#Grief

Grief for a Living Child: A Taboo That Needs to Be Broken

Melissa Mostyn | Posted 27.01.2015 | UK Lifestyle
Melissa Mostyn

It was the force of that grief, rather than the shock of Isobel's diagnosis, that I fought desperately to eject from myself. It took great strength to not let it blind me to the very beautiful little girl who had arrived with the potential to light up my life.

Wild Women

Lisa Edwards | Posted 21.01.2015 | UK Lifestyle
Lisa Edwards

It is always the plan. I know my mother wanted more for me than she had had herself, professionally, romantically, economically and everything-ally. And I have spent my life trying to make that happen, especially since she died sixteen years ago.

Why The Differences Between Empathy and Sympathy Matter

Leigh Kendall | Posted 21.01.2015 | UK Lifestyle
Leigh Kendall

Grief is entirely individual, and the grieving person has to respond to their grief in a way that is relevant to them. How they respond may change over time. The difficulty with the platitudes detailed above is that they infer a judgement about how the person is grieving, the time they are taking over their grief, or how they are feeling.

Turn(it)around Bright Eyes

The Mac Twins | Posted 12.01.2015 | UK Lifestyle
The Mac Twins

Sometimes the magnitude of everything you want to do in your lifetime is so overwhelming that you don't do any of them at all. Read all of Game of Thrones, re-visit chess, triathlon training - the list trundles on and on.

Bouncing Back

Maggie Currie | Posted 30.12.2014 | UK Lifestyle
Maggie Currie

Life happens. It doesn't matter how positive or balanced and centred you are, there are going to be times when you are knocked sideways. Times when your carefully organised life is turned upside down and you get knocked for six. Life happens!

One Stocking Missing

Zoe Clark-Coates | Posted 23.12.2014 | UK Lifestyle
Zoe Clark-Coates

Children have always been the centre of Christmas and when you are longing for a child, Christmas can be one of the most heart breaking times of the year. Imagine this... A 9-month walk of hope and longing. At the end of the journey an empty crib.

Milestones and Tributes; Missing Loved Ones This Christmas

Rachael Chadwick | Posted 11.12.2014 | UK Lifestyle
Rachael Chadwick

When you lose someone, you often find yourself in a cliché firing line as, 'It was their time to go', 'Time is a healer' and 'Everything will be okay' are shot at you. Of course, people are trying to help as best they can (which is appreciated immensely), but it is so difficult to digest anything positive when things are painfully raw and you are suffocating in grief.

Being There for People Who Have Been Bereaved

Joe Levenson | Posted 10.12.2014 | UK
Joe Levenson

One hundred years after the outbreak of the First World War, which contributed to a major shift in cultural attitudes and practices relating to death and mourning, with discussing dying increasingly becoming a taboo, many British people remain deeply uneasy talking about bereavement.

I'm Letting the Boys Down

Jeff Brazier | Posted 08.12.2014 | UK Entertainment
Jeff Brazier

Keeping the many facets of our lives going is a great and progressively more common achievement that we have little choice but to challenge ourselves with. However, if you are not paying attention to the areas of your life that matter the most then in the end the success is found to be hollow because we dropped the ball that matters the most...

Dementia and Shirley Bassey

Dawn Vance | Posted 02.12.2014 | UK Lifestyle
Dawn Vance

My mum doesn't know who I am. Sadly, I don't mean that in a spiritual, angsty kind of way - she literally has no idea who I am. Sometimes I'm one of her sisters. Sometimes I'm a nurse. Sometimes I'm her dead mother. Once I was Shirley Bassey, which made for an interesting evening.

The Seven Reasons to Attend A Death Café

Liberty Forrest | Posted 17.01.2015 | UK Lifestyle
Liberty Forrest

Generally speaking, Western culture shuns, fears and hides from death whenever possible. It is shrouded in mystery, and in fact, in secrecy to some extent. We don't like to discuss it at all, but when we must, we use euphemisms for it. We shield our children from it, we don't let them attend funerals...

Baby Loss Awareness Week

Zoe Clark-Coates | Posted 10.12.2014 | UK Lifestyle
Zoe Clark-Coates

You secretly weep when you see pregnant women, as it's a reminder of what you no longer have. However if you envy that woman, it's always tinged with guilt, as you are acutely aware that she might be one of the one in four- expecting a baby following loss.

