If I could write a letter to myself and send it back in time to the night I tried to kill myself, I think it would read something like below. Dear Tom, I know you are hurting and I know how bleak it all appears. I can envisage you sitting there, lost and directionless like a terrified child wandering through a high walled maze in the dark.
It is time to acknowledge the 14 year old boy wherever he appears, on the sports field, in the house of legislature, on the 'big screen', on the battlefield, in the corporation, in the presidency.
I'm not, or at least I don't feel, anywhere near as infirmed as those around me and yet I'm spending my days since Saturday being prodded, injected and asked repeated if I've opened my bowels lately. I have, but not to the extent I'd normally tell someone about it. It all does feel a little alien
I'm often asked by my fellow bearded brothers various questions about maintaining the hair we all like to let perch on the underside of our faces. In the bearded community, strangers and friends alike often discuss the best ways to manage our face rugs and keep them looking luscious.
Masculinity is in flux. We live in a world where boys and young men have more freedom than ever to create their own identity and find their own tribe. However, they'll do it under unprecedented scrutiny, from their peers, from media and crucially from themselves, as the freedom to create images as well as consume them brings its own pressures.
By the end of today in the UK about 12 men will have died at their own hands. It happened yesterday and it will happen tomorrow, and the day after, and the day after that too. Actually, there's no indication of when it will stop... Suicide is very much a male issue, with men almost four times more likely than women to take their own life, but the reasons why are unclear. This November HuffPost UK will dedicate the entire month to talking about the mental health and wellbeing issues that impact on the lives of men in our Building Modern Men series.
If a young woman has developed a coping strategy for street harassment, this means she needs one. I asked some female friends, and they all have them. They cross over roads when passing building sites, they take taxis to avoid bus stops, they fake phone calls, they wear headphones with no music on, they consider how likely street harassment is when choosing their clothes.
By engaging our male peers in discussion about their relationships with women we believe that we can encourage the often silent majority of well-meaning guys to bring about positive change. The growing demand for the workshops shows that there's a strong desire to engage men positively in this way.
Well, surely in this day and age a female nurse can move some boxes and I can hold someone's hand. I can tell them everything is going to be okay, even when I am not sure that it actually is. I can go home after losing a patient, I can cry, I can suck it up and come back in the next day and start caring all over again. Or I can move some boxes.
Times have changed since 2006, and looking today at the global (rather than just American) marketplace, those numbers may or may not still be accurate - but this is the most recent study conducted, and offers and interesting point of departure to discuss what shoes men need, will wear, and will yield the highest value.
We're well into the final month of summer - where did that go? - but did you know that August marks the return of National Hair Loss Awareness Month? The campaign devotes a whole 31 days to increasing the understanding of hair loss.
This decade has seen a monumental shift in the grooming habits of men. If you've read my previous blogs you'll know this already, but as someone who has witnessed this shift in momentum within the mens cosmetics industry there really hasn't been a better time to get on board and expand your own personal grooming routine.
Hair, we've (almost) all got it to some degree. Whether yours is curly, long, short or thinning, the market is flooded with products designed for all eventualities of hair-related life. The trick is discovering what works best for you.
In a society that is increasingly focused on the power of youth, men are as eager as ever to manage the ageing process. Innovative plastic surgery technologies mean they can enhance their daily routine and work they've done in the gym without giving away their surgery secret.
With the men's grooming market now hitting multi-billion dollar status and estimated to be worth a whopping £14.8bn in 2016 alone, a rise of approximately 5.8% compared to the previous 12-months, we've seen a huge rise in the number of brands trying to get in on the act.
Let's move on from this outdated, ridiculous (and yes, homophobic) notion that a man-on-man hug, or crying happy or sad tears, is somehow emasculating, or should call into question someone's sexuality. As Chris Mears and Jack Laugher showed in that beautiful, instantaneous moment, there's nothing quite as masculine as really knowing yourself, being truly comfortable in your own skin and not giving a stuff about what anyone else might think.