Six Ways to Wade Through the Waves of Grief

David Lancefield | Posted 24.11.2015 | UK Lifestyle
David Lancefield

I wasted far too much energy and emotion on challenging the situation we face. The inequity of all of it. I looked to the lives of others for examples of what we hoped for; it all looked rosier even though I only saw a partial view of their true lives. Then I decided to stop it.

One Month Without Mum

Naomi Barrow | Posted 23.11.2015 | UK Universities & Education
Naomi Barrow

Some days are okay; I can smile, laugh, work, see people and generally live life. Other days are hard and I have to just be patient with myself. I miss her. I miss her so much. But I can live my life alongside missing her. Most importantly, despite missing her, I can still be kind to myself.

Selective Grief

Liza Bel | Posted 19.11.2015 | UK
Liza Bel

My student years in Paris defined who I am today. The streets harboured my surreptitious kisses, those terraces hosted my tears after failed exams and my laughter with my friends who teased me about my Russian accent in French. I wasted my student stipend on Pierre Hermé macaroons consumed between lectures on a random bench at St Germain. It was with a view of the Tour Eiffel that I started my first ever internship at Radio France.

Funerals Are Weird

Naomi Barrow | Posted 15.11.2015 | UK Universities & Education
Naomi Barrow

One aunt came up with the idea of having flowers near Mum's coffin for people to place on top if they wanted to, which nearly everyone did. I didn't, though - I placed a letter that I had written to Mum the night before and had folded into an origami crane.

Why We Need to Talk About Bereavement: The Importance of Kevin Wells and Grief Encounter

Lydia Suffield | Posted 13.11.2015 | UK Universities & Education
Lydia Suffield

When I think of the people we grieve for, I'm always reminded of a quote from John Green's novel, Looking For Alaska, that seems to sum up my feelings on the subject: "Thomas Edison's last words were "It's very beautiful over there." I don't know where there is, but I believe it's somewhere, and I hope it's beautiful."

Google Can't Tell You How to Grieve

Dawn Vance | Posted 10.11.2015 | UK Lifestyle
Dawn Vance

When she only had a few hours left I desperately Googled the dying process so that I'd be prepared for what was happening to her. I'm not sure anyone could be prepared for that.

Goodnight Dad: The Call That Changes Your Life

Alison Bloomer | Posted 06.11.2015 | UK Lifestyle
Alison Bloomer

The tears came then. Along with the first of many gut blows that left my abdomen searing with pain, yet feeling hollow at the same time. It was like my stomach was a thousand steps ahead of my brain. Preparing me for the psychological pain to come - a pain nothing physical has ever come close to.

Slow Down, Your Mum Died Last Week

Naomi Barrow | Posted 05.11.2015 | UK Universities & Education
Naomi Barrow

Last week, I sat down with someone and was airing some of my frustrations, they looked at me and basically said "Naomi, your Mum died last week". Mum died and my body is grieving. It's why some days feel like sludge. It's why I'm so tired all the time no matter how much I sleep. It's frustrating and annoying but it's how my life is.

It is the Greatest Privilege to Help Someone at Their Last Moments

Elizabeth Wolley | Posted 05.11.2015 | UK Lifestyle
Elizabeth Wolley

When I walked on set to film the new Marie Curie advert, it was not as an actor but as a Marie Curie Nurse. It was an odd feeling but I was able to slip into my role when I began speaking to one of the actors who had only recently experienced a bereavement.

Dinner With the Dead

Tiu de Haan | Posted 02.11.2015 | UK Lifestyle
Tiu de Haan

A Day of the Dead Dinner is a wonderful ritual, created by artists Rachel Rose Reid and Pablo Villierezz, where everyone brings a beloved dead person to a feast, gathering together to share their flavours and stories and to honour their memory.

Parents Honour Terminally Ill Daughter's Wish To Choose 'Heaven' Over 'Hospital'

The Huffington Post UK | Amy Packham | Posted 29.10.2015 | UK Parents

Two parents have made a promise to honour their terminally ill five-year-old daughter's heartbreaking wish. When Julianna next falls ill, her pare...

The First Days of Grief

Naomi Barrow | Posted 28.10.2015 | UK Universities & Education
Naomi Barrow

Mum died on Friday. She had a 'good death'. Those in palliative medicine define a 'good death' as one where the dying person is symptom free, in the place they want to be, with the people they want to be with. Mum died symptom free, in our lounge, with Dad by her side. Saying 'Mum died' might seem blunt to some, but that's what happened. Mum worked in palliative medicine all of her life and as a family we've always spoken about death and end of life care openly and honestly, so it seems only appropriate that we continue that when discussing Mum's death.

