Take some time to think about what your ideal life looks like. Where are you living? Where are you career wise? How is your health and fitness? What ever areas are important for you, sit down and get clear on what you want your life to look like. You don't have to get too detailed, just get an idea of where you want to be.
You cannot force people to be happy. However you can remove the most common causes of unhappiness and create an environment in which it is much easier to be happy and fulfilled at work.
At 34 years of age, with just three months to go before my second child was due to be born, I quit my job without a backup plan. I quit because I was unhappy. Simple as that. Being miserable no longer felt like an inevitable outcome of being a responsible adult: I became convinced there was another way.
Our minds become cluttered, thoughts, ideas and memories whizzing around with no place to rest. If our environment mirrors this inner chaos, our senses pick up on it and the inner chaos is likely magnified.
This continual background stress, from multiple, unseen sources, gnaws away at our mental health. Some people don't notice it, though they may well resent feeling exhausted and cross at the end of the day. Others accept it as something that goes with the job - something to put up with until they retire, or until a better job comes along
As a young woman who has experienced both school life and University, I can honestly say that I have grown a lot intellectually since leaving school, where I can wear whatever I feel fit and it has by no means interrupted my learning. In fact, it has helped me distinguish myself from others and become the person that I want to be. Hang in there all those who are being given a hard time! It will get better and you'll soon have the freedom you desire!
Personally now with that mind-blowing wonder of hindsight, I can look back over the past twenty odd years, if not more of my life and I have to question whether the constant fretting that I seemed incapable of stopping served any purpose whatsoever.
She is our much-loved youngest child and her passion is football. So we took the momentous decision to move countries for her. Her father gave up his well-paid job, and we moved into a simple, sunny house near the beach in Phuket.
I feel like all I ever see on social media nowadays, as well as hear in every day life, is stuff like: "Why is so and so posting so many photos?" or "...
Finally, as individuals, we can attempt to tackle the issues of adaption and comparison directly. We can try to avoid comparing ourselves to others, and try to adapt to negative things quickly while staying appreciative of positive things. But governments can't do this for us. Or can they? Possibly through education, but I think I'll tackle that another time.
As women we spend so much of our time being negative about ourselves, inventing and obsessing over faults that aren't really faults at all. From body image to imposter syndrome, we play down our achievements and obsess over perceived inadequacies.
In reality older age is often a time of great happiness, free of many of the stresses and anxieties of younger people. But, this doesn't match the view of most people. My fear is that if we go into later life expecting the worst, that will become the reality.
Yes, I'm hideously jealous of children. When you're a kid it's all about the present moment. And they don't just expect joy, they demand it. How many times do you hear that high-pitched cry of "but I want it now!" when you're trying to enjoy your red wine in peace? But enough about church.
Spending more time abroad. More confident than before. Happier than ever. This could easily be mistaken for a description of a gap-year student or a ...
As I got closer to 30 life just seemed to get better and better. I met my now husband, I decided to become a teacher, I landed an amazing teaching job at an amazing SEN school and enjoyed travelling to some really amazing destinations.
Don't ever give up on love. One thing I believe to be true is that, life is ALWAYS conspiring on our behalf, and I have absolutely no regrets in any of it, no matter how hard it got (and boy did it get hard!!). Keep the faith, keep looking ahead and allow your heart to soften, and your dreams to blossom. Don't let life toughen you too much, often when there is a heartbreak it can be a blessing in disguise to allow an even better match in to your life.