Eight Mums With No Time For People Acting Like They're 'The First Person To Ever Be Pregnant' | HuffPost Life

'Don’t get me wrong, pregnancy is an extreme thing to happen to a body.'

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Pregnancy can be tough for some women and a total breeze for others.

Either way, one mum has decided to call out women who act like they’re the “first person ever in the whole wide world to be pregnant”.

“Don’t get me wrong, pregnancy is the most extreme thing I can think of happening to a human body without even getting to the whole birth part,” the mother wrote on Mumsnet.

“But how many of you have ever had to listen to someone moaning and complaining constantly over the tiniest of things, even if they’re not exactly pregnancy-related?”

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The Mumsnet user gave an example of the complaining she has endured: “My headache is so bad, pregnancy is so hard, I didn’t realise it would be this awful! I’m going to have to go to the doctor to get some strong painkillers (this is at about six weeks).”

And she wasn’t the only one who has come across this type of behaviour, according to the thread.

Here are a few of the responses from other Mumsnet users who have experienced similar.

1. The couple who overshare.

“The couple I know that are the first people to ever get pregnant post endless pictures of what they’ve bought the baby. At this point I could give you a comprehensive list of the baby’s entire wardrobe right down to the socks.”

2. The woman who breathes social media.

“I currently have a mum-to-be on Facebook who is posting about twelve thousand pregnancy memes every day.”

3. The woman who relates pregnancy to everything.

“I did have to unfollow someone on Facebook who was even posting photos of their dinner and captioning them ‘building a strong baby’.”

4. The woman who keeps tabs on social media likes.

“The other week a woman I know asked someone why they didn’t like her scan picture that she uploaded on Facebook. It was so awkward.”

5. The parents who feel blessed.

“#feelingblessed is quite possibly the most nauseating hashtag ever. Also the most overused.”

6. The woman who delegates shopping bags.

“An ex-friend made me carry eight bags of shopping (not heavy) when she was six weeks’ pregnant. The bag I asked her to carry had two lettuces in it. She said: ‘I’m carrying a child, isn’t that enough?’”

7. The woman who documents everything.

“My friend documents everything. She had a big pregnancy announcement and then during her pregnancy we had updates on: Level of morning sickness, food eaten, aches and pains, stuff bought, nursery decor etc.”

One Mumsnet user had some sage advice on how to deal with those who act like they are “the first person in the world to be pregnant”:

“Being pregnant for the first time is the biggest thing to ever happen in their world,” they wrote.

“Maybe overlook what she is doing and sympathise, or just be happy for her.”

Before You Go

Pregnancy worries and words of comfort

I have no morning sickness! Is that bad news?(01 of10)

You might have read things about how morning sickness signifies a healthy level of pregnancy hormones – but not having morning sickness does not mean you're lacking! Although many women suffer with it (and 'suffer' really is the word), many other women do not. Some women have it one pregnancy, but not in another. Attend all your usual checks and count yourself as one of the lucky ones! (credit:Alamy )

I drank before I knew I was pregnant, I might have harmed the baby(02 of10)

This happens to many, many expectant mums, and it's unlikely to be a cause for concern at all. Mention it to your GP/midwife, and just keep off the booze now, until you can enjoy a celebratory glass of fizz when your bundle arrives. (credit:Alamy )

I'll lose the baby(03 of10)

It's estimated about one in five pregnancies ends in early miscarriage, and it's thought most of those occur simply because the foetus wasn't developing properly. It does happen, but don't let it rule your thoughts because the vast majority of pregnancies do succeed. Try not to worry and remember that once you're into the second trimester, the chances of miscarriage is dramatically reduced. (credit:Alamy )

My baby might not be 'perfect'(04 of10)

It's estimated that one in 16 babies in the UK is born with a birth defect – but this figure refers to all birth defects, and many are mild and can be treated. So it's likely your baby won't have a birth defect, and even if they do, they will be perfect in their own way – remember support is available for every eventuality. Take your folic acid and attend your antenatal screening appointments. (credit:Alamy )

I won't make it to the hospital on time(05 of10)

You might have read terrifying stories about pregnant women giving birth in car parks and taxis – but these stories make it to the news because they are extraordinary, in the literal sense of the word! It very rarely happens, and most women get plenty of warning that labour is beginning. So plan well, and all is very likely to be fine. (credit:Alamy )

I might have to have a c-section(06 of10)

If you do end up needing a c-section, you might feel disappointed – but believe us, in the moment the only thing you'll really care about is the safe delivery of your baby. It won't be the end of the world and you won't care a jot when your baby is in your arms. (credit:Alamy )

I won't be able to cope during labour(07 of10)

There is just no telling how labour will be for you, so don't worry about it now. Make your birth plan, discuss it with your partner and midwife, and go with the flow on the day (it's okay to change your mind!). There will be lots and lots of help and support at your disposal. Not to mention drugs, should you need them. (credit:Alamy )

Labour will humiliating (will I poo on the bed?!)(08 of10)

You've heard about that then? It can happen, but the doctors and midwives have seen it all – they have experienced every possible scenario. They won't be worrying about things like that, so neither should you. (credit:Alamy )

I don't know how to be a mum(09 of10)

No-one does until they become one! Every new mum feels like they're winging it in the early days. As your baby grows and you get to know them, you'll learn. Trust in the fact that just about every mother has gone through it… and survived. (credit:Alamy )

I'm worried about gaining all that weight(10 of10)

You will put on weight, yes – but it's normal and nothing to be afraid of! Much weight gain is actually down to the baby, the placenta, extra blood in your system and the retention of water. Pregnancy changes your body in myriad ways – just enjoy it, and let your body just do its thing at this special time. Remember, there's no need to 'eat for two'… but eat what you need and don't count calories. (credit:Alamy )

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