It shouldn't come as any surprise to learn that children are for the most part pretty happy. After all, they have lots of play time, get everything done for them and don't have to worry about paying the bills.
Shock horror, it turns out that analysing your feelings and facing your every weakness is a recipe for crazy. There is now hardly a minute in the day when I don't think: Why did I say that? Why did I do that? Am I self-sabotaging? Am I scared of being vulnerable?
I hate commuting. Don't we all! Eh? However, I don't hate the act of travelling from one place to another. I can read a book (retro), I can obsessively play games on my phone, I can snack on stuff I've found in my handbag... So if that's the case, why do we hate commuting? Because: strangers. And lots of them. Getting right up in your grill.
For many people, "single" is some what of a dirty word. They hope that it's a temporary thing, that soon they'll bump into the love of their life and finally, they won't be the dreaded single anymore, they'll be half of a duo, cloaked in the security of a relationship. While there is nothing wrong with falling in love, there is also nothing wrong with being single.
My sessions of talk therapy back at university helped my story telling. Every week, I'd walk through one of the colleges, past the restaurant where students were sitting and laughing with each other, past the duck pond where the college cat was watching hungrily from behind the bushes, to a door tucked away behind a wall -- Counselling.
If you knew of a method to help students improve their grades, their self-discipline, their focus, and their ability to manage stress, would you consider offering it in schools? If the side effects included stronger interpersonal relationships and increased intelligence, would you still consider it?
No matter what anyone says, the stresses involved with parenting are unlike any other stresses that exist. As a father of two, I know that despite the best parenting efforts, boiling point will be experienced with a number of situations no matter what you do to keep your emotions under control.
For those of us working to popularise mental health though, the focus of World Mental Health Day can be frustratingly negative, dominated by discussions of mental illness and defined more by the differences between us than the things that unite us.
How many times have you heard the term 'follow your passion' or 'find your passion'? Probably a few. What you haven't heard is that you don't need to tie your passion to one activity or thing. You can choose to live your whole life with it.
You put in the word 'banana' and you find out how many people have googled banana in the last month. Or if you really want to know, the trends in banana interest over the last 12 months. Search terms and their popularity reveal a mine of information about our interests and perhaps our psychology.
A few weeks ago I had a breakdown. It was pretty spectacular. A masterclass firework display engineered by a consummate pyrotechnic expert. No expense was spared as multicolours rained down from the sky in all shapes and forms. This episode was like something I never experienced before. I lost myself. Albeit just for a moment...
For years, failing was solely based on how I thought others saw me and how I felt I should be acting in accordance to how others were acting. "I haven't been photographed like this person has", "why don't I get in magazines like that person"... These thoughts were rife. What was missing actually was a concentration on what I actually wanted and thought was important.
To varying extents, we're all influenced by the people around us. If the people surrounding us are positive, inspiring and uplifting, then we tend to feel positive, inspired and elevated. On the other hand, if the people around us are negative and downbeat, then we tend to feel just that.
It happens to all of us as we get older- we find the richness of our memories satiating, filling us with a sort of glee that the thought of things past becomes more than enough. Age is rued by many but it can be a joyful experience. When I was little I wanted to be older.
Everybody will make mistakes - in their career, in their relationships, with their finances, and in every other facet of their life. But happy people make sure they learn from their mistakes and from difficult times so they don't continue to repeat themselves over and over and over again.
The feeling of being trapped is a horrible feeling, when pushed into the corner we usually make irrational choices that further worsen the situation and prolong the suffering. If you're feeling trapped, with debts increasing and that light at the end of the tunnel is appearing further away then GET HELP! Remove any pride from your situation and reach out; you'll thank me if you do!