There are so many of us feeling very alone, dealing with a multitude of problems and thinking that the only way to solve the issues are by chomping down on medication or just grinning and bearing it. However, the time has come to change all that, as I uncover some of the most common issues and how we can help ourselves.
Brené tells this story to highlight the expectation that us men can never fall off our white horses, for fear of appearing to be weak. That the experience of shame--that feeling in the pit of your stomach that you're not good enough, bad or broken--is felt viscerally by all of us, and that for men, it's the appearance of weakness that is the biggest cause.
Victimhood is not a competition. There should be help for all who need it. But by cutting services for women, lives are put at risk. Of course men need support to recover from domestic abuse. But to deny that iceberg exists, to deny the roots of the still-rising tide of violence against women in misogyny and inequality, is to turn our backs on prevention.
People relate to and identify with those of their own gender. If the visual portrayal of our gender is so proscribed then perhaps it is no wonder that so many women experience 'Imposter Syndrome' - a belief of being unworthy
People ask why women don't report sexual assault, why they are so hesitant in coming forward, here is why: we're living in a world where a man can have a dozen of these cases against him and still be elected President of the United States.
Escaping from abuse isn't as easy as 'just leaving'. You can't get up and walk away when you decide you've had enough. I wish it was that easy. It is often a long process, a long time of wanting to do it but not knowing how. Then comes how to do it, you need a window of opportunity, a carefully devised plan of action to minimise any threat to your safety.
In some parts of the world, age 10 can be a time of exploration, rapidly expanding horizons and new possibilities. But in other parts of the world, ...
Now, I wish to take a step back for a moment. You may be thinking it is strange for me to say 'mothers from day one', but it is true. If you look at the toys advertised for girls even today - what do we have? Garish amounts of playthings that are designed to ingrain a want in young girls to be perfect little wives and moulded into aspiring little mummies when they grow up.
I spent half of the night messaging him and talking to him on the phone. The end result was me going home early. In my mind this was a triumph for me, I'd managed to go out. However for him, it was also a triumph, a much bigger, much more overpowering triumph. Mine dwarfed in comparison. He knew he'd won.
If we want to ensure that women's life chances aren't narrowed by gender, that girls born today won't face the limitations and closing off of opportunities caused by the combination of poverty and abuse, we've got to start joining these dots.
With jokes about Jolie getting the karma she deserves and how smug Aniston 'must' be feeling being plastered all over the internet, we have to ask: is our reaction to the split slightly cruel?
Suppressing women's sexuality is misogyny. The implication that an 'impure' female body will lead to unsafe sex is misogyny and feeds into victim blaming. The message that sex is bad is problematic in itself, leading to a lack of discussion and education.
If a man and a woman, both aged thirty, quit their jobs, the stock assumption remains: The man leaves for a greater challenge, or a higher salary. The woman leaves because she wants to start a family.
Our report, published with the Everyday Sexism Project, is one of the most extensive pieces of research on the issue in Europe. And for the first time in the UK, the study includes a large enough sample to be representative of experience of black, Asian and minority ethnic women - and rates of sexual harassment of BAME women were similarly high, with more than half (52%) being sexually harassed at work. We found that nearly one in three women have been subject to unwelcome jokes of a sexual nature and that more than one in four women have been on the receiving end of comments of a sexual nature about their body or clothes at work.
I saw a penis on the way to work today. That's not a metaphor or a reference to someone I think is a bit of a knob: I literally, unintentionally, saw an erect penis on my way to work. I left my house as normal, trotted down the road towards the bus stop and BAM. PENIS. A stranger shouted at me, whipped out his genitals and started having an enjoyable time, before swiftly tucking it back in and running off. It was as ridiculous and as obscene as it looks written down.
I'm not suggesting for one minute this type of behaviour is typical of all men, it's not, but we must surely accept some collective responsibility for dealing with it. To call it out for what it is. To lead by example and to teach our children that equality isn't just about equal pay and opportunities, fundamentally it's about respect.