What NOT to Say to Those in Grief: Part Two

Sarah Wauterlek Pierson | Posted 02.11.2014 | UK Lifestyle
Sarah Wauterlek Pierson

Harsh words spoken from the lips of children can provide a bit of laughter. Harsh words spoken from the lips of adults sting. Here are some more examples of what not to say to those that are grieving, this time as taken from adults:

Give Me Flowers Now, Thank You

Sonja Lewis | Posted 19.10.2014 | UK Lifestyle
Sonja Lewis

Flowers are one of the most straightforward ways of expressing appreciation, love, sorrow and grief. However, nowadays, for the latter occasion, many bereaved families, for one reason or another, request donations to a charity instead of flowers.

Are You Seriously Asking Me That?

Zoe Clark-Coates | Posted 16.10.2014 | UK Lifestyle
Zoe Clark-Coates

Today's post follows an interesting interview I had on the radio. The interviewer, through no fault of his own, clearly had no understanding of baby loss. He sadly resorted to many clichéd lines, which are regularly handed out to those who are unfortunate enough to know first-hand the sad reality of losing a much wanted child.

What NOT to Say to Those In Grief: A Lesson From Seven-Year-Olds

Sarah Wauterlek Pierson | Posted 12.10.2014 | UK Lifestyle
Sarah Wauterlek Pierson

It was seven years ago that I lost my first husband in a tragic plane crash. At the time I was a second grade teacher and just the other day I came across the letters that my students wrote after his death.

Na-Nu Na-Nu

Zoe Clark-Coates | Posted 12.10.2014 | UK
Zoe Clark-Coates

What a tragic loss to the world of comedy. Without writing any more words you know who I am speaking of....the legend that is Robin Williams.

There Is Healing in the Weeping

Zoe Clark-Coates | Posted 04.10.2014 | UK Lifestyle
Zoe Clark-Coates

When babies are born we hope they come out crying so we know they are OK. However, somewhere along the line, tears stop showing the world we are healthy and that we are fine. Instead, the tears seem to start telling people that we are emotionally unstable and suggest that we aren't coping.

Please Don't Tell Me I'm 'Lucky' My Parents Are Already Dead

Emma Clarke | Posted 29.09.2014 | UK Lifestyle
Emma Clarke

Although it seems a lifetime ago, it feels like yesterday. Time doesn't heal; it just makes grief go out of focus. And anything can bring it sharply back again: a photograph, a scent, a memory or just the endless yearning pall of homesickness so familiar to people who've lost their parents too early.

The Hardest Job in the World

Kathryn Taylor | Posted 27.09.2014 | UK Lifestyle
Kathryn Taylor

With those I know well, its: 'How are things with you?', 'Oh, you know. Nothing yet.' Sometimes, in my head (and once out loud) I shout 'You can't out-complain me! Your baby is alive and mine is dead!'

They Threw Our Baby in the Bin

Zoe Clark-Coates | Posted 26.09.2014 | UK Lifestyle
Zoe Clark-Coates

We wish we had ticked the other box, the box that stated 'yes' we would have our baby back. However, like many parents, we were given minutes to decide, before I was rushed down to theatre. In those few minutes we sat traumatised. We were in shock...

Change and Acceptance on the Road to Happiness

Sandi Wassmer | Posted 19.09.2014 | UK Lifestyle
Sandi Wassmer

This is not to say that you should be skipping in the fields when sad or upsetting things happen. Acceptance is not about resignation, ignoring reality or doing nothing. It's about fully acknowledging what has happened, seeing it for what it is and then finding your way to let it go.

Letting Grief Re-Define What Time and Success Mean

Debbie Leven | Posted 17.09.2014 | UK Lifestyle
Debbie Leven

Losing friends or family always makes you contemplate about life. Maybe it's also about being older and having different priorities, understanding that it's not the material things that really make a difference or bring happiness. When I was told the news that my friend had passed away I remember my immediate reaction was 'I thought there was more time.'

Coaching Butterflies...

Jeff Brazier | Posted 13.09.2014 | UK Entertainment
Jeff Brazier

n an R.E lesson the subject conveniently turned to the afterlife, and, without needing any cue, Freddy got up and spoke wonderfully in front of the whole class about Jade and most poignantly about how he sees her as a beautiful butterfly. Heart melting stuff and Ms H took the golden opportunity to elaborate and congratulate Freddy on such a brave show of emotion. Realising she was beneath the barrier, something wonderful happened between teacher and pupil and an understanding was made. This was confirmed when a Loom-band bracelet appeared anonymously on her desk with a note proclaiming her to be the best teacher in the world.

Coaching Through Grief

Jeff Brazier | Posted 08.09.2014 | UK Entertainment
Jeff Brazier

Something so harrowing happened today that I can't get it off my mind. I took the children to watch the Tour de France come tearing through the tiny country lanes in a neighbouring village and I ended up comforting a woman as she watched her husband slipping away before her very eyes. I just can't comprehend what she must be feeling right now.