31/03/2013 10:58 BST | Updated 30/05/2013 06:12 BST

Three Shocking Divorce Statistics

1. Latest figures show that there were 117,558 divorces in England and Wales in 2011, which means that 42% of marriages are expected to end in divorce. It is quite incredible to think that you have 42% chance of your marriage lasting when you get that ring on your finger.

2. Across the UK, the number of divorces decreased by 1.9% in 2011, to 129,763. The number of divorces in Scotland fell by 2.8%, from 10,149 in 2010 to 9,862 last year, while the number of divorces in Northern Ireland also decreased. Statistics like this show that the trend towards getting a divorce is becoming less of a solution.

Nevertheless it does not mean that the well being of individuals is being cared for. The reason for the decline has been a financial one, which means that couples cannot afford to separate instead they have had to stay together so they can pay their bills.

3. When it comes to children, almost half (49%) of couples divorcing in 2011 had at least one child aged under 16. It's amazing how many children are involved in the divorce process and how many are affected by it. Its important to find a way to ensure that the children, no matter what age, find a way to share how they feel and have a voice.

In addition, it is key for the parents to put their children first, because otherwise the children will suffer.

In short it looks like the divorce rate is going down, which is a good thing if couples are divorcing in a way that is not harmful to them or their children. There are ways to get divorced that don't mean that couples have to be at each others throats and where they can put their children first.

Remember, if you are going through a divorce or break up and you have children, its important to put your differences aside and create a plan that will help you both move forward in the right direction.

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