Open Relationships

When Your Boyfriend Loses His Lover

Louisa Leontiades | Posted 08.09.2014 | UK Lifestyle
Louisa Leontiades

In an open relationship you have experiences which are a rarity in other people's lives. You welcome jealousy as a teacher. You challenge what a relationship really means. But the questions that are asked and answered in the polyamorous literature rarely cover the topic... what to do when your boyfriend is grieving the loss of his lover.

Vagina Wars

Louisa Leontiades | Posted 21.10.2014 | UK Lifestyle
Louisa Leontiades

It was in March of this year when Jenny Block, celebrated author of Open: Love, Sex and Life in an Open Marriage, wrote a counter argument in Huffingt...

My Boyfriend's New Love

Louisa Leontiades | Posted 18.10.2014 | UK Lifestyle
Louisa Leontiades

Four months ago I met a JLo woman. She's a ten. Oh, is she a ten. I've seen her in her pyjamas and no makeup. She's still a ten. She's my boyfriend's new love.

How Passive Communication Killed My Open Relationship

Louisa Leontiades | Posted 05.10.2014 | UK Lifestyle
Louisa Leontiades

Some people do have aggressive communication strategies, which will alienate others, generate fear and tend to blame others rather than taking responsibility for their own issues. But direct does not have to be aggressive. Nor should you assume it since this in itself can create a self fulfilling prophecy. Direct can also be compassionate.

Open Relationships for Monogamous People

Louisa Leontiades | Posted 28.08.2014 | UK Lifestyle
Louisa Leontiades

There's a rumour going around, propagated by [some] polyamorists, that polyamory is a superior ideology to monogamy. Let's face it, 'limitless love' does sound wholly honorable and blissful, even if 'limitless sex' with multiple partners sounds ~ for most of our sex-negative society ~ quite the opposite.

The Surrealism of Polyamory - Meeting the Other-In-Laws

Louisa Leontiades | Posted 08.03.2014 | UK Lifestyle
Louisa Leontiades

When you're openly polyamorous, you're so used to criticism that it starts to be rather trite and almost inevitable. But whilst hearing it from strangers doesn't hurt, hearing it from your new boyfriend's Mum might be a little more personal.

Love, Mindfulness and Zen in an Open Relationship

Louisa Leontiades | Posted 16.02.2014 | UK Lifestyle
Louisa Leontiades

My new boyfriend wants a family. Never say never, but it probably won't be with me. Because you see, I already have a beautiful family with my [equally beautiful] core partner of 6 years.

Anarchy From Within - How Germans Practise Free Love

Louisa Leontiades | Posted 08.02.2014 | UK Lifestyle
Louisa Leontiades

Even if 'Unity, Justice and Freedom' is considered the unofficial national motto, that's not what springs to mind when foreigners think of Germany. You might think immediately of their incredible organization, their love of rules and beautifully shameless attitude to sex.

What Does Non-Traditional Relationship Utopia Look Like?

Louisa Leontiades | Posted 23.01.2014 | UK Lifestyle
Louisa Leontiades

What if you could be openly welcomed with both your lovers at the local chemist... what if coming out as trans, queer or poly was simply one of many choices during adolescence... what if going to a dungeon to play kinky games on a Saturday night was as accepted as going out for a curry... What would the world look like?

Three Big Questions About Open Relationships

Louisa Leontiades | Posted 23.01.2014 | UK Lifestyle
Louisa Leontiades

Being pregnant and not sexually exclusive is the ultimate challenge to monogamous thinking. There are even expressions which belie our patriarchal history - 'She's carrying MY baby'. Pregnant women are 'holy vessels' not important in of themselves but as objects carrying the male seed; so much so that sex during pregnancy ~ even with the father ~ is taboo to many.

Why Jealousy Is a Wonderful Opportunity

Louisa Leontiades | Posted 23.01.2014 | UK Lifestyle
Louisa Leontiades

Is your relationship in danger of breaking up? Then your jealousy is shouting at you to 'wake the fuck up' and work on it. And if your relationship is fine (polyamorous or otherwise) it tells you that you have deeper rooted self-esteem issue.

