If I could go back in time, there's so many things I'd tell my teenage self. Those kids you think everyone loves, actually everyone hates them, white foundation is not a good look (yes, I was a goth) and stop putting up with all that shit from people who either act like they're your friends and they're not...
If suggestions that the expression is inherently offensive seem somewhat far-fetched, there is no doubt that lad culture has colonised it. We see banter spilling over into both misogyny - reinforcing a false notion that 'catcalling', humiliation and physical harassment are part of a normal night out...
In my day, compared to today, it was a simpler form of bullying - not that I am condoning it in any way - but it was face to face, name calling, physical and mental hurts, you knew the name and the face of the bullies, you knew the familiar outlines as they came towards you so you could run in the opposite direction. Today not only do you have to contend with what I went through you also have to contend with the cyber bullying - the nameless and faceless who say the most disgusting things because they feel they have an anonymity and an autonomy to behave without repercussion.
At NPC we argue that every charity and every funder should try to improve their impact. But because in the sector we are all mission focused, we should always be sharing our knowledge too, even as we have to compete with them in different ways. And that sharing is not only about impact lessons, but issues around failure and mergers.
Studies carried out by The Anti-bulling Aliance show that people living with any form of disability or additional learning need are more likely to be a victim of bullying. Despite this, anyone can become a victim of bullying, and so this year's theme for anti bullying week is 'Lets Stop Bullying for All'.
Unless you're in the army, I think it is extremely rare for a work situation to warrant adults insulting, shouting or losing their rag with one another. Screaming at someone in particular is surely a sign of weakness: you've lost control and it's an emotional response in the same way that crying is.
At the very end of Spirit Day, the entire school emptied onto the playground for a photograph to show our unity for all young LGBT people who have faced bullying, abuse or discrimination. And as our pupils jostled and argued over who would get to hold the rainbow flag, I knew that we had made a difference, and that things would never be the same again.
For the last twenty two of my thirty one years on this planet, bullying has been on my mind. I've suffered it, in some circumstances I've done it, and now with two children I consider its practise. It's almost never far from the news and again it seems another British teenager has lost their life because of it.