Think about the values you hold and the principles you live by; those things which are so important to you that if you get wronged it strikes you to the very core. For example, one of mine is consideration. It's up there alongside being heard and being treated with respect.
Having had various stints of therapy over the years, I now have a pretty good idea how I ended up unconsciously doing what everyone else, mainly parents and boyfriends, wanted me to do, but what if you don't have the luxury of the therapist's couch?
As human beings we have a tremendous capacity to respond positively and purposefully in the face of challenge. We have the ability to act on our goals and commitments even when we don't feel like it.
Successful people come from all backgrounds, you can be a success at any age and men and women have every chance of being a success at what they do. This means that personality traits and actions are more likely to be an indicator of success, and these are some of the traits you will find in a broad range of successful people.
If, for one moment, we'd think that those ''perfect'' people may have imperfections too, we'd be much more open to actually experiencing what they're about. As the truth is, they are far from being perfect, we all are.
According to the Dalai Lama, all people have one thing in common: they want to be happy. And it is true, all people do want to be happy - it's just that some of us partake in behaviours, that although may bring us some temporary relief, are also destructive to us in the long run.
Step parents bring added joy into your life in the form of additional families. Obviously in some cases this can go awry and people don't always get on, but I've been lucky in the fact that I can count my step-parent's families as my own. They're all wonderful.
Yes, all reality is virtual. Each of us has a nervous system that is creating a highly individualized experience. The goal is not to see things the same way as everyone else, but to work effectively with others who see it differently.
Am I saying I don't believe in happiness? No. I'm saying that mindfulness practice has helped me to discover a different definition of contentment, one which isn't so limited. Here are three ways we can use mindfulness to help us re-frame happiness, and find a little more of it right now.
When it comes to aims and ambitions in life, most people admit that their main aim in life is to be happy. This will mean different things for different people, but when you feel happy, you are relaxed, you are content and you are more confident.
ife and death are the great pretenders, the illusionists who compel us to make sense of the hand we have been dealt with and even that is the luck of the draw (or karma, for some). Every day we are challenged and struggle to make sense of our world but that doesn't mean we have to give in to fear, worse yet, to a fear of ourselves.
Your brain has an illogical filtering system. For every 10 comments you receive, only the two negative ones will stay at the top. The rest whether neutral or positive will barely be acknowledged, let alone remembered.
Given that everyone is different and we all have our own ideas about what constitutes personal growth, it stands to reason that some people would benefit from one form of therapy while other people would benefit from another form of therapy.
Sometimes we look to the wrong things to fulfil us or make ourselves happy, I believe happiness comes from simplicity. Look at your life and see what really has made you feel good and in a place where things are balanced and content.
Even the careers of our dreams can become dissatisfying. These guys have funds which allow them more choices. For them walking away knowing you have a golden egg in the bank, with the only possible downside being that you may have to sell the second weekend house in Malibu, doesn't seem the end of the world. But what can the rest of us do when we are 'just not feeling it anymore' and walking away isn't the simple option?
I love meditating because it acts as an anchor, gives me a foundation and keeps me calm. However, it's the retreats that do me in. Spending a week disconnected from normal life and daily distractions is a recipe for disaster.