Get Out Of Your Negative Thinking (01 of13)
Open Image ModalMost people going through a breakup are constantly reliving and thinking about all the negativity in their lives and within themselves, says clinical hypnotherapist and author Colin Christopher. So, instead of giving up on love or lowering your self-esteem, spend 10 minutes a day reciting positive thoughts to yourself. "For example: 'I am strong, confident, attractive and make a great life partner.'" (credit:ULTRA F via Getty Images)
Take A Break (02 of13)
Open Image ModalDon't jump back into the dating pool so soon. Take some time to recover from your breakup before seeing someone new. "This isn’t a race and only you will know when you’re ready," Christopher says. (credit:Christopher Hope-Fitch via Getty Images)
Seek Support (03 of13)
Open Image ModalThere's no reason to ride the emotional roller coaster alone. Seek support by talking to your close friends, family members or a therapist. You can always browse groups on Facebook or online forums to see if anyone else is experiencing the same thing (and know that they will be!). (credit:Christopher Futcher via Getty Images)
Do Something Fun(04 of13)
Open Image ModalWhen was the last time you had fun by yourself or with someone other than your ex-girlfriend or boyfriend? "Immediately following a breakup, do something you really enjoy doing. It could be mountain climbing, exercising, bird watching, taking that trip to Europe with your best friend or whatever," Christopher says. (credit:James Oliver via Getty Images)
Don't Play The Blame Game(05 of13)
Open Image ModalWhether you feel the breakup was a result of your actions or something your ex did, stop playing the blame game. See this breakup as a learning experience and put the focus on moving on instead. (credit:Artistan via Getty Images)
Learn To Let Go(06 of13)
Open Image ModalWhen you’re fresh out of a relationship, there is a tendency to reread old emails, love letters and even try to accidentally have a run-in with your ex. Don't do this. "The best way to move on is to forget about him or her altogether. Delete old emails, take them out of your contacts list and don’t spy on them on Facebook." (credit:Design Pics via Getty Images)
Focus On The Future (07 of13)
Open Image ModalThe best thing about breakups is that they allow you to go into a new relationship with a new mindset. "When you’re ready to move on, think about what your life looks like next year at this time. Define what you really want," he says. Christopher suggests writing down what your ideal mate looks like and activities you would want to with them — it's fine to get excited about dating again. (credit:ViewStock via Getty Images)
Don't Hook Up With An Old Fling (08 of13)
Open Image ModalWhen you go through a breakup, that feeling of being wanted and needed is absent, especially sexually. "Many people have a tendency to contact a long lost ex who knows them well and could make them feel comfortable and wanted again," he says. While this might seem like a good idea, it will actually hold you back from moving on. (credit:David Zach via Getty Images)
Get Out of The House(09 of13)
Open Image ModalIt's easy to stay inside and disconnect yourself from the world — or spend hours filling your social media feeds with sappy quotes and video clips. "This perpetuates feeling lonely. Get out with friends/family at least three times in a week doing something social (work doesn't count), so you're not home alone feeling bad," Christopher says. (credit:@mr.jerry via Getty Images)
Make New Friends (10 of13)
Open Image ModalYour current friends can be an excellent support network, but this doesn't mean you can't add new faces into your life. Hit up a bar with your besties, join a new community group or join a local gym to meet new people. (credit:Michael Blann via Getty Images)
Speaking Of The Gym.. (11 of13)
Open Image Modal"Exercise can rejuvenate your body and can release endorphins that make you feel better and improves your energy levels to help you feel better about yourself faster," Christopher says. You can also try meditation, yoga or a boot camp class to challenge and distract you. (credit:Gary Burchell via Getty Images)
Stay Away From Those Rom Coms(12 of13)
Open Image ModalYou may think "The Notebook" and other relationship movies give you solace, but they are movies and not real life, Christopher notes. "They are no substitute for interacting with real people and getting out into the real world and building your own happy ending." (credit:Cultura/Liam Norris via Getty Images)
Avoid Booze(13 of13)
Open Image ModalLet's face it, a lot of us can suppress our feelings or feel better when we're drinking alcohol in large quantities. "Many times you may feel better when you are drinking; however, alcohol is a depressant and any short term euphoria you feel will be dashed by the feelings of loneliness or a hangover the next day." (credit:Tom Merton via Getty Images)