#Grief

How To Support A Teen Through Zayn Malik Heartbreak

The Huffington Post UK | Ellen Wallwork | Posted 26.03.2015 | UK Lifestyle

Zayn Malik's decision to quit One Direction has left fans shocked and upset. Teenage Directioners in particular have flocked to social media to share ...

Mother's Day After Death of a Child

Sally Hall | Posted 17.03.2015 | UK Lifestyle
Sally Hall

I think any parents with a very sick child on an oncology ward would agree that their mothers have been rocks in terms of practical support. I can only imagine what it must have felt for my mum to have been told the devastating news about Skye's cancer.

The Power of One: A Tribute to Kim Pearson

Georgie Bradley | Posted 16.03.2015 | UK Lifestyle
Georgie Bradley

Kim Pearson was from South Africa and my teacher in Bahrain from 2002-6. It swells my heart with pain to say he has left us. A multidisciplinary teacher, he taught across the board, but Geography and Religious Education in the main.

'My Four Babies Came Into The World And Then My Wife Died'

The Huffington Post UK | Natasha Hinde | Posted 03.03.2015 | UK Lifestyle

A father, who has been left to care for his newborn quadruplets after his wife died during childbirth, has received nearly $285,000 from kind donators...

Grief at 50,000 Feet: When Your Dad Dies and You're On Honeymoon

Laura Zito | Posted 02.03.2015 | UK Lifestyle
Laura Zito

"Dad had an accident." At this point, I prayed so hard her next words weren't what I feared they would be. "Dad's died." I screamed, making a noise that had never come out of my body before. David was sitting on the bed. I ran through the balcony doors and told him dad was dead.

A Cup of Tea and a Text Message

Julie Elizabeth | Posted 18.02.2015 | UK Lifestyle
Julie Elizabeth

Walking into a heavy silent house lit by golden waving glass shadows, one full cup of tea sat on the kitchen counter. It was the cup of tea he never finished when we rushed into hospital two days before. Stale, cold and miserable it had spent 48 hours unaware of its fate.

An Open Letter to Mum, Three Years Since You Passed

Rachael Chadwick | Posted 11.02.2015 | UK Lifestyle
Rachael Chadwick

I was once torn apart by nightmares that would haunt me night after night. Waking up from those was like losing you all over again. But, in the past year I have started to dream about you - beautiful you. Now there are times when I wake up and I feel like you have been right there beside me.

A Letter

Julie Elizabeth | Posted 09.02.2015 | UK Lifestyle
Julie Elizabeth

From the moment I was handed your death certificate, I have had to reluctantly crawl and claw my way back to what non spouse bereaved members of society would call 'normal' whilst crippled by nerves and anxiety, my physical and mental health continually hanging by a thread during a drunken haze of euphoric reflection.

From a Year of 'Us' to a Year of 'Me': Starting the Year as a Young Widow

Rachael Dickson Hillyard | Posted 10.02.2015 | UK Lifestyle
Rachael Dickson Hillyard

However, 2014 is over and 2015 has arrived whether it was welcomed or not. If 2014 was a year of 'us', it seems 2015 will be a year of 'me'. My focus has been someone else for so long and I'm not yet comfortable with this new solitary mind set.

Tell Them

Benjamin Brooks-Dutton | Posted 01.02.2015 | UK Lifestyle
Benjamin Brooks-Dutton

Tell them that at thirty-one years old I was the happiest man alive when I married the love of my life. Tell them that I was utterly bereft when I lost her at thirty-three. Tell them I've thirty-five now and depressed. Tell them that I put a good face on but that the truth is that things haven't really got much easier. Tell them from me how hard it is to be a bereaved single parent.

Grief for a Living Child: A Taboo That Needs to Be Broken

Melissa Mostyn | Posted 29.03.2015 | UK Lifestyle
Melissa Mostyn

It was the force of that grief, rather than the shock of Isobel's diagnosis, that I fought desperately to eject from myself. It took great strength to not let it blind me to the very beautiful little girl who had arrived with the potential to light up my life.

Wild Women

Lisa Edwards | Posted 22.03.2015 | UK Lifestyle
Lisa Edwards

It is always the plan. I know my mother wanted more for me than she had had herself, professionally, romantically, economically and everything-ally. And I have spent my life trying to make that happen, especially since she died sixteen years ago.

Why The Differences Between Empathy and Sympathy Matter

Leigh Kendall | Posted 22.03.2015 | UK Lifestyle
Leigh Kendall

Grief is entirely individual, and the grieving person has to respond to their grief in a way that is relevant to them. How they respond may change over time. The difficulty with the platitudes detailed above is that they infer a judgement about how the person is grieving, the time they are taking over their grief, or how they are feeling.

