary struggle.
The cost of doing nothing or simply settling for gradual change runs to billions of pounds, but the real cost is measured in human misery, misery for want of determination to act on the evidence.
Today I had a message from a friend of mine. She is going to quit her job this morning. She has two children, and her childcare arrangement has let her down again. She is intelligent, educated and highly capable but when push comes to shove the juggling act that has been her life just doesn't make sense anymore.
I believe that all of us have an inner voice that tries to guide us through life. I believe that this voice wants the best for us and tries to steer us toward happiness, contentment and love. I think many people have a sense of this 'voice' but often refer to it simply as their 'gut instinct'.
Advice. We're bombarded with it every day - from magazines and adverts to well-meaning friends and colleagues. But only very rarely do we find advice that is life-changing. In recent years, three pieces of advice stand out as having a particularly positive and lasting impact on my life.
I was recently asked by someone why I do or want, to carry on doing what I do. It's such a simple question yet it startled me. It's easy enough to jump into a knee-jerk textbook answer but its really hard to articulate why it really is that you do what you do (short of things like necessity, habit, or lack of choice). The 'why not' is not a valid answer.
This is a true story and I am thrilled to share it with you, as not only is it significant in the telling of unconditional love, compassion and gratitude, but also in the synchronicities of life too.
In order to succeed and thrive in this cut throat culture many also turn to lying, cheating, back-stabbing and elbowing others out of the way to reach the top. People can live in a perpetual state of anxiety, worrying about not being good enough.