As I've got older, I've had to adjust to the 'cloak of invisibility' slowly descending around me, as the male gaze opts for a younger, fresher target. At first, I felt really sad about it, but as the months have gone on, I've realised that it is one of the most liberating things that has ever happened to me.
How many of us are only one short step away from a disastrous life-changing event whether it be loss of a job, a loved one, an accident, repossessed house, illness. We can never be sure what is coming round that next bend but are we prepared? How can we be?
I appreciate how serious mental health conditions can be. I spent most of my life suffering from intense anxiety and had three psychotic breakdowns to boot. I know many people never recover from these experiences, and this is why I feel duty-bound to write on the subject.
How many of us choose something - a car, house, job, career, partner, or life - and then complain about it? What a tremendous amount of wasted energy!
It would be easy for me to say that I wish I had a smaller nose, no lines on my face, and a thinner torso. But if I had all those things, would my life be suddenly improved? No. Because those things don't define me. They don't affect the way I live.
Unfortunately, people believe they can be happy when they achieve a particular goal. It's really not achieving the goal that makes them happy. It's the feeling of achieving the goal that provides another feeling, satisfaction perhaps, that is mistaken for happiness.
Taking the time for yourself can be seriously one of the most difficult tasks we all undertake each week. Some people love to be always engaged be it on line or with people 24/7, others are happy enough on their own and of course there are many who like the balance between both.
If we are always projecting, and reflecting, then the people we are surrounded by, should give us an indication of the type of love that surrounds us. Of what we put out into the universe, we get back.
If you're missing the pieces from your own "life puzzle", you can never expect to take those pieces from someone else's. Whose puzzle looks very, very different from your own. If you do, You'll always be searching for that "missing piece". Tirelessly searching. And often fruitlessly.
You already have everything in you: you are embodying a soul. Your soul has come here to express, to create, to experiment, to love - but mainly your soul is a loving being. And the most important thing in terms of love, is loving yourself.
Dutch children are regularly found to be the happiest in the world, according to those who measure these things. And as an expat raising children in the Netherlands it's easy to see why.
There are a lot of articles going round about the difference between "being hot" or "being beautiful" as a woman, and usually in those articles, men get slagged off for liking a hot and sexy woman, but what is wrong with that?
When I'm old and lonely I don't want my life to read: He was born and then he died and not much happened in between! I want to make my son and family proud, I want to sit in my old chair and tell tales of triumph!
There are few places today where we aren't able to see our reflection - mirrors abound, selfies taken at every opportunity not to mention the media obsession with perfect looks. Yoga is one of the only spaces where all devices are out of sight and the external is abandoned.
After the excitement and exhaustion post Christmas and New Year, February is a month of great miracle cure. Could taking care of yourself help you find true love? Could creating a nourishing, balanced lifestyle lead you to your Mr or Ms Right? Could focusing on yourself, how you feel inside and out play a part? Hell, Yes!
I stopped analysing a long time ago if the question was an enviously malicious put-down or a genuine, earnest search for content. Either way the answer is usually, "No one. Just me." And those words fuel me.