What Happens When You Really Go For It? Stepping Outside Your Comfort Zone

24/01/2017 15:36 GMT | Updated 25/01/2018 10:12 GMT

It might be career related, business related or something else.

What is that thing you really want?

I'll start, shall I?...

I want to take "me" - which means my business - to a much bigger audience. I want to get, FAR more women, to stop doubting themselves and start living more daringly. I want to see them achieve things they never thought they could.

Why? Because this brings me FULFILMENT. It's my way of making a difference in the world.

I do it with my weekly posts, my occasional videos, my coaching programmes, my workshops - and it touches a few of you. I want to touch more, on a bigger scale.

I also want my fabulous business to support me and my family in my journey towards financial freedom. A few more zeros on my end of year accounts would be grand, as well!

So I have my vision, I have my why - both on a macro and on a personal level.

But what's next, after we've dared to utter what we really, really want?

Well, as you know, I'm a great believer in taking baby steps to achieve big goals. You may have already read my post on the magic of daily habits and downloaded my free Daily Habits Workbook last week. Daily habits are indeed a big part of the equation.

Assuming we've got clear on what we really want to achieve and we've started taking baby steps, with the aid of our daily habits, what else do we need to do?

Well, at some point, if you have a BIG goal, the pace is going to increase, the stakes are going to rise, things are going to get REAL.

At some point, you're going to have to hold your nose, take a deep breath and jump into the zone of discomfort!

Winston says:

"There is always much to be said for not attempting more than you can do and for making a certainty of what you try. But this principle, like others in life and war, has it exceptions."

Here are four things you can expect when you step outside of your comfort zone

1. You'll have to work very hard

If your thing is big - as mine is - then you're going to have to work very hard indeed.

I always think that the phrase "hard work" hides a multitude of sins. I remember people telling me, when I was expecting Max (now 14), that labour would be "hard work". Well, I can tell you that the phrase hard work bore no relation to the actual experience of hard work when I was in labour.

Real hard work towards your big goal is a bit like childbirth. You have no idea what it means until you're in the throes of it.

In other words, it's not real until it's real!

I've been putting the hours in these past few weeks, on a steep learning curve wondering frequently "How on EARTH am I going to achieve all of these things?"

Winston says:

"Every day you may make progress. Every step may be fruitful. Yet there will stretch out before you an ever-lengthening, ever-ascending, ever-improving path. You know you will never get to the end of the journey. But this, so far from discouraging, only adds to the joy and glory of the climb."

2. You will doubt yourself

At multiple points, not just once, when you are working hard, it will be so hard you'll think:

"I don't know if I've got what it takes"

"I'm not clever enough"

"I don't know if I have enough time/energy/motivation"

This self-doubt can be debilitating and wastes a lot of energy, meaning you have to catch up on more of that hard work!

By the way, if you haven't seen it already, I've got a free webinar next week about how to deal with this self-doubt. Click here to sign up to "Doubt Yourself and Do It Anyway" or see details at the bottom of the post!

Self-doubt and I battle it out frequently. I have been experiencing self-doubt a fair bit this week whilst trying to shoot a video to promote Doubt Yourself and Do It Anyway. I lost count of how many takes I did - it must have been at least 40! There was a lot of swearing, a lot of self-criticism and according to the bloke, a lot of body dysmorphia.

Winston says:

"Continuous effort - not strength or intelligence - is the key to unlocking our potential."

I will continue with the last two points in my next blog post!

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