Mum Blogger Constance Hall On Why She Isn't Hugely Bothered That Her Five-Year-Old Son Swears | HuffPost Life

'Our house hold might be a sweary one, but it's a bloody kind one.'

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A mum blogger has revealed she isn’t really bothered that one of her children has started swearing in front of her.

Mum-of-four, Constance Hall, admitted that she swears in front of her kids for emphasis, but never at anyone.

Up until recently her kids have never sworn, but recently, to Hall’s surprise, her five-year-old son, Arlo, has started to.

“And as it turns out, Arlo’s new mates don’t mind throwing around these particular words and they’re all rocking out feeling cool as fuck coz they said fuck,” Hall wrote on Facebook on 5 July.

“Does it bother me? Not much, meanness would bother me more.”

Hall went on to say she did pull her son up on swearing and he appeared to stop. But she realised it’s not actually that big of a deal.

“I realised something pretty important,” she added. “Arlo is reaching an age where his friends have a greater influence on him than I do. He copies them, loves them dearly and gets empowered by them.

“I read about that once, about how you will come to a time where your children get their power from their mates and there isn’t much you can do about it. You need to let them discover who they are in a group of peers. That’s socialising.

“And it’s beautiful.”

Hall said while it’s important to tell kids not to swear, it’s equally important to teach kids to find friends with similar moral codes to their families.

“That way when they do ignore you and run off with their mates, they are in good hands, maybe cheeky ones, maybe sweary ones, but good ones none the less,” she added.

“Because our household might be a sweary one, but it’s a bloody kind one and it’s full to the brim with love.”

Her post has had nearly 30,000 likes within one week of being posted. Many agreed that it’s down to the parent to choose whether or not they think kids swearing is okay.

“Everyone is different,“one person wrote. “Mine only drink water, but hear me swear daily. Others give full fat coke but won’t swear around their kids.

“So what. We are all different but do our best to love, care and protect.”

Another parent wrote: “I gave my son his ‘swearing licence’. It is to be revoked should any of the terms of agreement be broken. A) You don’t swear at people and B) You never swear in the vicinity of teachers, elders or the general public.

“But if you stub your toe at home on the corner of the couch and want to drop an f-bomb go for gold. I fucking do.”

Before You Go

10 Things All Toddlers Really Want To Do

Post things(01 of10)

There is something so brilliantly intriguing about putting something through a hole and it just, well, disappearing. Forever. So, if they can’t reach the letter box to post valuable items from the inside of your house to the outside of your house (car keys for example), they will definitely settle for your credit cards and a gap between the floorboards. (credit:Lumi Images/Elsa Dunkel)

Swing on the curtains(02 of10)

Yes, they’ve been told time and time again that if they hang on them the whole pole will fall off the wall... but they don’t believe you, they think you’re just being mean. (credit:RJW)

Cover the bathroom with toothpaste and stick stuff to it(03 of10)

It’s frustrating for them that something which looks like glue is only ever dispatched in tiny, pea-sized amounts – and disappears in their mouth. (credit:Getty Images)

Touch the toilet brush(04 of10)

Simply because ever since they have been able to move, they’ve been told not to touch it, or indeed go anywhere near it. They don’t just want to touch it though, do they? No, actually they want to clean the floor, and the walls, and the bath with it. (credit:Getty Images)

Cut their own hair(05 of10)

It’s something they have been thinking about for AGES. Leave a pair of craft scissors unattended at any point, even the non-pointy ones, and you’ll find your child 15 minutes later, hiding behind the sofa, sitting on tufts. (credit:Summer Derrick)

Write on your work(06 of10)

Yes, they have their own paper, but it’s just not the same. They might do one or two pictures on their own pad, but in your diary? They really want to do a picture and ‘writing’ on every last page. Just for you. (credit:Claudia Gopperl)

Take their wheeled toy/buggy/scooter up the stairs(07 of10)

Warnings about the dangers of wheeled toys at the top of a staircase fall on deaf ears when all they can focus on is HOW FAST THEY COULD GO DOWN! (credit:Frida Marquez)

Drink squash with no water in it(08 of10)

They might not even drink squash as a general rule, but they have a very strong suspicion that neat squash is amazingly delicious. First chance they get, they’ll grab themselves a cup/bowl/vase, fill it with neat squash and hide somewhere, grimacing as they persevere and force it down (because, surprisingly enough, it’s actually quite foul). (credit:Getty Images/Gallo Images ROOTS Collection)

Make an actual successful phone call(09 of10)

This usually results in having a proper person on the other end – even if they are saying “HELLO? HELLO? WHO IS THIS? PUT THE PHONE DOWN!” or, alternatively “Emergency services, which service do you require?” They’ll never give up. (credit:Getty Images/RooM RF)

Give the cat a bath(10 of10)

When they try, and fail, they’ll really want to make the cat wear a doll’s outfit. When they try this, and fail again, they’ll really want to decorate the cat with very sticky stickers. Bingo! (credit:jurgita.photography)

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