#Grief

Ten Surprising Things About Grief

Alexandra Massey | Posted 23.05.2016 | UK Lifestyle
Alexandra Massey

My husband Pete died suddenly last year. His death was completely unexpected. Well to me anyway. But others have since told me they saw it coming. But I didn't. And even though he'd been ill for a long time, I thought he was going to live forever.

Running Away From Grief

Dana Fletcher | Posted 13.05.2016 | UK Universities & Education
Dana Fletcher

There is no return to normalcy, simply the reconstruction of a new reality. What's normal anyway? Your world becomes a mosaic constructed with the shattered pieces of the past - gilded and adorned with the silver linings of happy moments collected along the way.

Cancer Grief: Physical Symptoms and What to Do

Karin Sieger | Posted 11.05.2016 | UK Lifestyle
Karin Sieger

Cancer grief is the sense of loss and bereavement experienced by those affected by cancer (including family and friends). It can start with the diagnosis and does not need a death to feel earth shatteringly real.

Learning to Accept 'Okay'

Naomi Barrow | Posted 03.05.2016 | UK Universities & Education
Naomi Barrow

Adding 'okay' to your vocabulary is so vital in today's society when there is pressure from every angle. When you're expected to do unpaid overtime, have a 'perfect' house, a 'perfect' body and a 'perfect' social life all at the same time (which, by the way, is entirely unrealistic). You are okay. You really are okay. And most of the time, so am I.

Justice for the 96: It Has Finally Happened

Lydia Suffield | Posted 26.04.2016 | UK Universities & Education
Lydia Suffield

It's been twenty-seven years since 96 people left homes, parents, spouses, siblings, children, to go to a football game...

Child's Heartbreaking Message In A Bottle Found Washed Up On Beach

The Huffington Post | Amy Packham | Posted 26.04.2016 | UK Parents

A young boy's heartbreaking message to his best friend who passed away was found washed up on a beach. Jonathon Torres, whose age and location are unk...

Why Have So Many Gone Too Soon?

Heidi Eldridge | Posted 25.04.2016 | UK Parents
Heidi Eldridge

After experiencing the devastation and pain of giving birth but not bringing my son home from hospital, I eventually decided to tackle baby loss so my son's very short life would not be in vain.

A Voice From the Dark: Why Talking Taboos Makes for a Better Society

Angela Brightwell | Posted 18.04.2016 | UK Parents
Angela Brightwell

It's important to share our stories if we can, especially those of us who find it easier to express ourselves through the written word than others may. In fact, it's our duty to do so, in the hope it might help others.

The Great Grief Identity Crisis

Naomi Barrow | Posted 07.04.2016 | UK Universities & Education
Naomi Barrow

I don't want to live my life as "Fiona's daughter". There are a few people I know at the moment who think of me this way, and it feels like such a burden. It also doesn't do justice either to me or to Mum. Mum wasn't just a mother: she was so much more than that. And I may be her daughter, but I am so much more than that, too.

Death Of A Partner Really Can Break Your Heart, Study Suggests

The Huffington Post | Rachel Moss | Posted 08.04.2016 | UK Lifestyle

The death of a partner may actually break your heart, new research suggests. The study found that those who lose a partner are at an increased risk of...

The Digital Afterlife: How Technology Has Changed the Way We Grieve

Philip Ellis | Posted 23.03.2016 | UK Tech
Philip Ellis

There was a time when only two things in life were certain; death and taxes. Now there's a third certainty; that the imprint we leave online will last long after we are gone. By 2012, just eight years after Facebook launched, 30 million profile owners had died. According to some estimates, 8,000 Facebook users die every day, leaving behind profiles, photos, likes, and memories.

Mum's Poignant Poem About The Constant Struggle Of Stillbirth

The Huffington Post | Amy Packham | Posted 22.03.2016 | UK Parents

A mother who gave birth to a stillborn daughter has written a poignant poem about the constant struggle she faces after losing her baby. Libby Martin,...

Some of My Past Died With Mum

Naomi Barrow | Posted 21.03.2016 | UK Universities & Education
Naomi Barrow

It is really weird knowing that if I lose a memory, and only Mum would have remembered it, it is now a nothing. It's a gap. I don't know where it went or what it turned into but it's not there anymore. It's been replaced by space and silence. For the rest of my life, that gap will always be a gap; there will never again be a piece of memory that perfectly fits.

