Kati is my wife. Kati is the young woman who suffered a stroke in 1995 and since that has been almost entirely paralyzed. Kati is a woman that has spent almost her entire adult life trapped inside her body. Kati is also the person that knows how to enjoy life at the moment to the fullest making the most of each and every day.
The real truth is none of us own a crystal ball or a time machine so predicting how your baby's birth will be for real just isn't possible. So you end up perceiving a birth experience that's unhelpful, filling you with anxiety when you should be looking forward to meeting your baby for the first time.
my mother's birthday. The doctor called my parents in to break the news to them. "From the brain scans, we can see that your daughter's lower brain area is completely gray." "Our conclusion is that she had a stroke," "I am sorry to inform you this, but the brainstem is so severely damaged that she would not be able to move voluntarily at all for the remainder of her life."
When we remain locked into these kinds of thoughts, invariably we will be overwhelmed with "negative" emotions, such as sadness, grief, jealousy, frustration or anger. What you're thinking about will always lead to what you're feeling. So if you don't like how you feel, you must change your thoughts.
When I suggest this idea to young people I sometimes get a weird look at first, but those who give it a go and stick with it start to see things in a new light, they start to feel better about themselves, enjoy things more, lighten up and stop comparing themselves with others. It's pretty cool actually and I guess you could say they ditch the 's**t smeared specs' for a pair of 'rose tinted' ones instead.
I feel in control, I feel positive, and I feel myself healing. I am happy with my medical choices, but I know that it is equally thanks to my positive attitude, and the spiritual work I am doing in parallel, that I am on my path to healing. I have taken myself out of the statistics, and I am urging you, fellow cancer survivors, to take control, find your cure, and take yourself out of the statistics as well!