The women who stand up and make it known are the bravest of us all. Braver than me. If I stood up I am almost certain others would follow yet I am paralysed by fear. I have seen the condemnation, the scrutiny, the abuse these brave women are met with and I am too frightened to face it myself. His word against mine, and I know how many voices will shout from his side about how abused he is by my speaking out. And I am afraid. Those women who face that, who lead the way, they are the bravest of us all.
"... So, how do you have sex?" Inappropriate, right? Being a Brit, there are few things we are more prude-ish about than discussing our sex lives, and yet, this is a question that many people think is okay to ask trans people. Why? It's probably got something to do with society seeing trans identities as a novelty, and therefore not legitimate
Women are incredible. That's just a fact. We are making advancements towards equality every day but sometimes I can't help but feel that society takes several steps backward. Take Emma Watson, for example, a UN Women Goodwill Ambassador. An inspiring woman who, in my opinion, has done so much for feminism. But as soon as a picture of her in Vanity Fair showing part of her breasts, (yes, we actually have them under our clothes!) she got accused of not being a feminist. Because you can't be a feminist and show off your chest, apparently.
The models were not duped or forced to be depicted as skinny, nor are young women mindless consumers. We can and should express concern for things we see in the media or consumer culture, but if we look at how women's bodies are always up for public scrutiny, then what does that say about culture, about patriarchy, about privilege?
Did things end well? Or not so well, and you explain the animosity by declaring that they were 'out of their mind', 'crazy' or 'unhinged'? This kind of language is harmful and enormously disrespectful of people with mental health problems, so we wouldn't normally use it - but here it's important to use those labels.
They say the best way to get to know someone is to find out about their weaknesses. Declare your flaws, own them. Accept yourself in all your grandeur. We have given birth to the earth. Your strength is a tower compared to your weaknesses, so stand tall. You are indestructible and there is nothing that you cannot recover from.
I don't think I was ever not basically a feminist. The femands (that was a genuine typo but I'm keeping it in) have never seemed unreasonable to me. I do think the extent to which I felt involved and the degree to which I appreciated the problem have both changed for the better this year, and these changes have much to do with twitter.
Now, I wish to take a step back for a moment. You may be thinking it is strange for me to say 'mothers from day one', but it is true. If you look at the toys advertised for girls even today - what do we have? Garish amounts of playthings that are designed to ingrain a want in young girls to be perfect little wives and moulded into aspiring little mummies when they grow up.
I am at a loss. The Evans court case has filled me with such unease. Mostly, I am worried that this will put other women off from reporting their rape cases. Who on earth would want to put their past sex life up to such intense scrutiny? It just feels so wrong, on so many levels that I can't get my head round it all.