Getting pregnant at 18 didn't mean my life was over. It meant that I get to live life with Reuben. Of course I spend most of my time doing all of the dinosaur and Fireman Sam related activities but I also still do everything I used to... but I do everything with Reuben. And I wouldn't have it any other way.
There's a moment in every woman's life where she realises that she's turning into her mother. Mine happened when I became a mum. I'm sure the baton was passed to me during childbirth while I was pumped up to the clouds on opiates. It may explain why I swore to the midwife when she refused me an epidural for the umpteenth time because it was "too late".
Moms I'd Like to Follow: Yes, I'll follow Kim on Instagram because she and Kanye are fricking hilarious. I'll dance to Fergie's music, shake my ass around the kitchen and, once a quarter, on the dancefloor. But Fergie's sweaty pseudo-feminism and its accompanying Instagram account? #unfollow
The take home message of any breastfeeding promo shouldn't seek to make mothers feel there is only one route. Simply put by Geraldine Miskin, author of Breastfeeding Made Easy, you have to bare in mind "it isn't always easy but all mums can do is their best, so they shouldn't be hard on themselves".
I'm stronger than I ever believed and I have come out the other side more patient, empathetic and open minded than I was before. I also have two wonderful boys who came through it with me and for that I am eternally thankful.
You've just had a baby. You are exhausted, bleeding, weeping and feeling like your fanjo may never be the same again. In your arms lies a small, pink and delicious babe that makes your heart burst with an indescribable mixture of love and utter terror.
A few days ago I overheard a dad tell his little boy "stop crying, you sound like a girl"; it got me thinking about how women are portrayed and, more specifically, what lessons am I teaching my son in my role as a "fit mum"? Here are the things I am striving to ALWAYS tell my son and any other child who knows me and my family:
I really believe people live on in a very real way through what they teach us in their lifetime, and what they leave behind in little traces. Maybe yo...
It's 8pm. You've had a long day. You want to sit down, want to eat something, probably have a glass of wine, decompress a bit. And instead you're on your knees, begging, coaxing and pleading with your toddler to get into bed, to stay there, to close their eyes, to please.... PLEASE go to sleep...
When Mair was diagnosed our world fell apart because of the uncertainty that this threw up. Having never heard of anyone being diagnosed with cancer in pregnancy before, let alone be treated for it, we were worried. Would it affect the baby? Could we even continue with the pregnancy?
Parents do not get enough credit for having children. Becoming a parent is the hardest job in the world, however companies and employers do not appreciate the skills parents have gained. Especially woman returning from maternity leave or from being a Stay-at-Home Mum - they are considered a done and dusted vegetable head.
I love feel-good stories like this, and it all started 16 months ago when Jade started drawing these cartoons as a way of finding the funny side of the trials and tribulations of raising her son, Abel.
Do you see how instantly, your predictable platitudes become a bit edgy? It is also an excellent idea to describe your blog as 'a bit sweary' or 'partial to profanity', or something equally contrived, somewhere on the homepage to draw in the cursey crowds.
Last night in bed, the moment just before I closed my eyes to go to sleep I had the most stomach churning of thoughts that made my (only moments earlier) bleary-on-the-edge-of-sleep eyes, instead be forced awake in a state of shock and bewilderment. Leaving me caught in the hazard lights of Motherhood.
Improving attitudes towards pregnant women and mothers will require a cultural and societal shift. We need to start valuing care as much as we value professional achievements. Both are equally crucial to a well functioning society.
The first few weeks of being pregnant can be a strange and wonderful time. You are bursting with so many new emotions, you are often tired and hormonal and nauseous, but you probably don't look that different to normal and you may not have told many people outside of your family.