I found some employers acting like sexist dinosaurs, while other companies are much more enlightened when it comes to pregnancy in the workplace. I've changed the names of some of the women who spilled the beans to protect them from identification.
It is said to be sods law that if you are wearing your best knickers your waters will break. That's if you can bend down in the first place to get them on, and that they still fit over your expanded arse.
Does the young woman of today who wishes to have children not know her own 'ticking biological clock' or is it the case of the medical profession and media being patronising to women, denigrating their choices?
We're not getting excited yet. It was becoming more of a lie with every day that passed because, secretly, I just knew that this time it was going to work out. But I was trying to suppress my excitement because logic told me that it could only lead to disappointment.
The breathing techniques were great for those moments of complete chaos; like when you're trying to put a toddler down for a nap as the older one shouts through that they've "missed the toilet".
Talk. Try to understand what it's like for her. Listen. She might not say much but she is speaking volumes. Be there for her to catch the tears as they fall, her heart as it breaks. Because the day to day agony of HG will end, and the days that follow will be flavoured with the compassion and kindness that you showed her when she was ready to fall.
During my pregnancy I saw at least eight different healthcare professionals over dozens of appointments mostly relating to my mental health and the dramatic downward spiral that becoming unexpectedly pregnant had caused it to take.
Given the importance of good blood sugar control during pregnancy, it is bewildering that the 2015 NICE guidelines do not advise that diabetic women should be routinely offered a continuous glucose monitor for the duration of their pregnancy.
You have read that IVF is very difficult; you have been told it will push you both to your limits; you are worried that injections seem to cause couples to fight a lot. You wish it didn't have to be this way, sometimes it feels so unfair.
Confinement is an ancient tradition that is still widely practiced in China today. Dating back to the Xihan dynasty some 2000 years ago, confinement literally means in Mandarin "sitting out the month". In practice, it's a set of very complex rules for women to care for themselves during the first month after giving birth.
Seriously, who are the people who do this stuff? Is it women who haven't had babies yet? Is it men who have never watched their partner be consumed by the pressure and anxiety that goes with 'getting her baby body back'?
It is estimated that 60,000 women a year are pushed out of their jobs from the moment they get pregnant and this doesn't account for the thousands of women who suffer harassment, are demoted or don't get the promotions they deserve.
On my last working day, my mentor warned me, "Everyone says that taking more than six months off won't affect your career but it really will." I was struck by his honesty yet appreciated his candour. It certainly was not what I wanted to hear before waddling off on maternity leave.
Women understand what it means to be pregnant. They understand what it means to end a pregnancy. But whether they have already given birth or have yet to do so, women also understand what it means to have a child - and to be a mother.
Three days after the wedding the miscarriage started. It began as a pain in the stomach. She knew it was happening, so we called for our fifth emergency appointment. The bleeding was constant and she had continuous pain. What could I do to make it better? The helpless feeling of inadequacy was fraught and very real.
As I got up from the sofa when she had finished, she noticed that my abdomen went into a cone shape and told me that I probably had a diastasis recti and I would need to get proper treatment for it after the birth of my baby if I wanted it to heal.