Toddler Having A Tantrum In Viral Video Proves No One Should Judge Anyone's Parenting Skills

'Spare the rod, spoil the child.'

A video of a toddler having a tantrum in a car park is proof no one should judge a parent for the way they discipline their children.

In the video, Amie Carter's son Jayden, who was two at the time it was filmed, was refusing to get in the car because he was upset a game had gone wrong. 

Jayden was screaming and crying while his mum had to try and pull him into the car. 

Shortly after this video was filmed, Carter learned her son had autism.

Without knowing the circumstances, an internet user, Mike Steele, shared the video on his own Facebook page with the phrase: "Spare the rod, spoil the child", referring to when a parent doesn't discipline their kids.

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After learning the circumstances, Steele updated his post.

"Just by observing this mother with her son it appears that it’s a little boy misbehaving and the mother is being patient with her son," he wrote.

"Little did I know, this little boy name is Jayden; he is diagnosed with autism.

"I didn't know until his mother contacted me. It’s funny how we can see a video and add our twist to it.

"Now that we know this piece of info, how would you really react to your child whose diagnosed with autism?

"We probably would have reacted the same way she did… Let this be a lesson to us all and let’s join hands to understand autism as a whole.

"Sorry Amie and Jayden."

Steele's video post has been viewed more than five million times since being uploaded 19 June. 

Since updating his Facebook post, there have 34,000 comments with many people praising and defending the mum.

"As soon as I started watching this (before reading the description), I wondered if this little boy has autism," one person commented.

"Autism meltdowns are no fun. But honestly I believe that autism or not, this mother did what was appropriate at the time.

"And for people saying that physical discipline would be better, in this situation, it would almost certainly make things 100x worse."

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Another person wrote: "It makes me sad and very upset with the judgmental and ignorant adults who assume things before knowing all the facts!

"I have a son who is four and has development delays and I get all the looks cause he looks normal but his speech is not their and he has tantrums I can't control in public."

Carter originally uploaded the video six years ago and uploaded it to YouTube.

"I originally posted a video back in 2010 of Jayden having a 'tantrum', it was before he had any diagnoses," she wrote.

"It was the first time I couldn't get him in his car seat... I smiled, and SMILED... due to the fact we had an audience watching us (it started out inside the restaurant) and I was embarrassed."

The mother told Scary Mommy: "I honestly chose to post it because I was mad and frustrated with the system and its lack of support. I was mad because I had been speaking out, trying to get help.

"I decided to be a voice and posted the video."

Before You Go

Classic Toddler Toys That Never Get Old
Battat B. Doctor Set(01 of10)
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The doctor will see you now! Your mini medic will get a kick out of taking care of mom and dad with this kit. It comes complete with nine medical instruments, including a blood pressure cuff and syringe. Get it here: Amazon, $44.99 (credit:Amazon)
Tupperware Shape-O Toy (02 of10)
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This shape sorter is cool because of its unique spherical shape. It also presents more of a challenge than others on the market since it has ten shapes to match! Each block has a number imprinted in the middle with the corresponding number of dots on the other side, helping your little one identify shapes and learn their numbers at the same time. Bonus points because we have fond memories of playing with this exact one when we were kids! Get it here: Tupperware, $35 (credit:Tupperware)
Kritter Table (03 of10)
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Your toddler will love having his very own kid-sized table and chairs to sit at. Perfect for everything from crafting to eating, this set will no doubt be a fixture in your house for years to come! Get it here: Ikea table, $39.99; chairs, $16.99 each (credit:Ikea)
Fisher Price Corn Popper(04 of10)
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First produced in 1957, the Corn Popper push toy by Fisher Price is still as “pop”ular as ever owing to its toddler-approved combination of noise, movement and colour. Get it here: Chapters, $19.95 (credit:Chapters)
KidKraft Vintage Kitchen(05 of10)
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Toddlers will love mimicking the adults in their life by preparing food and washing dishes in a play kitchen. Tip: When buying a sizeable toy like a play kitchen, invest in one that you won't mind looking at every day, like this adorable vintage-inspired set by KidKraft. Get it here: Walmart, $125 (credit:Walmart)
Fisher Price Cash Register (06 of10)
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Fisher Price pretty much has a corner on the market when it comes to classic kids’ toys because they do them so well. The cash register has endeared itself to generations of tots with its change ramp and cash drawer that can be opened by turning the crank until the bell dings! Get it here: Toys R Us, $29.99 (credit:Toys R Us)
Green Toys Tea Set(07 of10)
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A tea set is a traditional toy, but we love this one by Green Toys for its contemporary updates. The environmentally-friendly set is made from recycled plastic milk jugs and it’s BPA, phthalate and lead-free. Plus, we love the neutral colour scheme. Get it here: Chapters, $34.94 (credit:Chapters)
Brio Pounding Bench(08 of10)
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Your little one will be able to practice her hand-eye coordination while making as much noise as she wants on this wooden pounding bench. Get it here: Mastermind Toys, $19.99 (credit:Mastermind Toys)
Uncle Goose Classic ABC Blocks(09 of10)
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We all had a set of blocks like this and the reason for their popularity? They are so much more than just building blocks. The popular style features different colours, letters and drawings to help your kiddo learn the alphabet, sort and even spell! Get it here: KolKid, $49.95 (credit:KolKid)
Large Wooden Doll Carriage(10 of10)
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New walkers love anything they can push, which means this doll carriage it sure to be a hit. Plus, the carriage allows them to mimic one of the most important people in their lives – you!Get it here: HomeSense, $69.99 (credit:HomeSense)