Woman Sparks Parenting Debate After Suggesting 'Secret Signal' To Stop Toddler Tantrums In Public

Not everyone agrees.

A woman has shared what she thinks is the perfect solution to stopping toddlers from having full-blown tantrums in public.

Jamie Matson, from the US, shared a post on Facebook from a friend who suggested a “secret signal” that parents could use when their child is having a strop.

The friend, whose name is unknown, came up with the idea after watching a mum desperately try to stop her child screaming in a supermarket.

“There should be a secret signal parents give when they can’t take anymore so a random stranger can mean mug the kid and tell it to shut up,” she wrote.

The post continued: “There are three good reasons for this.

“1) The kids will be so shocked they will shut up. 2) It will reinforce stranger danger.

“3) It will show them, from an early age, that while your parents love you and put up with your shit, the rest of the world doesn’t care about you (or your feelings) no matter how cute you are.”

Matson shared the post with the comment: “This sounds like a pretty good idea.” Which led to a debate about whether it is a good way to stop toddler tantrums.

“Then the kid will grow up fearing people and become anti-social,” one person commented on the status.

“They will not trust their parent to protect them from danger.”

Another person agreed it wasn’t a good idea.

“That’s just mean,” the mother wrote. “Who the hell teaches their kids that nobody cares from an early age? That’s just evil.”

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Could a "secret signal" stop the stress of toddlers having tantrums in public?

Other parents thought the signal was a great idea.

“Yes, I need someone to help me with this,” one person wrote. “I am forever struggling in supermarkets when my son just won’t cooperate. Having someone else snap him out of it would probably help.

“Anyone want to agree on some sort of signal so we can get this thing started?”

Another mum commented: “I’m in. Sometimes my kids just need the shock of someone else telling them to ‘shut the hell up’ to actually listen.”

Some commenters had previous experience that the method works.

“Haha I have been doing this to strangers’ kids for years,” one woman wrote.

“I even took a toddler from a mum in the makeup store once when I worked there while she shopped.”

Before You Go

10 Ways Toddlers Drive Us Mad
They're very fast. When they want to be.(01 of10)
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"Come on QUICKLY please! We're really late.”
Child goes into slow motion mode. Or worse, bends double, hangs arms to floor, and goes into robot-which-has-lost-power mode.
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They have a lot of questions. When they remember them.(02 of10)
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“Mummmy…?”
“Yes, darling?”
“…Mummmyyyy?
“Yes, darling what is it?”
“………Mummmmmmyyyy?”
“YES?! What do you want?!”
Child exits room.
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They have amazing attention spans.(03 of10)
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“Mummy, PLAY HIDE SEEK! Pleeeeease!”
“Okay, you count, I'll hide.”
Ten minutes later, emerge from behind kitchen door to find child has forgotten all about hide and seek and is looking at a book.
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They're good at finding things.(04 of10)
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“Please go and get your shoes.”
Child returns five minutes later. With a place mat.
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They're always careful with your things.(05 of10)
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“Mummy, this your glasses?”
“Yes you know you're not supposed to touch…”
SNAP! ?#@*&%!!!
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They know exactly what they want.(06 of10)
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In the supermarket. “Mummmy? I need a weeeee.”
“But you had a wee before we came out.”
“Need a WEEEEEEEEE!”
Ten minutes later, shopping abandoned, supermarket traversed, cubicle awaited, trousers/pants removed, child balanced on toilet.
“So? Are you going to do a wee?”
“No.”
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They love eating broken biscuits.(07 of10)
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“Mummmy? Biscuit please?”
Hand over packet of biscuits with instruction to take just one. Child drops packet of biscuits twice.
“Not this one, iss broken. Not this one, iss broken. Not this one, iss broken. Not this one, iss broken…”
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They have limitless energy.(08 of10)
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“Swings, mummy! Swings, mummy! SWINGS, MUMMY!”
Concede child needs fresh air and exercise. Dress child appropriately. Attach child's coat. Attach child's wellies. Ensure child has a wee. Pack essential snacks and juice. Put on own coat and shoes… discover child asleep on sofa.
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They never change their minds. Ever.(09 of10)
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“Mummy? Make scramble egg?”
Spend 15 minutes helping child break eggs and stir them VERY slowly until partially mixed. Wipe egg off all kitchen surfaces. Spend 15 minutes helping child stir eggs in warm pan until eggs are massively overcooked.
“Right, time to eat your scrambled egg!”
“Want CocoPops.”
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They show you their love all the time.(10 of10)
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Exit lounge to go to the loo. Return to find entire room covered in flour. Recognise hysteria bubbling up through torso at sight of completely white child/sofa/carpet…
“I luff you, mummy!”
Deeeeep breath.
"I love you, too.”
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