Woman With Endometriosis Pens Touching Open Letter To Husband Who Helps Her Through The Pain

'Romance it not flowers and chocolates.'

An Imgur user with endometriosis has penned a touching open letter to her husband to say “romance it not flowers and chocolates”, it’s looking after loved ones.

Endometriosis is a chronic condition where tissue that behaves like the lining of the womb (the endometrium) is found outside the womb. It typically causes painful or heavy periods plus pain in the lower abdomen, pelvis or lower back. 

A woman with the condition, know only as Imgur user, flamesonthesideofmyface, said she was having a particularly bad day when her husband went above and beyond the call of duty.

”Last night, I ended up crying in bed around 3am because it felt like I was getting stabbed in the stomach,” she said in the post.

“Today, my husband (who is a commercial/industrial electrician and has a physically demanding job), messaged me to ask if I needed a hot pad and I said that would be nice. I was finishing up my own job at home when he arrived with bags. He immediately made me a snack with cheese and crackers and then went to town cleaning our tub. I mean *cleaning*.

“He scrubbed every jet, took off the filter and made it sparkle and shine. He filled the tub with muscle relieving bath goodness he’d just bought, set the jets running, and brought me my favourite wine and chocolate after I settled in (along with ‘just shout out any time you want more wine.’)”

She said while she sat in the bath soaking, her husband offered to clean the kitchen and make dinner.

“He got lotion for a massage, a hot pad for my stomach, and said we can watch trashy TV or play Breath of the Wild tonight while I relax in my pyjamas. I have never, in my life, felt more cherished or protected,” she said.

“People say marriage is where the romance ends or that relationships become stagnant, but it really is the best thing in the world to be married to your closest friend - particularly when they make sure to show you that you matter.

“I think that it only has to become stagnant or unromantic if you let it. Grateful for someone who won’t let that happen. I love you, Ry.”

Her post clearly struck on chord with other users as it was soon viewed more than 300,000 times.

“My girlfriend has endometriosis. It’s the worst feeling seeing her suffer with no way of helping, now I’ve got some ideas! Thanks for the post,” one user said.

Another added: “This is what a relationship is supposed to be about - helping one another through hard times.”

8 Celebrities With Endometriosis
Padma Lakshmi, TV Personality(01 of08)
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Padma Lakshmi, host of US TV show 'Top Chef', recently opened up about a lesser-known symptom of endometriosis: migraines.

She shared an Instagram photo of herself partially covering her face, with the caption: "Day 3 of endo induced migraine from clenching teeth due to cramps... even my ear hurts."

It's not the first time she's spoken out about living with endometriosis. The TV personality, who is also co-founder of the Endometriosis Foundation of America, previously revealed it took 23 years for her to get diagnosed.
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Kate Ford, Actress(02 of08)
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Soap star Kate Ford said living with endometriosis is "not easy". She later told the Mirror: "Endometriosis is a chronic condition that has affected me for many years and every month is a struggle.

“As well as pain, there are also psychological symptoms. I’m working alongside a fabulous gynaecologist now to try to manage the condition.

"I’m pleased my tweet has raised awareness for a condition that is not fully understood.”
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Daisy Ridley, Actress(03 of08)
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Star Wars actress Daisy Ridley took to Instagram to reveal that she had been battling endometriosis since her teens.

She said she was diagnosed with the illness aged 15 and her self-esteem suffered as a result. “Eight years down the line, pain was back (more mild this time!) and my skin was the worst,” she wrote.

Ridley asked others to speak to their doctor if they noticed something wasn't quite right. “My point is, to any of you who are suffering with anything, go to a doctor; pay for a specialist; get your hormones tested, get allergy testing; keep on top of how your body is feeling and don’t worry about sounding like a hypochondriac," she said.

"From your head to the tips of your toes we only have one body, let us all make sure ours our working in tip top condition, and take help if it’s needed."
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Lena Dunham, Actress(04 of08)
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Lena Dunham is perhaps currently the most vocal celebrity when it comes to endometriosis. The 'Girls' star revealed last year that she was going to take time out from filming because of the condition.

"I am currently going through a rough patch with the illness and my body (along with my amazing doctors) let me know, in no uncertain terms, that it's time to rest," she wrote on Instagram.

"So many women with this disease literally don't have the option of time off and I won't take it for granted."

She has since shared a photo of herself in a bikini, with her endometriosis scars on show, which once again kickstarted conversations around what it's like to live with the condition.
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Emma Bunton, Singer(05 of08)
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Emma Bunton revealed that she was diagnosed with the "painful" condition in 2004 and shared fertility concerns.

"My doctors seem to think it is easing off, which would make it hopeful for me to have children," she said.

In 2012, Bunton revealed she was pregnant with her first child. She now has two sons, Beau and Tate.
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Whoopi Goldberg, Actress(06 of08)
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Whoopi Goldberg spoke about the condition back in 2009 and was surprised to hear that many other women didn't know about it. After asking her daughter whether she'd heard of endometriosis, Goldberg knew she had to use her voice to get the message out.

Speaking at the Endo Foundation’s Blossom Ball, she said: "I thought we all knew about endometriosis. I thought we all knew that it was there and existed, why it happens."

"It occurred to me...that there are hundreds of thousands [of] girls out there that don’t know."
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Susan Sarandon, Actress(07 of08)
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Susan Sarandon, who suffered from irregular bleeding and fainting, was first made aware of her condition back in 1983. She has since spoken at numerous events to raise awareness of endometriosis.

Despite doctors telling her she may struggle to have children due to the condition, she went on to have three.

She has since asked men to support the women in their lives who suffer with endometriosis.

"Help [the woman in your life] to remove the taboos and the loneliness surrounding this disease," she said at the Blossom Ball in 2011.

"Be understanding, show empathy, and don’t accuse her of being sensitive, delicate, or overly dramatic – this is a big opportunity for you guys to show that you care and to be a real man."
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Dolly Parton, Singer(08 of08)
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Dolly Parton underwent a partial hysterectomy in 1984, aged 36. The surgery was reportedly related to endometriosis.

Years later, the singer opened up about how she had sunk into a deep depression during that time because she was no longer able to have children.
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