Having been on the conference circuit over the last few months (Wellbeing at Work, HR Summit Barcelona and CIPD Annual Conference) we've heard the term 'resilience' being discussed in many of the seminars and break-out sessions. Many delegates have wanted to discuss that word on our stand, too:
Many people have a predisposed way of seeing the bad things in life. We could look to evolution for some of the reasons why we do this. Eg: it makes sense for our ancestor who lives in the wilderness to be keenly focused on what could be negative or dangerous in order to survive.
The Guardian recently reported on a "socially irresponsible" TV ad from Diet Chef being banned by the Advertising Standards Authority (ASA). The ad p...
The best part about these exercise choices is that they are designed to make you feel better by the time you get to the end of it. When exercise makes you feel good it's the best positive reinforcement for sticking with it and maintaining your motivation. So, here they are!
In times of turmoil, what better than to turn to the statistics. What do they say about children and happiness? At first sight, it's not good. Most of the data seems to indicate that having children makes you less happy.
I've spoken to a lot of wonderfully inspiring people for the 'behind the scenes of creativity' podcast that I've been making every week since the summ...
They would have kept their heads down, denied knowledge of the envelope's existence, and not reached out to help that person as I had done. But if we opt for the former, what is the message we're passing on to future generations?
Our conversations about the wider world are often framed with negativity - whether it's about terrorist threats, disasters, corrupt politicians or school bullying. But the world is also full of inspiring stories of hope, progress and generosity - and by choosing to focus on these, we again open up the space for very different conversations. As Alain de Botton said, "the secret to a good conversation is sharing our vulnerabilities and dreams". So let's have more conversations that matter.
But we do have a place in the world, there's no need to fashion one out of thin air. We're part of a wonderfully diverse and tolerant society, and an incredibly complex ecosystem. We fulfill our potential by simply living and working, and being nice to each other and the environment.
When you find the person you want to spend the rest of your life with, you don't necessarily expect it to be a walk in the park. Living with someone can be intense. We are all individuals and we will all have things about us that can grate on the other. That is human nature. It's how you handle it that matters.
When I hear these comments, I usually smile and say nothing. But on the inside I find it really hurtful to be stereotyped in this way, and treated like there is something wrong with me just because I have not got the perfect husband or perfect family life.
What do I know? Very little in truth. But at reaching 32 I decided to set myself a handbook. A guidebook list if you like of pointers to keep a smile on my face. We are human beings and more often than not we forget about the little things but mostly we're all in the same boat. Here is some of my advice and inevitabilities.
This can feel so overwhelming and frustrating because it makes you feel like you're wasting your life; coasting through with no idea why you're on the planet. A lack of purpose in life is a really common cause for depression.
Today, this little Human Bean is sixteen and preparing for medical school (though her parents are trying to entice her to choose a simpler life). She plays football and basketball internationally, and often struggles to balance her sporting commitments with the heavy academic workload.
I don't know much, but I do know that the world needs more strong women. Ones who will volunteer for the messy work when it needs to be done. Ones who'll stand up to the bullies who try and put them down.
It's so easy to stay settled in our comfort zone waiting for 'someone' to come along and tell us it's OK to leave. Only we can give ourselves that permission. We can quieten that voice in our heads that says "you're not allowed to do that' and shout back: "Actually I am!"