What is real is differences. Wonderful, inspiring differences. As happy as I am to see more plus models making it big, it annoys me that we are now beginning to lean over to the opposite standpoint. It is not ok to fat shame. Just as it is not ok to skinny shame. In fact, let's just cut out the shaming altogether, shall we?
From a confidence perspective, as a fellow ''curvy girl'', whenever I see a woman with, shall we say, a round bottom, who isn't afraid to show it off, I feel a rush of empowerment. I feel the need to raise my fist in sheer womanly power with a defiant grin upon my face whilst roaring ''go on yersel!'' However, these emotions are starting to deplete.
I use the term 'fat ass' as a metaphor for the attributes about yourself which you wouldn't list as your favourite. Your small boobs, your fuzzy hair, your big feet, your glass eye (Ok, actually you're allowed not to love your glass eye) Your 'fat ass' unless recently acquired, is a part of you - as are the other things you dislike about your person.
It's no secret that we're extremely connected, some of us even online-addicts. We mindlessly trail social media sites, taking in everything that flickers in front of our eyes, some helpful, some not. The 'belfies', yoga poses you couldn't even do if you were Stretch Armstrong and tiny, everything-free meals; well, that stuff comes under not so helpful.
There is a difference between a shapely bottom and a big bum. Back in the day, women used to ask "Does my bum look big in this?" If it did, they would scream and change outfit. Fast forward years later, when the same question is asked, we want the person being asked to respond, "Yes it does, and it looks fabulous darling."
Oftentimes, it can seem like the majority of the world is striving to achieve some kind of Western version of normality - and, more specifically, some kind of American version of normality. From fashion designers to film producers, it can start to feel like the entirety of the earth becomes permeated by America.
87% of girls aged 11-21 believe that they are judged more on their looks than their ability. It's an unbelievable figure - but you can see why girls think this way. The belief that they don't look good enough and that they are judged most on how good they look is preventing girls from putting their hands up and saying 'I can do anything I want to do'
My son found a lump in my breast when he was just three years old. He kept coming to me and putting his head on my right breast and stroking it. I kept thinking, 'What are you doing?' I had a look at my breast, thinking maybe it was something pre-menstrual. I was fit and healthy with no history of breast cancer. I was floored when I was given a breast cancer diagnosis.