Consumed by such pressures and self-perceived shortcomings, it is all-too-easy to believe that you need to become a better person. The trouble is this isn't conducive to achievable goal setting and setting unachievable goals usually just makes us feel worse.
The problem with happiness is that it makes us too comfortable; we strive for it and (some of us) eventually reach our destination only to find that it's so damn good that we want things to stay exactly how they are.
In many ways, as goals go this one is text book. It is time specific and has is broken down into, smaller steps that I must work towards each day. In its most basic form it goes: train, rest, eat, repeat, with the odd freak out moment thrown if for good measure, particularly revolving around diamante clad bikinis and transparent kitten heels!!! Who knew?!
So, FriendsReunited is to close down. Years before I ran charity campaigns, coffee awards, ten marathons, wrote some books and have now got to cycle for GB, I used to work in an office - running my own marketing company.
It is very easy to find ourselves stuck, to end up in a funk where we continue in a spiral downward slump of no return. To which I say STOP, you have what it takes to turn it all around and it starts with your mindset and outlook on your approach to life.
I googled, "happiness" and my journey began. I'd spent much of my life believing that my happiness was dependent on external circumstances: whether I was in a loving relationship, if my job was rewarding, and my family was content.
Like many other families, my parenting journey has been a challenging one so far. No matter how hard life gets though, there have always been moments of wonderfulness, amid even the toughest of days.
The media have coined the term 'Blue Monday' to describe the feeling that can overwhelm us mid-January. January is meant to be the first month of a blossoming new year, but for many of us it throws a spotlight on all the aspects of our life we aren't satisfied with.
In my opinion, the reason we are here on this planet is to be happy. I don't know how I formed this opinion - I suppose I feel it, rather than think it. Sometimes life gets hard and happiness seems elusive, but there are certain things we can do to help ourselves even in difficult circumstances.
Most of us would prefer to be supermodel DJ's who only have to work three days a year, but that isn't a real job unless you're asleep. The key to being happier in the workplace then becomes shifting your attitude to the job you do have.
I love am the type of person who tries their best to have a positive attitude, and there is definitely nothing I adore more than sharing the love and making others smile. One thing I do know is when you see the positive side off things, life seems a little better, a little easier, and you are able to make the most of the beautiful life that you have...
It's New Year. Everyone's turning over a new leaf. They're going to become the person they've always wanted to be. And each year there are trends in terms of the types of habits we adopt with a view to becoming different people.
Basically as you get older, you realise that you are not the only person in the world who worries about things. Everyone is riddled with insecurities, they just manifest them in different ways, or if they are really lucky, they have learned to overcome their difficulties (I recently re-read M Scott Peck's The Road Less Travelled and it was brilliant on this subject).
Many of us remember the tougher moments in the last year but rarely stop to reflect on everything that has gone well, made us feel good and even proud of ourselves. It's important to appreciate the good things in life as well as to learn from the bad experiences.
The festive period is over and if you are like me, today is probably the first day of getting back into your normal routine. When I say normal routine, I mean waking up around the same time each day to go to work and repeating the same actions day in and day out.
For at the end of the year there is a tendency for low self-esteemers like I used to be to look back with grey tinted glasses. 'I didn't go on that diet', 'I didn't get promoted', 'I didn't meet the one'. Social networks compound this by focussing on the glossy sides of life, making the gloomy crew feel even more useless, rubbish.