#Grief

Solitary, Poor, Nasty, Brutish and Short

Clare Allington | Posted 24.04.2015 | UK Lifestyle
Clare Allington

Funny thing about grief is it hits you in waves; some days you can be tootling along quite happily then a smell, or a memory hits you, and yes this is quite embarrassing in public when you burst into tears.

Two Years

Mark Oborn | Posted 17.04.2015 | UK Lifestyle
Mark Oborn

Both our past and our future are constructions in our own mind. They are not reality, they either haven't happened yet or they are flawed re-creations of what has been. We worry when there is resistance and comparison between the past or the future and the NOW.

Grief is Unique

Zoe Clark-Coates | Posted 16.04.2015 | UK Parents
Zoe Clark-Coates

My first loss was shocking...it was submerged with a host of other feelings, mostly denial. I didn't want to be that one in four who lost a baby; I felt I could almost pretend I hadn't lost a baby, and that would erase the miscarriage.

#12

Noelle Reno | Posted 08.04.2015 | UK Lifestyle
Noelle Reno

Over the year I had traveled thousands of miles to discover new places and things only to truly discover myself. The incredible evolution I underwent has shaped me in to an almost recognizably conscious, empathetic, joyful person from where I started. The greatest journey any human take is that 13 inches from your head to heart.

Finding Peace during Difficult Times

Deborah Quibell | Posted 07.04.2015 | UK Lifestyle
Deborah Quibell

The eyes of the spiritual heart see the necessity of life's vicissitudes to develop inner strength and transformation. It is this heart that unravels the tensions of the mind, and frees us from the entrapments of fear. It is in this heart, that we can find rest and comfort amidst the thunderstorms around us.

How To Support A Teen Through Zayn Malik Heartbreak

The Huffington Post UK | Ellen Wallwork | Posted 30.03.2015 | UK Parents

Zayn Malik's decision to quit One Direction has left fans shocked and upset. Teenage Directioners in particular have flocked to social media to share ...

Mother's Day After Death of a Child

Sally Hall | Posted 17.03.2015 | UK Lifestyle
Sally Hall

I think any parents with a very sick child on an oncology ward would agree that their mothers have been rocks in terms of practical support. I can only imagine what it must have felt for my mum to have been told the devastating news about Skye's cancer.

The Power of One: A Tribute to Kim Pearson

Georgie Bradley | Posted 16.03.2015 | UK Lifestyle
Georgie Bradley

Kim Pearson was from South Africa and my teacher in Bahrain from 2002-6. It swells my heart with pain to say he has left us. A multidisciplinary teacher, he taught across the board, but Geography and Religious Education in the main.

'My Four Babies Came Into The World And Then My Wife Died'

The Huffington Post UK | Natasha Hinde | Posted 03.03.2015 | UK Lifestyle

A father, who has been left to care for his newborn quadruplets after his wife died during childbirth, has received nearly $285,000 from kind donators...

Grief at 50,000 Feet: When Your Dad Dies and You're On Honeymoon

Laura Zito | Posted 02.03.2015 | UK Lifestyle
Laura Zito

"Dad had an accident." At this point, I prayed so hard her next words weren't what I feared they would be. "Dad's died." I screamed, making a noise that had never come out of my body before. David was sitting on the bed. I ran through the balcony doors and told him dad was dead.

A Cup of Tea and a Text Message

Julie Elizabeth | Posted 19.04.2015 | UK Lifestyle
Julie Elizabeth

Walking into a heavy silent house lit by golden waving glass shadows, one full cup of tea sat on the kitchen counter. It was the cup of tea he never finished when we rushed into hospital two days before. Stale, cold and miserable it had spent 48 hours unaware of its fate.

An Open Letter to Mum, Three Years Since You Passed

Rachael Chadwick | Posted 12.04.2015 | UK Lifestyle
Rachael Chadwick

I was once torn apart by nightmares that would haunt me night after night. Waking up from those was like losing you all over again. But, in the past year I have started to dream about you - beautiful you. Now there are times when I wake up and I feel like you have been right there beside me.

A Letter

Julie Elizabeth | Posted 08.04.2015 | UK Lifestyle
Julie Elizabeth

From the moment I was handed your death certificate, I have had to reluctantly crawl and claw my way back to what non spouse bereaved members of society would call 'normal' whilst crippled by nerves and anxiety, my physical and mental health continually hanging by a thread during a drunken haze of euphoric reflection.

