The skill of dropping a ruminative cycle about what is wrong and putting attention on what is possible and what works is invaluable in any circumstance. When it comes to taking useful action, you can count on your survival brain to produce convincing reasons to procrastinate.
I used to read a great deal about spirits and how to lead a life that is "spiritual" with the hope and desire to find answers to so many questions that I used to ask. Always dreaming that the next book would hold the key - a great deal of my time was spent searching. Book after book, chapter after chapter, always seeking and asking and not a great deal of "doing".
We all know that seeing a friend has this positive effect, but sometimes we repeatedly push it away in pursuit of happiness by other means. But in the pursuit of "achieving" this other happiness, we usually neglect what we know does make us happy: spending time with friends.
When you're shaken, bent on your knees with hands over your face; far too many times, we almost always accept defeat right away. However, failure doesn't teach us to accept defeat, it teaches us that every time we fall down, there's nothing more important than growing up and getting back up.
Did you know that studies prove that this one act can make you 25 percent happier? It boosts your immunity to anger, disappointment and frustration. It's even been shown to heal pain and can certainly heal relationships, especially with your own beautiful self and miraculous body.
Your survival brain is constantly storing patterns of associations so that it doesn't miss something potentially threatening. When it recognises a pattern, then it creates feelings - a combination of sensations and thoughts - to trigger a behaviour that "worked" in the past. This is why you find yourself waiting until you feel like doing something to do it.
I see how people in my life deal with problems- some emotionally eat, some shut down, some just shut off, some drink and some just let it build. Me, I train. Why? Because from this I can get a fresh perspective on everything, I take the time for myself and get a reprieve away from all the madness that goes on and can simply just enjoy the movement, the pain!
Over the last few years I've seen the fear or failure on the increase, with many opting for the security, unhappy, unfulfilled, hidden within an underpaid job, rather than branching out and living the life they desire and deserve - with more or less financial abundance, but a lot less happiness.
The very receptors that are sending signals to our brain subconsciously tell us whether we are wearing shoes or whether that hand is really pleasant to touch, or 'That skin is so soft, it brought back fond memories' or even as simple as 'He feels safe'.
There has been a lot written about happiness in the workplace recently - what it does for efficiencies, productivity, staff retention and loyalty. So I am not being entirely altruistic. I think if I succeed in creating a happy company I will probably deliver against the 'harder' objectives I get set every year far more easily.
I may grow old but I will never "wear the bottom of my trousers rolled", unless I'm at the beach. Partly, because I'm not an east London hipster, but mostly because I am six feet four inches tall and spent my entire childhood wearing ankle flappers because of poverty, not style.
Millions of us suffer from depression and stress. I held onto mine like a badge of honor. Having survived a damaging childhood, divorce and cancer in the family, I though my suffering was hard won and I wanted my Oscar. But I got fed up of waking up every morning reminding myself everything that was wrong in my life.
The people behind Compassion Week want to give the c-word a bit of a makeover. They have called on the City of San Francisco and the State of California "to make compassion a guiding principle for their businesses and public services", and are staging a series of gatherings and discussions from Monday to Sunday to explain what this means - and how it can be achieved.
Today, everything is different. I'm continuously telling good stories about my life. It's this positive storytelling of your own life that is a first step out of a depression. When I reflect on how I became free of my depression, I see that I accomplished it by practicing 3 life-changing habits deeply connected with our ability to laugh.
The shortest route to you wanting to tear your hair out and scream is to tell an ungrateful child to feel grateful for something. It's counterproductive to try and force kids to feel something they're not feeling. Children need to develop a meaningful, genuine sense of gratitude over time; we can't impose it upon them.
Stress is highly personal and something that can be attributed to one or more factors. It's these factors that can bring about stress in varying speeds, environments and locations. The following six catalysts are considered to be the most common, and can be attributed to the main causes of stress.