'You Cannot Read Each Other's Minds': The 6 Golden Rules For Marriage, According To This Man

Whether you’re married, in a relationship or just taking notes for the future, it’s always interesting to hear how other people make their relationship work long-term.

So you might be intrigued to hear one man’s six golden rules for marriage – especially as people on Twitter have been absolutely loving them.

Ryan Stephens said he and his wife focus more on being “team mates”, rather than “soul mates” – here are their six rules to success.

My wife and I have found that focusing more on being teammates and less on being soulmates is a solid recipe for marital success.

Here's quick thread on the 6 rules we try to follow to be a good teammate to each other in our marriage.

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— Ryan Stephens 🥃 (@ryanstephens) March 6, 2019

1. Don’t bad mouth one another.

1.) No one should ever hear anything bad about your spouse from you.

It's one thing to joke with friends about something trivial and quite another to demean your spouse's character.

Know the difference and always discuss the latter with your spouse and no one else.
— Ryan Stephens 🥃 (@ryanstephens) March 6, 2019

2. Communication is key.

2.) Over communicate.

You cannot read each other’s minds.

Never assume the other person knows what you meant.

Give each other the benefit of the doubt when miscommunications happen.

Double check if necessary.
— Ryan Stephens 🥃 (@ryanstephens) March 6, 2019

3. Try new things.

3.) Try new things together.

Even if one of you is typically more adventurous than the other, have fun with it.

Trying new things gets an individual out of their comfort zone and is often easier as a couple, allowing you both to grow stronger together.
— Ryan Stephens 🥃 (@ryanstephens) March 6, 2019

4. Celebrate each other’s wins.

4.) Be each other’s champion. Celebrate wins and encourage each other.

Bring home champagne after a promotion at work, back each other up when engaging in that battle with your heathen toddler, work out together, etc.

Never cut the other person down when they're struggling.
— Ryan Stephens 🥃 (@ryanstephens) March 6, 2019

5. Be grateful.

5.) Be grateful for each other’s contributions.

Whether it be money, time, chores, childcare, or anything else, no one contribution is greater than another.

And don’t keep score.

If you truly value each other’s input, then the scorecard shouldn’t (and doesn’t) matter.
— Ryan Stephens 🥃 (@ryanstephens) March 6, 2019

6. Trust one another.

6. Trust and respect each other.

Especially in front of others, including your children.

If you do not respect your spouse in front of other people, why should those people respect your spouse?

Enough said.
— Ryan Stephens 🥃 (@ryanstephens) March 6, 2019

People on Twitter were supportive of the rules, and said it was how they made it work in their own relationships.

I love all this pointers, So true I can attest to this in my marriage.
It’s so important to over communicate to avoid hidden assumptions which kills a lot of relationships
— Amina Means (@Aminameans) March 6, 2019

Been a couple since 2002 , let me tell ya this is truth
— TashasTattoos (@Crystal_Muff) March 6, 2019

Absolutely agree! This is why we have been married 31 yrs and together 33.@deepmud ❤️❤️❤️@AKGeekyGirl fyi ❤️
— Just a mom in the frozen tundra (@akfrozenpea) March 6, 2019

Fifteen years together, ten of marriage and we’ve found the exact same has worked wonders for us. Teamwork makin’ the dream work.
— Madison Easter (@MaddyFatty) March 7, 2019

What do you think – has he got those six rules nailed?

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