This International Women's Day I am whole-heartedly behind the idea of making a #pledgeforparity. We all have a responsibility for working towards gender equality. To do this we need to give everyone the chance to express their experience of gender inequality and to listen to these experiences and to not dismiss them. And we can't do that unless we understand that there's no us and them.
I've been wanting to make a video with some of my queer family for a long time and 'Desire' felt like the right time to do it. Every Y&Y video has some similar elements that run through it: magical worlds, symbolism, pretty lights and this time I wanted sex added into that mixture.
It hadn't occurred to me before but, thinking about it, it did seem that contained within the notion of being a "trans ally" is the implicit assumption that one is not oneself trans. Did that assumption bother me? I wasn't sure.
Against this background of Mothering Sunday hysteria, it's understandable that over the years various teachers, play school helpers and creche supervisors approach the inevitable 'for whom should we make the card' conversation with us with visible dread.
Scrapping Section 28 was a progressive and bold move so early on in the life of the Scottish Parliament. It sent a strong message and I remember the real sense of hope many of us felt at the time, that perhaps, school would be different for a new generation. So why, in 2016, has so little changed for young people in our schools?
Two weekends ago at student LGBT pride, I was part of a panel discussing the various things that young LGBT could be up against in 2016. This ranged from mental wellbeing to drugs, as well as fitting into a new world and gay shame. Having been an advocate of young LGBT rights for the last two years, I was privileged to be on the panel. During the talk I voiced my opinions on the lack of awareness my government gives to homophobic language in schools, and said I don't believe our education secretary, Nicky Morgan, gives a sh*t about young LGBT rights.
What's worrying is the way that the likes of Tinder and Happn have drained the depth out of the art of conversation. Creating a trivialised space where we can play 'shop', but with actual people. I still find it odd that Tinder tells me to 'keep playing', as though my love life is some sort of gay Temple Run.
What strikes me about these two men is that between them they run a tight ship, there are no blurred boundaries and they have huge hearts. Love isn't a soft emotion, compassion and love are strong courageous and determined.
From the blatant shouted abuse, the sniggers and the laughs, the not-so-secret smirks and the deliberate misgenderings, we're never, ever allowed to forget our status as society's punchline. Being ignored is nirvana. Trans people put their mental health into the hands of strangers every single day.
I am sure you already know the names of the celebrities who have come out as trans this year, the trans actors playing trans characters on television, the trans stars who have paved the way in 2015. But these trans people do not represent me. I don't write their names because they don't represent us. The colour of their skin is a reminder that trans people of colour are still fighting for representation and survival. So, has 2015 been a year to celebrate the trans community? Or has 2015 just shown us how far there is to go?
Was 2015 really a watershed for trans people? If we're talking specifically about transitioners in the media, then it's been the latest of several, a veritable continuum of watersheds. Before Caitlyn Jenner, there was Laverne Cox, Chelsea Manning, our own Paris Lees (making Question Time memorable), and so on. Just as each "trans pioneer" stands on the shoulders of those who came before, there is no one Trans Moment, but a succession of Moments.
When I first tried to transition as a teacher the language, the structures, the cultural reference points were not there, it was like I had asked for the impossible. Now when I go into schools and other educational spaces there is a real openness and desire to get this right.
If the comparison of Blind Date then and First Dates now is anything to go by, mainstream film and television have made LGBT people more visible over the past two decades. But my diary seems to support the fact that that progress in diversity in broadcasting over years has been woefully slow.
The next challenge for the media will be to ensure that the full diversity of trans people (as well as intersex and non-binary people) is reflected in the media - that "being trans" doesn't get shoehorned into one or two standard narratives. There's a danger that, in their busy-ness, journalists and editors will still rely on lazy and inaccurate tropes.
Since being together, our desire to continue travelling hasn't changed but something rather significant has. I present to you the ways that we have had to adapt (consciously and unconsciously) and the challenges we face from people we meet just because we are two women who have fallen in love.
Tyson Fury's comments also touched on another important area of our work. He claimed his views were rooted in the Bible. It's often assumed that people of faith can't be LGBT or respect LGBT people. By suggesting his homophobia is rooted in his faith he has helped perpetuate this damaging myth.