For many South Asian women to simply talk about sex, sexuality and/or desire are topics which are difficult to discuss. Even as I write this, I feel like I'm walking on eggshells and having to be overly cautious with what I want to say - which says a lot if you think about it...
Without trusted information from schools, young people will turn to less reliable sources such as the internet or their peers as they navigate life outside the classroom. We must end this silence and make age-appropriate SRE mandatory in all schools if we are to tackle this safeguarding crisis. Young people have now told us loud and clear what kind of SRE they want. In our report, 99% of young people wanted SRE to be taught in all schools. 97% wanted it to be LGBT inclusive. The government must listen and act, and give our young people the tools to make positive and informed decisions, and to have healthy relationships, which they are ready for and want - wherever they go to school, and whatever their sexuality.
As a relationship and leadership coach this feels like the equivalent of asking a whole bunch of people you don't know to vote as to whether you should stay married or not. There is no trial separation. Their result is final. You might be going through a rocky patch but that's no reason to give up or abdicate responsibility.
The idea that all men want skinny women is one of the most pernicious myths of our time, promoted by a media obsessed with portraying thinness as good.
Understanding what's going on is crucial to getting a handle on it, for us and for those around us. In no particular order of preference, here are a few things I would like people to know.
Shyness has a cute vulnerability to it and can be more loveable than confidence. We think if you're not confident you won't stand out, but what really makes people see one another is resonance.
London is a fickle city and its relationships are too. With so many people coming and going, it's not exactly an environment for a stable love life and just when you get in the groove with someone and think you're making some headway, you'll find you've taken three steps backwards. How did that happen?
Infant mental health (IMH) refers to how well a child develops socially and emotionally. Because babies' worlds are mostly made up of their parents or carers, their mental health is heavily influenced by the care they receive and quality of the baby-carer relationship.
Men who subsequently go on to find a new partner, and perhaps have children with them, find it very hard to shake off feelings of guilt for not being able to be with all of their children, all of the time. Often they try and reduce these feelings by always 'being there' for their children.
Last week saw the UKs first infant mental health awareness week which sought to unpack the critical social currency of earliest relationships and why this matters for supporting good mental health outcomes for children.
For anyone in a new relationship, WhatsApp can make you go a little insane. You send him a message. One tick. He has received it. Two ticks. He has read it. Blue ticks. You can see he is online. Nothing. He comes offline. Paranoia kicks in.
Getting divorced can knock you sideways emotionally, physically and mentally and make you feel like your world has turned upside down. You may also experience periods of depression or anxiety.
The key to changing this dynamic is a shift in perspective. Couples have to move from seeing their relationship from a competition mind-set - someone wins, while someone loses - to one of collaboration, we work together to ensure we both win.
There's a kind of rumour going round that it's not very 'good' for women to talk about men all the time. As if it trivialises us. Well, meh. OF COURSE we talk about other things: like Brexit, the threat of Donald Trump, and how would you genetically engineer a unicorn?.. but you couldn't stop me talking about men with my friends if you paid me.
Over the years I have heard all manner of suggestions about how to act when separating or divorce. It is a rarity for this advice to have any merit whatsoever - sometimes I can understand why it is given - but sometimes it really falls into the category of roll your eyes stupidity.
We also need to expand access to a spectrum of support for good quality relationships, overcoming barriers of accessibility, availability, and affordability to ensure that anyone who needs it can benefit from support.