Rightly of wrongly, in the endless dance we call flirting, the man is often the proactive agent. So, he is far more likely to act in an unwanted manner if he miss-reads or miss-interprets the body language / situation. If every time a mislead sexual advance is rebuffed, we call it harassment, then men start to feel victimised.
We live in a society whereby sexual assault is belittled, rationalised and even condoned. The manner in which women dress is constantly quoted as a stimulus to rape. Nevertheless, victims are judged on the basis of illustration; as if a finer shade of eye-liner, lipstick or foundation could have possibly made a greater disparity...
There is in my view an increasing argument to allow the accused to remain anonymous just like their accusers, at least until after they have been found guilty or cleared of wrongdoing. There is also an increasing case that says the internet must be policed and offenders who are deliberate spreading lies brought to book.
A spate of brutal attacks on young women in India's urban centres, most recently a young woman in Calcutta who died after being gang-raped and set on fire, have drawn world attention. But thousands of other women are preyed upon at vulnerable moments, whether it's riding a bus, walking alone or, in the case of girls like Bhawna, looking for a place to relieve themselves.
The fact is that certain faiths are unwittingly helping the paedophiles to destroy their good work, good name and good future by letting these vile toxic beings dry hump their fear and good ethics this way. Time to be brave, stop keeping their secrets, cleanse them from your system and start again, you are completely worth it.
The constant bombardment of messages that disapprove female sexuality and jubilate male sexuality creates confusion about what sex and sexuality really mean. As author of 'The Lolita Effect' M G Durham, wrote "I despise the social double standards that celebrate boys' 'studliness' and condemn girls' desires."
It seems that many UK students are suffering a sense of humour failure. Perhaps its been struck off our list of essentials and become an unjustifiable luxury since course prices have tripled. We need bread and milk; irony can wait. Apparently even cheap gags are a stretch these days, as it seems recently we have needed a lot of explanation over what counts as 'a joke'...
It goes without saying that preventing sexual violence in conflict is not an easy task. The declaration adopted yesterday represents an important step at the political level, which should not be sniffed at. Yet how it translates into action in the DRC peace process, and in funding for those working to prevent and respond to this violence on the ground, will be the test of its rhetoric.
Walking round Cairo just before the current unrest began, I was shown some stylish graffiti. Staring down at me regally from a wall, was Nefertiti. She didn't look terribly impressed. The Pharonic Queen was wearing a gas mask over her mouth and nose, seemingly preparing for combat, while her eyes seemed to say "Over three thousand years since my reign and I have to put up with this nonsense".
The pardoning of Marte Delelv validates a system that does not protect women and spreads stigmatisation of women who report rape. Authorities should have quashed the conviction, provided reparations for any suffering caused and publicly committed to ensuring protection for victims of sexual violence. By failing to do so the fear must be that there will be many more cases such as this one.