Prince Harry and Meghan Markle have agreed to tie the knot, sparking reams of copy about fairy tales. But if you’re holding
I am a dating and relationships coach, mid-life mentor and the author of How to Fall in Love - A 10-Step Journey to the Heart. I help women and men fall in love with themselves, with their lives and with another. I write and speak about dating and relationships and the challenges faced by modern women for the national media. I also write about recovery from eating disorders, self-harm, workaholism and dysfunctional relationships, which are all part of my story. My writing has been published in Psychologies, Red, The Guardian, The Sunday Times and The Daily Mail. I've spoken on national television and radio and on various platforms, including at the Women of the World Festival and the Inspire'd Stage. For more information, go to www.katherinebaldwin.com or www.howtofallinlove.co.uk
I am not someone who tried tirelessly to have a family; who spent thousands of pounds and years of my life on failed IVF treatments; who received a devastating diagnosis of unexplained infertility; who tried and failed to adopt; who miscarried; or whose child tragically died. Nor am I someone who's imagined herself as a mother throughout her adult life.
14/09/2017 16:10 BST
That crack, that breakdown, that epiphany, while frightening at the time, was the best thing that ever happened to me. My mind, body, soul and spirit were trying to tell me something, trying to show me that my sanity and wellbeing lay in a different direction, on a different path.
12/05/2017 13:46 BST
Guided by the belief that love equalled loss, I deliberately sought out men with whom there was no chance of real intimacy - commitment-phobes, men with partners or men who were gay. Either that, or I would find fault with every good guy I got close to.
16/02/2017 12:51 GMT
I get a real kick when I drive through Bournemouth on my way to work and see paddleboarders or surfers splashing about in the sea. This is the true value of this place - you can swim in the morning or the evening after a day's work (if like me, you're happy to brave the cold) or walk on the sand to get inspired. It's priceless.
02/11/2016 15:26 GMT
I see now that my understanding of love and the journey I've been on to get where I am today reflect my personality and my inner battles. These may be unique to me, but I share them in the hope some of you can relate.
11/02/2016 11:35 GMT
Extreme self-care for me involves evaluating every decision against the question, "Is this a loving thing to do?" and then making a radical choice to eliminate the things that don't make me feel good. Easier said than done, of course, but practice makes perfect.
08/10/2014 10:33 BST
I've called myself many things in public - a binge eater, an addict, a perfectionist, a workaholic, to name but a few - but I've never called myself a feminist. It's only now that I'm starting to wonder why.
28/04/2013 22:33 BST
For those experiencing feminism's unintended consequences - childless, working women of my generation who, just like Friedan's housewives, are wondering if there's 'something more' - it can feel like the pendulum swung too far the other way.
17/02/2013 22:21 GMT
Why did I choose to miss carols by candlelight, Christmas parties with friends, cosy nights in the pub and a few precious days chilling with my family? Why did I decide to travel so far away from the people I love when everyone else was going home?
21/12/2012 13:31 GMT
As I watched the fireworks explode above the Olympic Stadium from my bedroom window at the close of London's magnificent Games, I wiped yet another tear from my eye.
14/08/2012 14:14 BST
But as soon as I entered the Olympic Park, my fraught journey became a distant memory. Suddenly I wanted to be there all the time, every day, for all the events. I wanted to be part of this amazing atmosphere, among all these friendly people from all over the world (granted, the sunshine probably helped). Spare tickets, anyone?
26/07/2012 08:03 BST
Yes, women's rights have come far in past decades but the statistics show we still live in a man's world. Nowhere is that more apparent than in countries like India, where females are killed at birth and burned alive in dowry-related disputes, or in Saudi Arabia, where women are banned from driving and virtually every aspect of their lives is controlled by men.
13/06/2012 12:42 BST
I remember the moment London was picked to host the 2012 Olympics. I was squashed into Trafalgar Square with hundreds of other Londoners and tourists and could barely contain my excitement. But with just seven weeks to go until the Games, my enthusiasm is on the wane.
08/06/2012 15:30 BST
As I lay on a patch of grass at the <a href="http://www.klpa.org.uk/" target="_hplink">Kenwood Ladies' Pond</a> in London yesterday evening, I realised the peace I'd thought was so elusive and so far away was within my reach - and on my doorstep.
29/05/2012 16:16 BST
Pondering the Samantha Brick phenomenon and recalling my reaction to my friend, I realise once again it's my relationship with my looks that's askew, not theirs. And that's despite considerable efforts to put that relationship right.
04/04/2012 17:08 BST
I hadn't been back to St Anne's for two decades and had avoided mailing lists. So I'd never realised some of the authors, journalists and broadcasters I most admired had slept in the same shoebox rooms and drunk in the same windowless college bar years before me.
03/04/2012 22:20 BST
The media, society and relaxed licensing laws all have a part to play in the rise in eating disorders or alcohol-related diseases, but I believe the problem goes much deeper than that. From my experience, recovery from addiction lies at our core - with those deep, painful feelings that drive us to drink, drugs or food - and not on the surface.
21/02/2012 22:52 GMT
In a stylish corner of London, a stone's throw from Fortnum & Mason, Cartier and Louis Vuitton, lies a collection of rifles, revolvers, bullets and hand grenades. But this isn't a police warehouse, an army storage unit or even a street gang's secret cache - it's an exhibition by a Mozambican sculptor who turns weapons into works of art.
17/02/2012 22:43 GMT
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