So I want more kindness in my life, where do I start? Well, counter-intuitively authentic kindness starts with being kind to yourself. Sure you can just go out and do good or volunteer but if you're judging yourself harshly or not forgiving yourself for past mistakes then any act of kindness will be conditional, the real incentive will be to make you feel better about yourself.
We've all wanted to change how we feel at some point. Perhaps you drink coffee to feel more alert before arriving at work. Or maybe you've considered taking up yoga to help wind down at the end of the day. Personally, I like the idea of meditation, but with a busy job and family life I have no idea when I'd find the time.
I am going to eat more fruits and vegetables, still exercise, but it's time to shift my focus. I was put here for a reason and for me it's about serving in a way that feels authentic. I am going to go with the flow more, focus on what's important and for me that feels like a summer of camp fires, belly laughs and beaches.
From the moment we wake up until the moment we go to bed, there are so many things we can get annoyed with: traffic noise, your partner leaving a news...
Be honest. Most importantly be honest with yourself. Find your truth, what you believe in and what feels right to you. Resist the temptation to convince yourself of something you don't really believe in because others do so. Live your truth and have integrity.
The urgent need for a gift for my husband has found me in a pottery cafe, yet again, ruining perfectly good mugs with our children's painted footprints. The irony is not lost on the toddler, who notes that I am less enthused about her handprints when they adorn the TV screen, the folding doors and my white shorts.
In my parent's generation there was a sea change in health behaviour. Not so long ago smoking was considered normal, diets were conducive to heart disease and exercise was a marginal pursuit. In just fifty years most people acknowledge the importance of exercise and diet. Smoking has become a marginal pursuit. There has been a huge tipping point.
Why do we always need to find someone to blame for our discomfort in being alive? If I can figure out this 'c' thing I may be able to save the world or at least myself.
Part of my illness (a trigger) is when I hear I'm going to meet someone like Matt and I immediately want to look up which one of us sold more books. I have learned to hold back because if it's him, I know I'm going to get that jolt in the stomach that signifies envy and if I accumulate a lot of them, I can tip into the foothills of madness.
Meditation and mindfulness are SO on trend right now, but in the age of the 'mindful' colouring book, are these ancient practises in danger of becoming just another buzzword?
Recently, an old student got in touch. She had been on one of my earliest courses, and said she was struggling. Mindfulness had helped her in the past, but at the moment she was feeling terrible.
It's a strange thing, living in a holiday resort: particularly strange, maybe, when you haven't always lived there and it used to be somewhere you went for a daytrip on a Summer day.
It's so easy to get consumed by things, stuff, and living in your head. This results in a missing out on the moment to moment experience of life. We can find ourselves clinging to thoughts, both good and bad. Being on autopilot, at home and at work, not stopping to take in the moments results in less ease.
Facts: The current annual economic cost of mental illness in the UK is £70billion, which is equal to the entire National Health budget. By 2030, the World Health Organization predicts more people will be affected by depression than any other health problem.
My OCD became worse when I was around people. So I spent a lot my life escaping into an imaginary world. My art allowed me to concoct a whole new universe without fear, without anxiety. Even now, painting allows me to breath and for the self-doubt to stop.
We have about 60,000 thoughts per day, or 42 thoughts per minute! That's right... We are more in our head than in the world. We interpret and dissect the world in our head, and create our own truth, our own reality. We decide on actions according to our conclusions. Therefore, it is logical to say that our thoughts create our reality.