She tells me she has no self-esteem or body image issues at all, but if that's the case, why does she feel she needs cosmetic surgery? Did my worries and fears about my breasts rub off on her as a child? She was no stranger to my obsessions, and I really worried that my low self-esteem and negative body image had tainted her view of her own body image, and clouded what's really important.
One thing that we are often told is that we always should strive to be better and in many ways, I agree. Working hard to progress your career, creating goals and attaining them; developing your personality and the way you treat others; all of these things are beneficial to you.
Feminism and body image have had a tricky relationship in the last few years that makes this difficult to argue. If a woman takes her clothes off is she anti-feminism or simply in love with her own body? If she is in love with her own body then does taking her clothes off mean she doesn't respect herself?
Most of us probably think that just using the mirror or jumping on the scales every day to judge how we are shaping-up will inspire us to stick to an exercise plan, but the opposite is usually true - it can actually discourage and demotivate.
Over the years since I left the adult industry, I have hidden my body away. I covered up. I got more conservative as befits a mother, or so I thought. And I lost some of my sense of self. I lost some sense of myself as a beautiful, sexual woman. I lost connection to a certain part of myself.
Blogging is more than words and paragraphs - its a journey, for you and your followers and it one that can lead you down paths that no conventional nine to five job could ever take you. I wrote stories as a little girl but then gave up as being a writer seemed so hard. At the ripe old age of 35 I picked up my blackberry and wrote like mad...
I use the term 'fat ass' as a metaphor for the attributes about yourself which you wouldn't list as your favourite. Your small boobs, your fuzzy hair, your big feet, your glass eye (Ok, actually you're allowed not to love your glass eye) Your 'fat ass' unless recently acquired, is a part of you - as are the other things you dislike about your person.
It's no secret that we're extremely connected, some of us even online-addicts. We mindlessly trail social media sites, taking in everything that flickers in front of our eyes, some helpful, some not. The 'belfies', yoga poses you couldn't even do if you were Stretch Armstrong and tiny, everything-free meals; well, that stuff comes under not so helpful.
Looking at this woman from any other perspective - from outside the strict, bizarre world of fashion - Myla Dalbesio isn't "plus-size". She is MODEL SIZE. Angular in places, soft in others, but with semi-protruding ribs and minimal body fat. She is stunning to look at, obviously. She's a beauty. But 'plus-size'? No.
There is a difference between a shapely bottom and a big bum. Back in the day, women used to ask "Does my bum look big in this?" If it did, they would scream and change outfit. Fast forward years later, when the same question is asked, we want the person being asked to respond, "Yes it does, and it looks fabulous darling."
Victoria's Secret is not off the hook yet. They need to apologise for the damage that this ad has done, and pledge that they will not use such harmful marketing in the future. It is not enough to just silently change the words and move on as if nothing has happened. Until then, it's only a partial victory.
If a model, UK size 10 is considered a plus-sized figure, then there's literally no hope for the majority of women in Britain as the average clothes size for a UK woman is a 16! Oh no, what unattractive monsters we must all be!
You walk into Topshop and this mannequin is the first thing you see - the ONLY representation of the female body throughout the store. Do you think, 'I'm thin but I'm not that thin - is this how I should look like?' Possibly, yes.
It seems that it is no longer enough to have a facelift or a boob job, or to have some collagen injected in the lips. Vaginal 'rejuvenation' procedures are now popular too. Everything female needs to be reshaped.
The controversial video aims to encourage men with eating disorders to seek help by showing a young man vomiting up his testicles in a pub. We believe that the campaign is misguided, inept, and offensive.
You beat yourself up every time another diet fails or your pants don't fit anymore, and you think you just aren't good enough. Shame and guilt take over and you think, "screw it, I'm done! ".