Why I'll Never Tell My Children There's a Father Christmas

In a time when so many are living in poverty, how can you raise a child to just expect a whole hoard of anonymous gifts from some mysterious man in the sky? I love giving presents, but I want my children to know where those things came from, and that they are lucky to have them, as some people have nothing.
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Parents often say they long to give their children everything they never had when they were growing up. Perhaps that's why I, like so many of my school friends, never wanted for anything when Christmas Day came around.

But when I have children, I'm going to do things differently. I'm never going to tell them there's a Father Christmas.

The above statement has been mostly met with horror from friends, family and co-workers. "But that's awful", "What if they tell all the other kids at school?" they say. And then comes the classic dismissal: "You'll feel differently when you actually become a mother."

They may have a point, what parent doesn't want to give their child the happiest possible upbringing - but this isn't about denying my potential future offspring a fun festive season, it's about showing them what's really important.

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We all know that spoiling a child senseless does nothing but help shape them into an ungrateful, entitled adult, yet so many parents have a complete disregard for the consequences. I've heard of countless kids ripping open a whole room full of presents, without even a pause or a thank you. It's disgraceful.

In a time when so many are living in poverty, how can you raise a child to just expect a whole hoard of anonymous gifts from some mysterious man in the sky? I love giving presents, but I want my children to know where those things came from, and that they are lucky to have them, as some people have nothing.

In regards to the 'magic' they are missing out on, there's plenty of that around. Anyone who's ever volunteered at Christmas will tell you that - the look on people's faces when you show them a rare kindness is a better feeling than opening any present. That's the side of Christmas giving I would like them to grow up around.

For those who say I'll ruin their childhood - I'm proof that's not true. At three-years-old, I asked my mother if she was Santa. Rather than carry on the charade, she told me the truth - that it's just a nice story parents tell children to get them to behave. In that respect, it's a great tactic. But has anyone actually ever stuck to their word and given their kids nothing but a lump of coal? I doubt it...

Not only are you essentially lying to your little ones, you're showing them you (or Father Christmas) doesn't keep their word either. So when you tell me I'm going to be a 'terrible' parent, please just keep that in mind.

Best Christmas Jumpers For Kids
(01 of19)
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Blue Fluffy Penguin Jumper(02 of19)
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We sort of love the fact this penguin looks super cosy with ear muffs and a scarf. And yes, the jumper looks cosy, too.
£23.50.
Comes in size small, medium large and extra large.
www.qvcuk.com.
Light Up Christmas Tree(03 of19)
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The lights on this jumper ACTUALLY LIGHT UP. Enough said.
£16. From ages 4-14.
www.debenhams.com.
Knitted Festive Scene(04 of19)
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We're a little in love with this festive knitted scene featuring a snowman, reindeers and snowflakes everywhere. Couple with the fact it looks incredibly cosy - it's a winner.
From £21. From 3 months to 6 years.
www.next.co.uk.
Red Polar Bear(05 of19)
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The classic red jumper with snowflakes - of course it's going to be Christmassy.
Plus, the jumper has a polar bear and buttons on the collar.
£9. From 2-6 years.
www.sportsdirect.com.
Striped Polar Bear(06 of19)
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This less garishly Christmas jumper is cashmere and super soft.
Who said Christmas can't be stylish?
£22. From 6 months to 6 years.
www.jojomamanbebe.co.uk.
Skiing Penguin(07 of19)
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I mean, who doesn't want a jumper with a skiing penguin and 3D bobble hat on? We're pretty sure your kids do.
£10. From ages 7-14.
www.peacocks.co.uk.
Baby Rudolph(08 of19)
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For your very little one (and by little we mean, this starts from ages 0-3 months!) get this novelty Rudolph jumper with a 3D nose.

£8. From 0-3 months up until 24 months.
www.peacocks.co.uk.
Christmas Gift(09 of19)
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Aren't kids the greatest gift ever? Literally? Well yes, according to this jumper.
With a 3D bow and sequins, it's basically all you want in a jumper.
From £20. Ages 2+.
www.johnlewis.com.
Fairisle Pattern(10 of19)
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It's an absolute classic in terms of old-school Christmas jumpers, just in a child's size.
£8. Ages 4-10.
www.direct.asda.com.
Christmas Elf(11 of19)
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Turn your little one into an elf - surely then they can help you with all the Christmas decorations and wrapping you have to do?
£8. From age 9 months - 6 years.
www.direct.asda.com.
Slogan Jumper(12 of19)
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As if any child doesn't love Christmas, this just makes sure everyone knows about it. Available for boys, too.
From £6. Ages 5-14.
www.clothingattesco.com.
Minion Christmas(13 of19)
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We couldn't do a Christmas jumper list without including at least something Minion-related.
£16.99. From age 3.
www.ebay.co.uk.
Fluffy Christmas Tree(14 of19)
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Not only does this jumper have a cute Christmas tree with 3D decorations, it's probably the fluffiest one we've seen to date. Cosy.
£10. From ages 4 up.
www.george.com.
Santa's Face(15 of19)
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This is just a really, really big version of Santa's face.
£16. From ages 3 upwards.
www.mandco.com.
(16 of19)
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This jumper is perfect if you want to add a festive spark to your child's wardrobe, but want to make use of it for the rest of the year, too.
£28. Up to 14 years.
www.molo.com.
Peppa Pig's Christmas(17 of19)
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Just like Minions had to make an appearance, Peppa Pig does too. Why? Because Peppa + Christmas = winning combo.
From £6.40. From ages 12 months.
www.marksandspencer.com.
Christmas Pud(18 of19)
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A fluffy Christmas pud with sparkles on the front. Cute.
From £11.20. Ages 12 months upwards.
www.marksandspencer.com.
Bright Blue Elf(19 of19)
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You definitely won't miss your little one wearing this ridiculously bright blue elf jumper...
£8. From age 6.
www.clothingattesco.com.