What Will the Land of Liberty Make of Polyamory?

Louisa Leontiades | Posted 23.01.2014 | UK Lifestyle
Louisa Leontiades

To sugar-coat an unspoken truth: polyamory seeks to upend a many thousand-year-old narrative about ownership. We don't own our daughter's virginity. Husbands don't own their wives. Wives don't own their husbands.

My Problem With Monogamy - Comfort Instead of Happiness

Louisa Leontiades | Posted 23.01.2014 | UK Lifestyle
Louisa Leontiades

Monogamy is designed to keep couples together by creating barriers of exit; socially; financially and psychologically. One cannot look at the divorce statistics to ascertain how successful it is; this only proves how many couples remain married. Not how many couples remain happily married...

The Exposed Wound - How Polyamory Healed Our Codependent Relationship

Louisa Leontiades | Posted 23.01.2014 | UK Lifestyle
Louisa Leontiades

As the seed of co-dependency is unhealed and 'impactful' childhood trauma, so in our fear ridden and controlling society the phenomenon of codependency is extremely common. Since codependency attracts codependency in every relationship.

Seven Things You Should Know About Open Relationships

Louisa Leontiades | Posted 23.01.2014 | UK Lifestyle
Louisa Leontiades

So you've thought about it, and you think you might want to try an open relationship. An open relationship means more sex, right? Well, maybe. But not before you've done a lot of talking.

Are You Ready to Open Your Relationship?

Louisa Leontiades | Posted 16.11.2013 | UK Lifestyle
Louisa Leontiades

It's a fact. Whilst most humans might have an inclination to 'pair bond' many of us also have a roving eye. At a biological level our most successful survival tactic is not - as the church might tell you - remain faithful and worship a deity in the hope of salvation, it is to breed with many partners.

A Slut by Any Other Name - Why Polyamory Doesn't (Necessarily) Mean Promiscuity

Louisa Leontiades | Posted 09.11.2013 | UK Lifestyle
Louisa Leontiades

My friend said "My boyfriend doesn't want you to come over. He thinks you're a slut who's just going to jump into bed and have sex with us." I could only assume from this statement that he had mistaken the word 'polyamorist' for 'rapist'.

The Hell of Monogamy - A Polyamorist Perspective

Louisa Leontiades | Posted 25.10.2013 | UK Lifestyle
Louisa Leontiades

In trying to fit their round polyamorous selves into a monogamous square hole, they will ultimately fail and repeat a pattern of guilt and self loathing which contributes further to lower their self esteem. Their obvious failures and misery are compounded by the disgust of their peers, parents and often even their friends.

What's So Great About Open Relationships Anyway? (It's not what you think!)

Louisa Leontiades | Posted 19.10.2013 | UK Lifestyle
Louisa Leontiades

In fact the most successful relationships are those where we can respect and love one another as we truly are. That means loving enough to allow each other to explore the fulfillment of our fundamental needs. It is the ultimate and only way to truly love...

Why Free Love Doesn't Belong in the Bedroom

Louisa Leontiades | Posted 10.10.2013 | UK Lifestyle
Louisa Leontiades

We're talking about plural relationships. It's an act, preference and/or inclination that our society usually doesn't talk about and most of the time condemns outright as 'adulterous'. It's a choice that polarizes and has been described as shameful, abusive and downright disgusting.

The Changing Terms of Fidelity

Jack Flanagan | Posted 14.12.2012 | UK Lifestyle
Jack Flanagan

In the LGBT community, the sense of change is strong because the dynamics of two people of the same gender trying to have a relationship are inevitably going to be different, and there is, therefore, not real expectation or tradition for homosexual relationships.

A Fractious Date With the Volatile Guy Who Was the Marrying Kind

The Guyliner | Posted 31.07.2012 | UK Lifestyle
The Guyliner

The old saying goes that the Devil finds work for idle hands, but he also seems to run an interesting sideline in spicing up long, boring afternoons.