On screen women should be heroes and villains and navigate narratives that reassure us that the crap we go through isn't just us and we can aspire to be more than just a Bond girl. We need to gatecrash this boy's club that Hollywood is and encourage more females to make movies that tell our stories.
In reality, women (and men) are just little fragile humans thrown into the world, trying to deal with all the stuff life throws our way. How can we possibly maintain this level of infallibility while doing all this? We can't, because it doesn't actually exist.
Arquette confirms my fear of becoming a mother. A fear that has led to my non-normative decision in not having children; a decision that is constantly contested by society, my mother every time we Skype, and none the least by myself.
Did I do wrong? I don't think so. Am I betraying my feminist tendencies? Possibly. It's highly unlikely that our afternoon will leave her wanting to be a glamour model rather than a rocket scientist. I doubt that she will be left thinking looks are singularly more important than anything else.
It's harmful for men to believe that financial success is what defines their masculinity - it implies that their hearts and personalities will never speak louder than their wallets, and will certainly never be enough to interest a woman.
Arquette massively let herself down when she assumed that women of colour and LGBT+ women did not exist within the definition of 'woman', and she idea that multiple forms of discrimination act and can be seen in isolation from each other is one that is doing damage to these movements. But most of all, it is doing a disservice to the most marginalised people in our societies.
So, when chatting with the denouncers, I naturally ask them who these 'radical feminists' are that they feel are dominating the conversation. To date, no one has been able to identify or name a single person or organisation who they believe is controlling the air waves spouting 'radical feminist stuff'.
It seems we live in a climate where those being oppressed cannot even decide what amounts to oppression against them. We must wait to be told by someone from the oppressing class. That is convenient for the oppressing class, but an odd concept otherwise.
Feminism was supposed to be about enabling women (and men) to choose how they want to live their lives. Now, though, it has been twisted and distorted into a ridiculous expectation that every woman must be all she can be, to realise (or even exceed) her potential in every area.
Pink, it seems, really is a women's issue. It doesn't matter whether you are a woman of colour, a woman of means, a single mother, a 16 year old girl, a lesbian - if you want to be taken seriously, you can't be pink. 'Being pink' is about more than just wearing pink; it's about displaying any indicator of the particular brand of femininity that pink represents...
By learning about the challenges that girls face, they can seek change. As a Guide Leader, I'm always amazed at how passionate and determined my group can be when there is a cause they feel strongly about, such as child marriage and lack of access to education.
Instead of the constant critiquing and debating (and, ahem, blog posting), shouldn't we all be a little embarrassed that this movie is so popular? The movie posters boast that it is a "global phenomenon", and, based on the volume of discussion, media coverage and blatant outrage that this movie has sparked, I am starting to actually believe this to be true.
At a time when - despite being a fully modernised world in most others senses - women still fail to receive pay packets equal to their male counterparts, the need for women to be portrayed as equals in mainstream media has never been more critical.
We need to be able to guarantee the safety of all artists and activists for human rights, so that it no longer takes extraordinary courage to call for a better world - so that every person with the ability to imagine peace, equality, progress and justice can express their dreams and hopes without fear.
Without love our empathy always falls short, and without full-bodied empathy we cannot act in true selflessness, consequently, we will not fix the deep seated issues we face as a species. It makes sense that unless we reclaim love from its hegemonic interpretations, in order to love ourselves, to love others and to love planet, our work for social change will always be burdened.
I can see why the BDSM community are up in arms. Here is a man who stalks his victim with a degree of fortitude that it's hard not to feel some begrudging sense of awe. He knows her bank details, in fact he has a built an entire file on her and flies out to interrupt a holiday with her parents, checking in to the same hotel as she's enjoying cocktails with her mother.