We've all been there and felt the numbing ache in pit of our stomach when a relationship comes to an end. Whether or not you knew deep down it wasn't meant to be or whether you were the person who ended things, it rarely makes a difference. You're sad, you're hurt and you're also committed to making the next few months the most painful, and memorable, for yourself.
When you understand your love language and your partners, you finally realise you've been expressing your love to each other in different ways. They might tell you they love you by spending hours making the perfect gift for you. You might tell them you love them by holding their hand and giving them a big squeeze.
I have lay-ins on weekends. I make sure I am the one who tends to our babes at night, every night, since their births. I let my husband sleep. I make dinner, he makes dinner, sometimes one of us does more, the other does something different. We are always doing something of value to add to our family.
For the fellas those six words are just so easy. They say it how it is and leave broken hearts trailing in their wake, seemingly without a care. For us girls, it's a little tougher. Unless you've got a truly cold-heart, when we want to give someone the flick we have to consider the emotions involved; primarily guilt.
The only solution for your lifetime of happiness is to start with yourself, and prepare (and often repair) your self-esteem to a level where you can and will be happy if you are on your own. Once you have achieved this, then dating becomes a joyful experience of meeting people who could potentially join your life, and provide even greater happiness.