It's so easy to stay settled in our comfort zone waiting for 'someone' to come along and tell us it's OK to leave. Only we can give ourselves that permission. We can quieten that voice in our heads that says "you're not allowed to do that' and shout back: "Actually I am!"
Everyone has the capacity to be happy (content) but it's about getting to the right place mentally instead of constantly chasing outside aspirations. Looking within and accepting that the seeds of happiness are already there, you just need to recognise them.
Postponing happiness until the right time, or until we have earned enough brownie points to have the permission to enjoy ourselves. The idea that fun and play is a luxury item kept in a box, only to be opened on special occasions.
Something I've seen a lot of on the old WWW lately, particularly Instagram, are some posts and images from women who are helping to empower other women by feeling confident in their own skin. This, of course, is marvellous.
Last nights BBC2 documentary 'A World Without Down's Syndrome?' has already raised a lot of questions before it was even aired and although my son doesn't have Downs syndrome it is still something which affected me during my pregnancy and the issues surrounding it continue to affect me today.
So with her off to school and the days of mermaid talk behind me, it was time to 'sort' myself out. During this time I became fanatical about self care - accept I didn't really know it was called that, I just knew I wanted to feel good.
I post appreciations three or four times a week, on Facebook -- a list of things that I appreciate in my life. It's a long list nowadays, including a much-loved husband, two beautiful beagles, a wonderful home, a wonderful job, faith, health and happiness. And that was exactly what had pissed this one gentleman off.
There is no such thing as finding happiness. Happiness is created through doing something you are innately very good at and therefore you love doing it. I have learnt that by allowing both the time and headspace to let your natural talent breathe, doors will open and the opportunities that may follow are endless. Trust me. Try it.
It's probably not a surprise to any of us that stress and mental ill-health are two of the leading causes of long-term workplace absence in the UK. We're working longer hours - even compared to just four years ago - and we're struggling to switch off when we get home.
The gap in perspective of both cause and effect can in reality seem so small but at the same time it is huge, cause and effect are in fact one, both created in a cyclical effect as much of energy is. The main difference between them is where your focus is, of whether it exists in the present or in the future, if it is in the past you are also focused on effect.
I strongly believe in a holistic approach to health. It's not only about healthy eating, exercise and nutrition. It's also about natural living, avoiding everyday toxins, choosing organic where possible, avoiding pollution where possible. It's about stress management and healthy mind as well.
Take some time to think about what your ideal life looks like. Where are you living? Where are you career wise? How is your health and fitness? What ever areas are important for you, sit down and get clear on what you want your life to look like. You don't have to get too detailed, just get an idea of where you want to be.
You cannot force people to be happy. However you can remove the most common causes of unhappiness and create an environment in which it is much easier to be happy and fulfilled at work.
At 34 years of age, with just three months to go before my second child was due to be born, I quit my job without a backup plan. I quit because I was unhappy. Simple as that. Being miserable no longer felt like an inevitable outcome of being a responsible adult: I became convinced there was another way.
Our minds become cluttered, thoughts, ideas and memories whizzing around with no place to rest. If our environment mirrors this inner chaos, our senses pick up on it and the inner chaos is likely magnified.
This continual background stress, from multiple, unseen sources, gnaws away at our mental health. Some people don't notice it, though they may well resent feeling exhausted and cross at the end of the day. Others accept it as something that goes with the job - something to put up with until they retire, or until a better job comes along