Dads often suffer a crisis of masculinity, particularly stay-at-home dads who rely on their partner as the breadwinner, finding themselves reluctant to ask for money from the partner, which goes against their natural instinct as a male, to be able to provide, to be self-sufficient and a role model to their child.
I have spent a lot of time in the last few years trying to understand what happiness means for me. I am definitely not an expert, and my girlfriend will (correctly) tell you that I don't always practise what I preach. But as I've gone along, I've come across a handful of recurring and inspiring themes.
Aging is about saying goodbye and a reminder of the ephemeral nature of life. Botox and plastic surgery are the favoured companions of many these days but they appeal to our fear of life and by inference, death. It is a sad indictment of our society that we do not value older people or the process of aging.
From the moment I was handed your death certificate, I have had to reluctantly crawl and claw my way back to what non spouse bereaved members of society would call 'normal' whilst crippled by nerves and anxiety, my physical and mental health continually hanging by a thread during a drunken haze of euphoric reflection.
With Valentine's Day fast approaching, there must be many men (and some very modern women) who have a diamond-filled ring box ready to be opened, along with THE question of their life. But where to pop the question? And what with? There's some planning to do it seems, even before thinking about the actual wedding.