And you, that guy in high school I thought was the love of my life for about a week, whose face I don't even remember now. You, that girl who handed me a handkerchief when I was crying on the bus after finding out my best friend had passed away. And you, that old lady I helped walk home and who told me her life story in the process.
How come some people always seem to be upbeat? They always seem to be smiling, nothing fazes them and yet they inhabit the same world as us. What is it that they're doing perhaps differently? What is the best way to have a great day?
Pause for a moment now to consider the balance you currently have in your life...and the balance you're striving to achieve.... The most common areas of consideration are family, work, health, friends, and spirit...all of which you try to "juggle" at the same time.
Now with all my infinite wisdom and 29 years I know that everything in this life that you want you must work and work incredibly hard at and for. I used to think I was good at working at my weaknesses but really what I would do was work at what I was good at and try and become great at that and completely neglect the things I found the toughest.
From the moment we arrive on this earth, we're looking for answers. "What does that do? ... What does this mean? Why are you doing that?" How often, though, do we get satisfactory, or even honest, answers?
Each time you engage in a habitual behaviour, you are rewarded with a small amount of a brain chemical called dopamine. This chemical produces the internal experience of "this is how it is supposed to be." The more you do something, the more likely it is to become an unconscious habit.
Two years ago I began learning Latin when I spied a grammar book on sale for 50p at my local train station (they do a recycling thing where second-hand books are sold for a small fee and the money goes to charity).
Just think for a moment about something in your own life that is heavily restricted by a belief... something that if you gave permission...would allow you so many more opportunities and successes...!
To master success is to master communication, but, with that said, it is important to understand the process of communication and specific ways to enhance the ability of choice. The language you use on a daily basis has a massive effect on how successful you are and how successful you are likely to be.
In our bid to buy a flatscreen TV bigger than Mars we've completely forgotten about giving, and what that means. And very often, it's not to people who are automatically given it by right, it's the people who either ask and are completely ignored, or the ones who don't and are falling down the cracks.
No...I am certain that you can achieve your own success, or yourown interpretation of what you deem another person's success to be, but not the exact same results or the same success as others...as we are all born at different microseconds in the past, making it factually impossible to experience the same as anyone else - unless you have a time machine
I feel as women we should change the tone of the conversation and learn to really support each other, to encourage and to really mean it. To want others to do well and to be truly happy is what we all should be striving for, not to be looking on through a snarl and a negative eye.
The skill of dropping a ruminative cycle about what is wrong and putting attention on what is possible and what works is invaluable in any circumstance. When it comes to taking useful action, you can count on your survival brain to produce convincing reasons to procrastinate.
I used to read a great deal about spirits and how to lead a life that is "spiritual" with the hope and desire to find answers to so many questions that I used to ask. Always dreaming that the next book would hold the key - a great deal of my time was spent searching. Book after book, chapter after chapter, always seeking and asking and not a great deal of "doing".
We all know that seeing a friend has this positive effect, but sometimes we repeatedly push it away in pursuit of happiness by other means. But in the pursuit of "achieving" this other happiness, we usually neglect what we know does make us happy: spending time with friends.
When you're shaken, bent on your knees with hands over your face; far too many times, we almost always accept defeat right away. However, failure doesn't teach us to accept defeat, it teaches us that every time we fall down, there's nothing more important than growing up and getting back up.