Check out that couple over there, having a wonderfully overpriced, candlelit, dinner for two, 'enjoying' their Valentine's Day? He trolls the dating apps under an alias and she can only orgasm with the lights off, imagining Dan the repair man who came round last month to fix the boiler. Don't you just envy them so much? No, not really? Exactly!
The Burnout Queens love Love; big Love, small Love, puppy Love! Of course we are talking about Love today! In past years we've 'done' Love (with a capital L), we've definitely talked about self-love and yes we have even explored the steamy kind, but love of work, loving what you do, is not necessarily the dot that gets connected to hearts and flowers.
Valentine's Day started, of course, to commemorate the occasion in 346AD when a valentine was crucified on a heart-shaped Thorntons milk tray. Ever since in the lead up to Valentine's Day people desperately seek a date to prove they're not fundamentally unloveable, these days often using dating apps like Tinder, OK Cupid and LinkedIn.
I know, I know, you don't feel it, and we're all looking younger these days, but mother nature doesn't lie and, like it or not, you are beginning to swim in a pool of younger fish. Which isn't necessarily a bad thing (give me Angelina Jolie over Emma Watson any day) but it does mean you need to be realistic about the kind of men you're going for.
Love is not a cure for mental illness, in that the simple presence of love in someone's life will never be able to change the fact that they are mentally ill, or the way in which their illness presents itself. The presence of love alone is not what cures ailments, or heals wounds, or makes a life worth living.
While Room has the makings of a terrifyingly real horror story or psychological thriller, director Lenny Abrahamson refuses to diminish or cheapen Donoghue's life-affirming story with gimmicks or horror-movie-frights, and instead creates a heart-breaking, and paradoxically heart-warming, masterpiece of cinema which tells a story of human spirit, hope and the incomparable love between a mother and her child.
All I am saying is that it's not fun meeting the right person who's home is so far away. I guess my advice is although you can't choose who you fall for you can choose how you handle the situation and maybe some things are best left where you found them but if you're like me you often have to take the chance to find out.
I married myself in 2014 and after an article in the Guardian newspaper went viral six months later, the story about my decision was featured in press around the world. I've been interviewed about the topic time and time again, for radio, TV and print. It wasn't until a recent walk in an Austrian forest though, that I felt I had much to share on the topic of self-love.
Me and my other Outsiders volunteers (we all work for free as we can't get funding) have enjoyed watching the members of Outsiders find partners and sometimes shared their grief when the partner has passed away. It is quite common for disabled people to die earlier than the rest of us. Members say they get more support from Outsiders than either their families or other friends!