Bisexuality is valid. It's not what I'm calling myself as I'm transitioning, it's not what people are labelled while they're deciding. It's a whole other category! Entering the very community you've been dying to belong to and having them reject you is enough to send a person straight back into the closet!
Some gay people might feel that finding a gay gene might diminish prevalent homophobia, but this is naive. Racism has not diminished because we know that blackness or whiteness is genetic. But scientists still treat us like rats in a lab and look for 'causes'. I have been told I am a lesbian because my mother smoked and drank whilst carrying me.
I feel betrayed. Not that she was an important part of my every day life- I just feel deflated and disappointed that another role model has given in to the stigma of carrying the LGBT tag. Perhaps she just didn't understand the knock on effect it would cause to her younger LGBT fans - many regarding her as a hero to look up to.
When I was coming to terms with my sexuality, trying to work out whether I was solely attracted to one gender over the other was an ongoing battle raging in my head. Much of the time I would reassure myself that such feelings towards males would simply pass and that opting to identify as heterosexual was the easy solution to this problem.
Tom Daley is gay! The ridiculously tanned, ridiculously toned, young gay icon has revealed he has had a boyfriend for months. All the guys across the world who may have watched the Olympic diving less for the pike position and more for Daley's tiny speedos can rejoice, as his heterosexual teen girl fan base cry into their goggles. Except, actually, he isn't gay, or at least hasn't said as much.
Some people simply have ideas they haven't reconsidered in years. They think that they don't know gays and that gay issues have nothing to do with them. They don't see why they should think about equal rights or about health issues or about their stereotyped views of humourless lesbians and camp men.
Being a bisexual man is like trying to look left and right at the same time. Naturally this is to be expected considering the paradoxical nature of what being bisexual entails, but the beliefs and dogmatic perceptions of a large section within society make it almost impossible. Both gay people and straight people seem to have their qualms about bisexuality.
Inevitably though, if we're not greedy then we're trying to be "cool" - this, forgetting the fact that bisexuality ceased to be "cool" in roughly 2008, the same year Katy Perry's ear-numbing 'I Kissed a Girl' reached number one, catapulting bisexuality into the desert of mainstream culture to get picked at by the buzzards.
When people described themselves as being bisexual I automatically assumed they were gay (if male), trying to make themselves more interesting (if female) or desperate to broaden their appeal and fan base (if famous). I thought saying you're bisexual was just a cop out, just like saying you're a Liberal Democrat.
Bisexuals, of course, might be in either opposite-sex or same-sex relationships, and if it's the latter, they too might want to marry their same-sex partners just as much as some homosexuals do. Bisexuals, too, have fought for equal access to marriage (and other rights) and yet seem to be regularly erased from the picture.