Yes it's a pretty bold statement to say that my wardrobe changed my life, but in many ways it really did. As a plus size female, I have always been larger than my peers - my big body affecting many of the decisions that I made in my life. Growing up in the 90s as a chubby teenager wasn't always easy - we certainly didn't have access to the range of body positive sources that we have now.
A new report showed women's body confidence is now a 'critical issue' and 'body-shaming' adverts have become so bad that London's Mayor has had to ban them from the Tube - we are in a time where 'festival ready' is more dangerous to young women than ever. Because what it's really telling them, in its subterfuge way, is that they're not 'good enough' as they already are.
I have to apologise for the slightly misleading post title - I'm not here to tell you diet or exercise tips to sculpt tight muscles and reveal rippling abs. I think we're all starting to learn by now that confidence shouldn't be about aesthetics, and the more we can move away from that unachievable ideal, the better.
While women are being encouraged to be "beautiful", it's not supposed to be for ourselves; it's supposed to be for other people. We're supposed to look good, but not on our own terms or by our own standards. We're meant to be these aesthetically appealing objects that exist to be admired by - let's be honest here - men. The thing about selfies that can make people so uncomfortable is that it represents a woman taking control of her own image, thinking that she looks great and not being ashamed to say it.
The world is an unforgiving place and so many of us are faced with challenges on a daily basis that test our self-esteem. Someone might make an offhand comment about a fat person, an eating disorder, the clothes that someone has chosen to wear, comments to their children about body size - all of which could contribute to an already body image obsessed society.