Parents ‘Buckling’ Under The Strain Of Long Working Hours, Study Warns

'We need a more widespread, genuinely flexible approach to work.'

Work is taking a “heavy toll” on parents, affecting their health and family lives, as they struggle to cope with the strain of long hours, a new study reveals.

Research by charity Working Families and early years provider Bright Horizons, found many parents were putting in more than their contracted hours because of “intense” workloads. 

Almost two out of five do not get home in time to say goodnight to their children, a similar number cannot help with homework and one in four blame work for arguments with their partner.

Working overtime was also linked to poor eating habits and not having enough time for regular exercise. 

A survey of over 2,700 working parents found that two out of five contracted to work 35 or 36 hours a week were putting in extra hours, falling to a third of those on a 25-hour week. 

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The report said the findings painted a “worrying” picture for parents, many of whom admitted they were deliberately “stalling” their careers or refusing a new job or promotion for work-life balance reasons. 

Sarah Jackson, chief executive of Working Families, said: “For mothers and fathers, becoming a parent looks like a bad career move. 

“Because the norm for people who want to get ahead is still to show up early, leave late and be on email out of hours – and parents have less time to give, putting them at a disadvantage.

“Parents are responding to the pressures on them by acting, deliberately stalling and downshifting their careers. With more than 11 million working parents in the UK, our economy can ill afford this ‘parenthood penalty’.

“We need a more widespread, genuinely flexible approach to work. We need human-sized jobs that allow parents to fulfil their labour market potential and give families back the time together they need to thrive. ”

James Tugendhat of Bright Horizons, said: “The UK’s long hours culture is putting severe strain on family life in the UK.

“Many parents are working unsustainable hours to make ends meet, returning home stressed and exhausted. “

Before You Go

Yes, You CAN Make A Family Walk Fun
Don't say 'who wants to go for a walk?'(01 of08)
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Reframe a walk so it's enticing and exciting using words like explore, play, adventure.Who wants to climb a castle or who wants to find some treasure or skim stones? (credit:Alexander Nicholson via Getty Images)
Don't plod in a straight line - and back again.(02 of08)
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Choose a wiggly walk and terrain made for adventuring. "It's all about keeping children's minds off putting one foot in front of another," says Clare Lewis. (credit:Stephen Lux via Getty Images)
Always have an appealing destination - and make pit-stops along the way.(03 of08)
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It could be a café with their favourite hot chocolate or their 'secret' place like a climbing tree. Make regular stops to admire natural curiosities, make a den, whittle a stick or play in water or whatever you fancy. Encourage your kids to take photos. Clare Lewis's family always take 'scroggin'; a New Zealand name for a hikers' mix of nuts and seeds, dried fruit and chocolate to keep energy levels up. (credit:ArtMarie via Getty Images)
Join forces with another family or get the kids to bring their friends.(04 of08)
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Children love the sociability of a walk and bringing friends increases their activity as they challenge each other to jump the highest or widest, splash in puddles, climb trees or find the best stick. (credit:Alistair Berg via Getty Images)
Walk together in a chatty clod, not a single line with you barking 'come on, keep up'(05 of08)
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There may be times you have to walk in a line, but take turns with who's the leader. Also, let your children choose the route (within reason!). (credit:Bounce via Getty Images)
Play games as you go.(06 of08)
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Hide-and-seek, capture the flag or ambushes - sending kids on ahead so they can jump out on you - are all favourites. Bring a ball or a Frisbee to play with too. (credit:JLPH via Getty Images)
Turn your walk into a treasure hunt. Or an obstacle course.(07 of08)
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Children love places to clamber over like a rocky beach or challenges like climbing trees or jumping over streams. Challenge children to touch that tree and run back, hopscotch between the pavement cracks or run along the low wall. "You could go on a shape walk, finding stones, shells and leaves that are all the same shape," suggests Clare Lewis, co-author of Adventure Walks for Families in and Around London. (credit:Imgorthand via Getty Images)
End on a high.(08 of08)
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Match a walk to your kids' ages. You don't want want to leave them exhausted. Talk up what fun you had, so next time you suggest an adventure walk they leap at the chance. (credit:ArtMarie via Getty Images)