Single mother by choice to a donor-conceived toddler.
Elaine is 35, single and after a life spent travelling the world, building a career and amassing a substantial collection of vintage dresses, decided it was time to settle down, get married and have kids. The only problem was, no one would marry her, so she had to have a baby on her own. Her son was born in 2014 by donor conception and she now lives with her mother in the house she grew up in like an overgrown teenager. Her blog SIngle Mum Speaks is all about the journey to single motherhood by choice, and what happened next.
When it comes to being single, I am the most experienced person I know. Tedious online dates where you get talked at for hours? Check. Turning up to discover a date who is unrecognisable from the photos they posted online? Check.
I was a newcomer in the World of Mothers, and the other Mothers knew it. With tales of breastfeeding woes and terrible births, of reassuring smiles and messages in the dead of night to tell me I was doing OK, the World of Mothers welcomed me with open arms.
However, some of these things I would never do were borne not through ignorance of the reality of child-rearing, but out of cultural norms to which I gave far too much credence.
One of these was extended breastfeeding.
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I have met other women in my situation, but only by looking for them; by joining online and offline groups of people who decided that donor conception was right for them. We seem to be growing in number, but that may just be my perception, skewed by media interest and by my own efforts to find like-minded women...
There were many things I swore I would never do before I had a baby. Pretty much all of those ideals have long since fallen by the wayside, along with any last vestiges of sympathy for the physical and emotional comfort of the child free in public spaces.
We also believe that ladies should keep a clean house, and allowing a toddler to throw food is a detriment to this end, as well as disrespectful to those in this world who sadly go without, and at the very least, extreme bad manners. We demand that this is rectified immediately.
Someone has just handed you one of your internal organs and helpfully informed you that it is now your sole responsibility to keep this organ alive and breathing. Yes, you. You who have just recovered from major surgery/had twenty nine stitches in a delicate part of your anatomy. Good luck with that!
29/05/2016 21:04 BST
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