From a Year of 'Us' to a Year of 'Me': Starting the Year as a Young Widow

Rachael Dickson Hillyard | Posted 10.04.2015 | UK Lifestyle
Rachael Dickson Hillyard

However, 2014 is over and 2015 has arrived whether it was welcomed or not. If 2014 was a year of 'us', it seems 2015 will be a year of 'me'. My focus has been someone else for so long and I'm not yet comfortable with this new solitary mind set.

Tell Them

Benjamin Brooks-Dutton | Posted 03.04.2015 | UK Lifestyle
Benjamin Brooks-Dutton

Tell them that at thirty-one years old I was the happiest man alive when I married the love of my life. Tell them that I was utterly bereft when I lost her at thirty-three. Tell them I've thirty-five now and depressed. Tell them that I put a good face on but that the truth is that things haven't really got much easier. Tell them from me how hard it is to be a bereaved single parent.

Grief for a Living Child: A Taboo That Needs to Be Broken

Melissa Mostyn | Posted 29.03.2015 | UK Lifestyle
Melissa Mostyn

It was the force of that grief, rather than the shock of Isobel's diagnosis, that I fought desperately to eject from myself. It took great strength to not let it blind me to the very beautiful little girl who had arrived with the potential to light up my life.

Wild Women

Lisa Edwards | Posted 22.03.2015 | UK Lifestyle
Lisa Edwards

It is always the plan. I know my mother wanted more for me than she had had herself, professionally, romantically, economically and everything-ally. And I have spent my life trying to make that happen, especially since she died sixteen years ago.

Why The Differences Between Empathy and Sympathy Matter

Leigh Kendall | Posted 22.03.2015 | UK Lifestyle
Leigh Kendall

Grief is entirely individual, and the grieving person has to respond to their grief in a way that is relevant to them. How they respond may change over time. The difficulty with the platitudes detailed above is that they infer a judgement about how the person is grieving, the time they are taking over their grief, or how they are feeling.

Turn(it)around Bright Eyes

The Mac Twins | Posted 14.03.2015 | UK Lifestyle
The Mac Twins

Sometimes the magnitude of everything you want to do in your lifetime is so overwhelming that you don't do any of them at all. Read all of Game of Thrones, re-visit chess, triathlon training - the list trundles on and on.

Bouncing Back

Maggie Currie | Posted 28.02.2015 | UK Lifestyle
Maggie Currie

Life happens. It doesn't matter how positive or balanced and centred you are, there are going to be times when you are knocked sideways. Times when your carefully organised life is turned upside down and you get knocked for six. Life happens!

One Stocking Missing

Zoe Clark-Coates | Posted 22.02.2015 | UK Lifestyle
Zoe Clark-Coates

Children have always been the centre of Christmas and when you are longing for a child, Christmas can be one of the most heart breaking times of the year. Imagine this... A 9-month walk of hope and longing. At the end of the journey an empty crib.

Milestones and Tributes; Missing Loved Ones This Christmas

Rachael Chadwick | Posted 09.02.2015 | UK Lifestyle
Rachael Chadwick

When you lose someone, you often find yourself in a cliché firing line as, 'It was their time to go', 'Time is a healer' and 'Everything will be okay' are shot at you. Of course, people are trying to help as best they can (which is appreciated immensely), but it is so difficult to digest anything positive when things are painfully raw and you are suffocating in grief.

Being There for People Who Have Been Bereaved

Joe Levenson | Posted 09.02.2015 | UK
Joe Levenson

One hundred years after the outbreak of the First World War, which contributed to a major shift in cultural attitudes and practices relating to death and mourning, with discussing dying increasingly becoming a taboo, many British people remain deeply uneasy talking about bereavement.

I'm Letting the Boys Down

Jeff Brazier | Posted 07.02.2015 | UK Entertainment
Jeff Brazier

Keeping the many facets of our lives going is a great and progressively more common achievement that we have little choice but to challenge ourselves with. However, if you are not paying attention to the areas of your life that matter the most then in the end the success is found to be hollow because we dropped the ball that matters the most...

Dementia and Shirley Bassey

Dawn Vance | Posted 01.02.2015 | UK Lifestyle
Dawn Vance

My mum doesn't know who I am. Sadly, I don't mean that in a spiritual, angsty kind of way - she literally has no idea who I am. Sometimes I'm one of her sisters. Sometimes I'm a nurse. Sometimes I'm her dead mother. Once I was Shirley Bassey, which made for an interesting evening.