Turn(it)around Bright Eyes

The Mac Twins | Posted 14.03.2015 | UK Lifestyle
The Mac Twins

Sometimes the magnitude of everything you want to do in your lifetime is so overwhelming that you don't do any of them at all. Read all of Game of Thrones, re-visit chess, triathlon training - the list trundles on and on.

Bouncing Back

Maggie Currie | Posted 28.02.2015 | UK Lifestyle
Maggie Currie

Life happens. It doesn't matter how positive or balanced and centred you are, there are going to be times when you are knocked sideways. Times when your carefully organised life is turned upside down and you get knocked for six. Life happens!

One Stocking Missing

Zoe Clark-Coates | Posted 22.02.2015 | UK Lifestyle
Zoe Clark-Coates

Children have always been the centre of Christmas and when you are longing for a child, Christmas can be one of the most heart breaking times of the year. Imagine this... A 9-month walk of hope and longing. At the end of the journey an empty crib.

Milestones and Tributes; Missing Loved Ones This Christmas

Rachael Chadwick | Posted 09.02.2015 | UK Lifestyle
Rachael Chadwick

When you lose someone, you often find yourself in a cliché firing line as, 'It was their time to go', 'Time is a healer' and 'Everything will be okay' are shot at you. Of course, people are trying to help as best they can (which is appreciated immensely), but it is so difficult to digest anything positive when things are painfully raw and you are suffocating in grief.

Being There for People Who Have Been Bereaved

Joe Levenson | Posted 09.02.2015 | UK
Joe Levenson

One hundred years after the outbreak of the First World War, which contributed to a major shift in cultural attitudes and practices relating to death and mourning, with discussing dying increasingly becoming a taboo, many British people remain deeply uneasy talking about bereavement.

I'm Letting the Boys Down

Jeff Brazier | Posted 07.02.2015 | UK Entertainment
Jeff Brazier

Keeping the many facets of our lives going is a great and progressively more common achievement that we have little choice but to challenge ourselves with. However, if you are not paying attention to the areas of your life that matter the most then in the end the success is found to be hollow because we dropped the ball that matters the most...

Dementia and Shirley Bassey

Dawn Vance | Posted 01.02.2015 | UK Lifestyle
Dawn Vance

My mum doesn't know who I am. Sadly, I don't mean that in a spiritual, angsty kind of way - she literally has no idea who I am. Sometimes I'm one of her sisters. Sometimes I'm a nurse. Sometimes I'm her dead mother. Once I was Shirley Bassey, which made for an interesting evening.

The Seven Reasons to Attend A Death Café

Liberty Forrest | Posted 17.01.2015 | UK Lifestyle
Liberty Forrest

Generally speaking, Western culture shuns, fears and hides from death whenever possible. It is shrouded in mystery, and in fact, in secrecy to some extent. We don't like to discuss it at all, but when we must, we use euphemisms for it. We shield our children from it, we don't let them attend funerals...

Baby Loss Awareness Week

Zoe Clark-Coates | Posted 10.12.2014 | UK Lifestyle
Zoe Clark-Coates

You secretly weep when you see pregnant women, as it's a reminder of what you no longer have. However if you envy that woman, it's always tinged with guilt, as you are acutely aware that she might be one of the one in four- expecting a baby following loss.

What NOT to Say to Those in Grief: Part Two

Sarah Wauterlek Pierson | Posted 02.11.2014 | UK Lifestyle
Sarah Wauterlek Pierson

Harsh words spoken from the lips of children can provide a bit of laughter. Harsh words spoken from the lips of adults sting. Here are some more examples of what not to say to those that are grieving, this time as taken from adults:

Give Me Flowers Now, Thank You

Sonja Lewis | Posted 19.10.2014 | UK Lifestyle
Sonja Lewis

Flowers are one of the most straightforward ways of expressing appreciation, love, sorrow and grief. However, nowadays, for the latter occasion, many bereaved families, for one reason or another, request donations to a charity instead of flowers.

Are You Seriously Asking Me That?

Zoe Clark-Coates | Posted 16.10.2014 | UK Lifestyle
Zoe Clark-Coates

Today's post follows an interesting interview I had on the radio. The interviewer, through no fault of his own, clearly had no understanding of baby loss. He sadly resorted to many clichéd lines, which are regularly handed out to those who are unfortunate enough to know first-hand the sad reality of losing a much wanted child.