None of this: Eighteen-inch biceps. A moustache that supposedly proclaims your virility. 'Showing appreciation' by leering at girls on the streets. And stalking and harassing a woman until she 'falls in love' with you or hitting your wife or your partner; none of this defines a 'mard', which is the Hindi word for 'man'.
The greater and grittier the female revelation, the more walls broken down - and the louder the critical approbation. But is the same true for men? Is uncensored male candour socially acceptable? Is giving voice to what's truly on your mind more likely to land you unemployable than lauded for your bravery?
In addition to the objects of our desires becoming far more interested in the sharing of our suddenly precious body heat surpluses (and the acts of depravity that inevitably accompany it) we also benefit from body heat and bulk as regards our own comfort- as comedian Dara O Briain puts it, we "winter well".
A lot of men suffer with depression. Low mood, anxiety, stress, low self worth and letting ourselves go physically are all symptoms. One in four men...
As a former amateur heavyweight boxer, and a current avid gym junky, I've experienced two extremes in modern male gym culture; the 'spit and sawdust' uber-masculine bruiser and the image obsessed, chest waxed Adonis. I, like most men, hover somewhere between the two.
She had married at eighteen, was a mother at twenty-one. She was still in her twenties when the 1960s came along, still young enough to embrace the excitements of the new age. She fell in love with a colleague, but when she revealed this, I learned of the pressures that society and her family put upon her to give up the affair. She was sent to see a psychiatrist, was told, as iconoclastic women have been told through the ages, that she had lost her senses.
Traditionally, it has been the mother who has given up a career to look after a child. But times are changing. As a consequence of more and more women having babies later in their lives, women are spending more time forging established careers, just like men have always done. At least that's what I'm experiencing in my neck of the woods.
By the time I cracked open the anti-blemish concealer, the whole experiment had taken a turn for the worse. Resigned to the fact I couldn't remove the other makeup with a mansize Kleenex tissue, I just applied it on top. Perhaps unsurprisingly, this didn't work.
On shoots, us models are often referred to as "The Talent". I often try to justify this and I have come up with a few possibilities... Because we can smile with our eyes? Because we have learnt what kind of poses look good on camera? Because we have a type of look and the correct measurements of what's required to be a model in the industry?
In my experience gay and bisexual men are more likely to access emotional support. This may be because gay and bisexual men have already had to come to terms with the challenges to their masculinity as they come out.
The truth is that men will speak to their barbers about things they wouldn't tell anybody else. The #BarberTalk program is being developed alongside top charities Papyrus and Pieta House to train barbers how to Recognise, Talk, Listen and Advise their clients. With this, comes the responsibility to remain confidential, provide a safe haven for clients and help them where necessary.
We clearly want men to avoid the trap of becoming like Darth Vader, nor do we need them to strive to be Superman. I think men need to give themselves a break about being dad, find some middle ground and if their hearts are full of love for their family they will be good enough.
We can't be bystanders. We need to be proactive and lead by example to stop this culture from defining what masculinity 'should' be. We mustn't be complacent, because that leads to complicity. I know I don't want to be responsible for creating exclusive spaces that are only for the few, and not for the student movement in its entirety. Do you?
Men have huge egos, fed by the modern society, the media and what we watch on TV, our fathers, our mates... this painted picture of what it takes to be a 'real man' is defeating us.
What it means to be masculine is a topic of much debate and is something that has changed throughout the decades. We consistently find that young people are restricted by gender stereotypes...
Society, misogyny, the media; all of these things persuade us to live our lives according to the accepted route that the generations before us conformed to. Yet if feminism teaches us that everyone should have the right to become exactly who they want to be, why do so many men blindly dismiss it?