How many people have you just 'known' were going to marry the wrong man or woman? But did you take them aside before their big day and quietly ask if they were 'sure' they were marrying the right person? Girl-to-girl, this is code for "You must be NUTS marrying this guy. He's a cheating, unreliable jerk." Or man-to-man, did you simply tell him point-blank "This woman is BAD news. Don't marry her. She will wreck your life."
This list was originally written back in 2009 for my own personal vent session but became an all-time favourite amongst my friends, family and later, my husband. I found it to be a useful tool and felt the need to share.
Most couples have rows. Even therapists who know a lot about relationship dynamics row with their partners (yes that includes me!) But if you feel you're always rowing, you spend a lot of time feeling resentful, or you never really make up following a row, then here are few ideas that might help you.
Do remember the next time you are tempted to click away on your iPhone or tablet, think before you click. This could be a click too far.
If you really liked this person that you've got on the backburner, why aren't you having a crack at it? If you don't have a solid answer to that question, then you're not being fair to the person that's on the backburner, or to yourself.
I shake my metaphorical Crocs violently at anyone who thinks that right now, I'm just filling in time till someone loves me again. This is the most emotionally, physically, sexually independent I've ever felt and you will not take that away from me with pity.
While I'm sure you wish you could just hibernate from the world and re-emerge in the New Year, it's just not practical during the holidays when you have parties and family functions to attend. Here are some ways to handle a break-up during what is supposed to be the most wonderful time of year.
I can't tell you what happens to everyone but I can tell you what happened to me. And I can offer some reassurances too. It does bring you together. Probably in the same way as two people being held hostage are brought together. But that wasn't how it worked from the start.
For many, the initial months following a separation or divorce are some of the most painful and difficult they will experience. When you add children to the equation, it can be difficult to cope with day-to-day life, let alone the enormous task of orchestrating shared childcare arrangements...
With Christmas round the corner it is time to start thinking about party season. There are some easy mistakes to make when looking for love in party season so here are some tips on how to start a lasting romance...
When people have been asked why they use these apps, the most popular answer as for one-to-one sex - A positive message when you're looking for love - the second most popular answer was out of boredom - Both use of apps are confusing if you're already in a relationship and apparently 'happy' , which draws me to the question, Are we addicted to dating apps?
Every so often research pops up to reveal that between 10 - 30% of adults go to sleep at night with their teddy bears. Why is that? What's the appeal of a stuffed toy, especially when it's old, tattered and has perhaps been around for decades and is now rather mucky and worn?
I recently began thinking about something terrifying, the one thing that can make you begin to sweat with nerves at just the thought, some of us anyway; commitment. To some of us, it comes naturally, to others, trying to get a little bit of it is a true nightmare.
Compassion is a funny thing isn't it? Human emotions are complicated and difficult to understand; sometimes we can barely understand ourselves, let alone others. Motivations and reasons behind our actions and behaviours and responses can intersect, and finding the true root of a problem can seem impossible at times. Often, it isn't the answer we expect.
Developing deep and broader roots help us all to be safer, more stable and resilient. Resilience allows us to cope more effectively with these setbacks, disappointments and disasters. Today's young men need these life skills more than ever before. The world is changing. And not necessarily in a good way for men.
Sometimes we do not know how much a decision will impact us until it is done. This is the case for me, and my divorce. It has undoubtedly changed my life, and me. But I am not here to retell the horror of divorce. Instead, I would like to share 5 important lessons I have learnt after divorce.