By remaining boys, we are able to pursue very selfish lives, full of ambition, competition and ego. This is promoted as an ideal, a role model or template for boys to follow. This fixed and inflexible view of masculine is nurtured by our culture, by the way we teach, by the media, by our drunken peers, by so many different means. However, it is not our nature.
Postnatal depression in fathers does exist. There are many factors, both situational and physiological, which can affect a father's mood both before and after a baby is born, and yet it's an area of parenting which is often ignored or overlooked by healthcare professionals and parents alike.
There are moments in family life when time seems to stand still, and for me, one of those came in the spring of 2013, when my father Tazi revealed to my mother, my brother and myself that he had been diagnosed with advanced prostate cancer. New drugs are now coming through and one of them has made an immense difference to my father's quality of life over the last year... Every moment that abiraterone continues to work is a blessing. It has helped him maintain his professional life and continue doing the things he enjoys - so much so that at times I almost forget he has cancer, let alone one that has spread and is at an advanced stage.
Many divorcing parents struggle to identify the best approach for the children. It is a roller coaster at the best of times and when you throw children into the mix it becomes a minefield of emotional management.
There are four certainties in life, we live, we die, we pay taxes, and the police will never understand the concept of domestic abuse.
When you want to buy a little black dress, in Paris you would go to rue Faubourg St Honoré; but when you need a finely cut men's suit in London, it's Saville Row that would be your destination. Home to gentleman's clubs and the most famous dandies of all times, the British capital is still proudly living up to its status of the capital of men's fashion.
It's hard to imagine that a year has passed since my father passed away to cancer. It still feels like yesterday. I can still hear his voice and I can feel his warmth. But the reality is that it is now a whole full year since that fateful day.
These lessons were far more important than anything I learnt at school or through work. These are not the lessons of how to become cleverer or earn more money - these are the lessons of how to truly live life to the full.
The urgent physical urge to stop everything now is as primal as sex. At that point, ripping off the civilised veneer that the world sees and coming out, is as contrary an idea as putting a hand deeper into a fire. Bad enough you looking at you, which you can't bear to do. To have others see you as you are, right then, is unconscionable.
It seems this dismissal of male beauty issues has become so ingrained in society that we're no longer equipped to notice when a man might have a problem. Who, after all, is going to question a fervid gym junkie when there are women willingly starving themselves in their own homes?
When it comes to postnatal depression people automatically think its a women and that's the hardest part for men to really come forward for help. Its an illness that happens in the first 12 months after the birth, so maybe it should be called depression instead for men.
I think the majority of us want to see positive action against the 'glass ceiling' for women in the corporate world. It's about time sensible people ran our big corporations. However, we have an equally divisive 'glass floor' for men, which is not recognised, and yet it is causing just as much damage.
No man ever wants to contemplate the possibility of male menopause. They want to leave all of this to the female sex. Men have suffered for years thinking that they have depression and other health issues instead of the natural dwindling of their testosterone levels.
The feminist debate has been written in so many ways, in so many forms, that it is impossible to fathom. But for all the white, Western, masculine tendons that press this article to life, I would classify myself as a 'feminist'.
So how do we know when we are being empathic? One way is to check it out. Asking for acknowledgement is one way to know what someone is feeling. Another way is to pay attention or own up to what we see or think we see. When we are paying attention to what someone is saying it is a way to pay attention to ourselves.
Prostate cancer is the most common cancer in men in the UK, with over 40,000 individuals diagnosed with the disease every year, and more than 250,000 ...