2017 so far has made me think about what's important; what really doesn't matter and should be put aside. So I've been clearing my way gradually through cupboards, wardrobes and drawers. More than ever I've been wondering what on earth possesses me when I'm shopping... and how I've missed this when I've been tidying up before.
For sure, I would miss out on a medal, a t-shirt and 97 Facebook likes. But how does a hefty medal compare to the resilience gained from grinding out those long runs (and many quinoa salads)? How does 97 likes stack up against achieving a hitherto unachievable goal?
We need language to be able to label feelings; to make sense of them. Without words, we'd be like an emotional washing machine on ultra-high with no 'off' switch. If you try to repress them, they will eventually erupt like Vesuvius when you least expect. Suddenly out of nowhere, one Christmas morning, you'll try to beat your mother-in-law over the head with a plunger and you'll never know why.
When modern secular mindfulness was developed, it took Buddhist psychology as its raw material. The insights that form the foundations of mindfulness ...
I travelled from my home in Glasgow last week to see my parents in Northern Ireland. This was the first visit home without my husband or kids for years. Having the opportunity to press pause on our hectic family life for just a couple of days felt like such a precious gift
The first physical signs of stress I remember having were on my hands. They were red, itchy and shaking. The irony is that I can't even remember exac...
Oscar Wilde said, "Be yourself; everyone else is taken." Although it's a great idea to just be ourself, one of our greatest fears is to show our true ...
Across the world, communities are coming together to find a more balanced way of life. The stresses of modern day living are taking their toll and people are searching for deeper connections with each other and the natural world. Many are feeling a pull to go back to the roots and lead a simpler day to day routine, getting in touch with a mindful approach to being.
Fast forward eight years and three children later and I am only just starting to be more open about these topics of conversation. This is important because I don't want my own children, nor the teenagers whom I teach, to feel there is a stigma connected with mental illness.
I routinely get between 7 and 8 hours sleep a night, but is it good sleep? You know, the kind that refreshes and restores, because to be frank, I don't always bounce out of bed each morning feeling fully rested and powered up ready to go.
They open their mouths to laugh and then they'll open their hearts. This isn't a small circle of people suffering from mental illness doing group therapy, this is a theatre, sometimes up to a thousand seats. So after the interval I just sit on stage and, God bless them, their hands go up apprehensively at first, then after a while with more urgency, to talk about their lives.
I suffer from an illness called depression and sadly it is an illness that will always be there. There are times when I feel really good and there are times when I feel really bad. While my illness is a part of who I am, it doesn't define who I am. Even on those dark days when I feel as though it has engulfed me.
Ten emails filled with free next day deliveries and 10% off today only. Eight different social media sponsored posts with free trials, hot new trends and more. Two bus stop banners, one in store point of sale display and a mail-drop brochure through the door. Two magazine covers promising that if I wear 'x' I will get a promotion or feel more confident.
A lot of difficulties with your boss can be resolved by understanding your nature and your boss' nature. By truly listening to the spoken communication that lives in the realm of "being human", you can effectively dissolve the individual from being the rock that blocks your career progress.
The idea is that "it's OK to not be OK," These meetings are not for people suffering mental illness at the time of the meeting - it's important that you know that we don't offer therapy. You may have suffered in the past or know someone who is suffering so we'll advise you where to go to get help.
Buddhism is variously described as a spiritual tradition, a religion and a philosophy. Now I can't possibly do justice to the ancient wisdom of Buddhism in a short post like this. And I in no way want to distort or dilute these ideas. But as a psychologist I have been astounded at the psychological insight that is to be found in Buddhist teachings.