My Five Year Wedding Anniversary as a Widow

Julia Bryson | Posted 21.03.2016 | UK Lifestyle
Julia Bryson

Five years ago that weekend was one of the happiest days of my life. It was the day I married Roger, my best friend and the man who made me laugh, made me feel spacial, made me feel safe. The father of my children, the one who I wanted to spend the rest of my life with.

How to Comfort People with Broken Hearts

Zoe Clark-Coates | Posted 18.03.2016 | UK Lifestyle
Zoe Clark-Coates

1, Go find person (tip - often found hiding in their home) 2, Take supplies to person (tip - tissues, soft blanket, plump pillows, chocolate, m...

An Open Apology to My Friends With Babies

Angela Brightwell | Posted 10.03.2016 | UK Lifestyle
Angela Brightwell

We'll play this weird charade - you playing it down for my benefit, and me over-enthusing for yours. When you pop into the kitchen to grab the pump, you won't notice me furiously blinking up at the ceiling, or the marks on my arm from trying to pinch it all back.

Life After Tragedy

Victoria Milligan | Posted 08.03.2016 | UK Lifestyle
Victoria Milligan

The morning of 5 May, 2013, started like any other morning. My husband, our four children and I were staying in our holiday home in North Cornwall for the bank holiday weekend and what a weekend it promised to be, the weather was glorious. After a morning of walking on the beach, sand castle making and splashing in the sea, we decided to go out on our speedboat, a RIB, and had a heavenly afternoon picnicking and driving up and down the stunning Camel estuary. It was the first time that we had been out on the boat all year and everyone was in a good mood, laughing and screaming as we rode the choppy waves. It was only when we were coming back into our mooring that disaster struck.

Motherless Mother's Day

Naomi Barrow | Posted 04.03.2016 | UK Universities & Education
Naomi Barrow

Mother's Day is not the easiest days for those people without a mother. There are big signs in every shop shouting at you to buy things for your Mum, giving those of us without Mums daily reminders that we don't have someone to buy these things for.

Dear Mum With No Mum This Mother's Day

Aimee Foster | Posted 04.03.2016 | UK Parents
Aimee Foster

I'm not sure what's changed this year, but somewhere among the Mother's Day adverts and shop displays I made the decision to stop pretending to ignore it. For the first time in 12 years, I'm going to let it in...

The Role of Therapeutic Storytelling in Early Years Loss And Bereavement

Amanda Seyderhelm | Posted 29.02.2016 | UK Parents
Amanda Seyderhelm

If you ask a bereaved child a direct question such as, 'how do you feel about Mummy dying? their response is likely to be a shoulder shrug rather than a chatty response. On the other hand, if you tell them a story about an animal losing his Mum, the child is likely to identify with the animal and tell you how they feel.

What I Think About When I'm Running

Julia Bryson | Posted 23.02.2016 | UK Lifestyle
Julia Bryson

I think about my grief, my guilt, and whether my thoughts are normal and how they can be healed. I think about my speed, how far I've run, and try to push myself to keep going when I feel like giving up.

What Do You Say to a Bereaved Parent?

Natasha Batsford | Posted 18.02.2016 | UK Parents
Natasha Batsford

It feels strange to write those words - this is actually a post I have shied away from writing for a very long time - because who am I to grieve? Who am I, who has all my babies around me, to look at another mother and even try to comprehend the multitude of ways in which her heart is broken?

Finding New Hope After Baby Loss

Aimee Foster | Posted 18.02.2016 | UK Parents
Aimee Foster

The beginning of a bright new life brings so many emotions to the surface. Joy, fear, anticipation, surprise and trust are among them. And of course there is the love, which is blind, unconditional and fearless. This all-consuming love is always accompanied by hope.

It's Horrible Feeling Ill, and Worse When You Can't Even Text Your Mum

Naomi Barrow | Posted 18.02.2016 | UK Universities & Education
Naomi Barrow

On Friday night I started crying because I felt so rubbish and all I wanted was Mum. I'm really lucky to have some amazing women in my life who frequently fill in as 'stand-in Mum' when a situation calls for it. But I think being ill is one of those times where you just want your 'real' Mum...

Mum's Brave Campaign For Child Who Died From What She Thought Was A Chest Infection

The Huffington Post UK | Amy Packham | Posted 12.02.2016 | UK Parents

A mother whose five-year-old daughter died from an illness that initially appeared to be nothing more than a "simple chest infection", has launched a ...