'My Son the Jihadi': How A Documentary Illustrates A Growing Fear

Lydia Suffield | Posted 26.10.2015 | UK Universities & Education
Lydia Suffield

On Thursday night, I watched the Channel 4 documentary My Son The Jihadi with my mother. We watched a lot of the programme in silence , listening to the dignified words of a mother in clear anguish...

Toddler Dies After Doctors 'Failed' To Diagnose Brain Tumour

The Huffington Post UK/SWNS | Amy Packham | Posted 26.10.2015 | UK Parents

A toddler has died after doctors "failed" to diagnose a brain tumour, an inquest has heard. Ayaan Hussain, who was almost two, started vomiting in ...

Three Months on and Some Magical Thinking

Julia Bryson | Posted 20.10.2015 | UK Parents
Julia Bryson

Yesterday was some strange kind of anniversary. It marked three months since my husband died. Three months - where has that gone? Who would have thought I would have survived three months without him. Well I have, I am here, and although I'm getting by I'm certainly carrying round a huge, huge sadness that Roger isn't here too...

How to Help Your Friend Through Baby Loss

Aimee Foster | Posted 19.10.2015 | UK Parents
Aimee Foster

Baby Loss Awareness Week took place last week. Sadly, one in four mums will suffer miscarriage, stillbirth or infant loss at some stage. I am one of them.

Prince William Reveals What His Mother And Children Have Taught Him About Grief

The Huffington Post UK | Ellen Wallwork | Posted 16.10.2015 | UK Parents

Prince William, has said "grief is the most painful experience that any child or parent can endure." The Duke of Cambridge, who was 15 when his mo...

Mum Is Dying

Naomi Barrow | Posted 13.10.2015 | UK Universities & Education
Naomi Barrow

I don't know how long Mum has left. I know that she's tired, that she's been battling this illness for a long time and it's not a nice position to be in. We're lucky because we have an amazing network of friends around us who constantly offer lifts, food, hugs, and an ear.

Heartbeats and Heartache

Sophia Walker | Posted 13.10.2015 | UK Parents
Sophia Walker

Like most of my friends, I waited till my mid thirties to procreate. My body was more than ready, but mentally I was just about there. Whatever medicine, or medics tell us, no woman can put down roots until she is ready. And at 35, I was only just about there, but I also knew the risks that being 'older' would bring with it.

This Is My Truth

Zoe Clark-Coates | Posted 09.10.2015 | UK Parents
Zoe Clark-Coates

If you have lost a baby can I encourage you to share your story and speak your truth....Every person who joins us, is publically stating I want to help break the silence and my story matters and my babies life mattered however short it may have been.

Every Baby Matters

Zoe Clark-Coates | Posted 06.10.2015 | UK Parents
Zoe Clark-Coates

People constantly ask us 'What can we say to make it all better?' The answer is 'you can't make it all better, but you can be there and you can keep talking about it and let them know you will always be available to listen.'

These Cards Provide Support For People Who Have Lost A Child

The Huffington Post UK | Rachel Moss | Posted 07.10.2015 | UK Lifestyle

It can be difficult to know what to say to someone who has experienced miscarriage, stillbirth or infant death. Unfortunately, this sometimes means we...

Baby Loss Awareness Week - an Interview With Parents

Dr Elizabeth Sparkes | Posted 05.10.2015 | UK Parents
Dr Elizabeth Sparkes

Public awareness was something that they felt was so important. The term stillbirth is so loaded and weighty as a phrase, could there be some different terminology? Rob explained that more children die from still birth than cot death, but popular awareness reflects opposite.

The Jackie Collins Dilemma - To Tell or Not to Tell?

Jonathan Romain | Posted 25.09.2015 | UK
Jonathan Romain

Jackie Collins had the right to keep her cancer secret from her close family, but it may have been the wrong choice. It was, of course, her life and ...

Thinking Out Loud

Naomi Barrow | Posted 18.09.2015 | UK Universities & Education
Naomi Barrow

Somebody asked me last week if each time I said goodbye to my Mum I thought about whether or not it would be our last. The very quick answer to that question would be 'no'. When Mum was first diagnosed, I did for a while, but not anymore.